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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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I lost my baby girl

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Breevandercamp1750 · 19/09/2011 11:22

I gave birth at 9.51am yesterday to my precious baby girl. I already had her name picked out, Tilly Rose. I feel so empty and lost.

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LizaTarbucksNonSmokingAuntie · 19/09/2011 13:03

I adore the name :), littlemad's favourite teacher has a daughter called Tilly and littlemad has made me promise that if we have a girl we will call her Tilly too.

Arcadie · 19/09/2011 13:04

I followed your thread about your (D)H and am just shell shocked to see this. I'm so sorry Bree and hope that your friends, Mum and PIL can be there for you. Beautiful name for I'm sure a beautiful perfect little girl.

MortaIWombat · 19/09/2011 13:06

It was not your fault. You poor poor thing. I'm really sorry, and I hope you can be kind to yourself, and otehrs can be too.

biglips · 19/09/2011 13:25

im so so sorry to hear. {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

deemented · 19/09/2011 13:28

I'm sorry to hear this.

There are other life lines - SANDS and BLISS are both particularly good.

noisymonkiesmum · 19/09/2011 13:36

So Sorry Bree, all I can say is I know someone who found massive comfort talking to people on the SANDS forum, or just keep talking here, there will always be ears. Lots of love and thoughts xx

kat2504 · 19/09/2011 13:47

I'm so sorry. I lurked a bit on your other thread and you have been through such a hard time recently, but this on top of it is just beyond awful.
I hope you can get some support from some of the organisations people have mentioned on here.

Melindaaa · 19/09/2011 14:06

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Message deleted by Mumsnet.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 19/09/2011 14:08

Melinda, FFS just email MNHQ if you think that. Why on earth would you take even the smallest chance that you're wrong?

PacificDogwood · 19/09/2011 14:11

Bree, many condolences from me too.

No words, but you and your daughter Tilly (lovely name) are in my thoughts.

Melinda, if others haven't already, I've reported your post - bereavement is the last place anybody should be shouting troll IMO.

boohoohoo · 19/09/2011 14:13

Do we have to go down this road again? If you think someone is a troll go to MNHQ, don't sprout on the thread, it's really unpleasant.

ColdSancerre · 19/09/2011 14:13

Bree has been on mn for years, I remember her name from way back. If I were going through a horrible time I might not be posting on too many other threads either.

boohoohoo · 19/09/2011 14:15

Sorry. Bree so so sorry, much love to you xx

GwendolineMaryLacey · 19/09/2011 14:19

I'm so sorry to hear your news Bree. I'm 25 weeks and I can't imagine what you're going through. Nothing more I can say that hasn't been said already. People have made some great suggestions and there are some very special people on the bereavement thread. I hope you find some comfort somewhere xx

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Breevandercamp1750 · 19/09/2011 14:19

I post on MN when I need advice and support, when I feel I have no one else to turn to. I don't post on many other threads as I don't usually have the time. I do comment on MN bits that pop up on Facebook.

Thank you charming lady for making things so very much harder for me. And for what it's worth my DS2 was left in my arms for over an hour when he was born at 32 weeks when he should have been stabilised and tended to, just like my DS1 who was born at 30 weeks.

Thank you to those who have offered support when I truly need it but right now I can't deal with a smart arse bitch who knows nothing.

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Bluetinkerbell · 19/09/2011 14:21

Dear Bree I am so so sorry for your loss of your beautiful little girl Tilly Rose!
Please be gentle on yourself, and I hope your mum gets to you soon so you have someone to lean on.
I, too have lost a little girl, back in June, at 20+4 days, she was very very tiny as she had a chromosomal disorder and therefore didn't grow properly!
I hope they will find a reason why this happened to you, as that makes it easier to understand.

perfumedlife · 19/09/2011 14:28

I am so very sorry Bree. I read your other thread, I just don't know what to say. Bless your little girl, what a beautiful name.

kat2504 · 19/09/2011 14:28

melindaa how horrid. Even if that is what you really think then ignore. Don't take the chance of being wrong. And don't ever come on the miscarriage thread and make comments like that again. People are on this board because they are suffering.

bree I'm so sorry someone has made things harder for you. The rest of us will still be here to offer words of support when you need them. I've only had early losses so I can't begin to imagine what you must be feeling.

snice · 19/09/2011 14:29

I remember Bree-she has been on here for years. Highly inappropriate behaviour Melindaaa . Did you think you were being very clever?

I'm so sorry for your loss Bree

Tillyscoutsmum · 19/09/2011 14:33

I'm so sorry for your loss Bree Tilly Rose is a beautiful name

Mama5isalive · 19/09/2011 19:05

So very sorry for your loss! i cant imagine what you and your family are going through right now. I pray you get all the love and support (in RL)and have some time to really deal with your emotions!
Tilly Rose is a beautiful name for a beautiful angel.
Thought and Prayers to you xx

HotSummerNights · 19/09/2011 19:10

Bree I'm so sorry for your loss xx

LittleWhiteWolf · 19/09/2011 19:13

I'm so sad for you Bree. You aren't having an easy time of it, my dear, are you? Gather as much support as you can...will your parents be with you soon?
You chose a very beautiful name. x

(I didn't see the deleted post before deletion, but ignore it please. You don't need any additional stress right now.)

Squiglettsmummy2bx · 19/09/2011 20:14

Bree you have been in my thoughts all day & I hope you know that this isn't your fault. Please don't let nasty people get to you either, you have way more important things to think about & as you can see from all the posts many many nice people are thinking of you.
I hope you have been able to spend some time with little Tilly & to create some memories with her.
Lots of love x

DaydreamDolly · 19/09/2011 20:19

You poor poor girl. My heart bleeds for you. Tilly is a beautiful name and I am so sorry for your tragic loss.
She will be warm as she will still feel your arms around her.
I am so so sorry.

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