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climb aboard this bus called i was on "dec 11, jan 12, feb 12" etc- hear me now!!

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Mama5isalive · 18/07/2011 23:43

I thought i would just start this thread for all of us who have sadly lost our seats on our previous buses, but still want to talk and share and move on in all different areas!

Please swipe your cards, pay your fare and share!!!!!!!!Wink
all are welcome to the journey ending in "moving on street", "TTC avenue" or "let just wait and see walk "or ", "Its finally happened for me junction"

OP posts:
Catsycat · 19/05/2012 10:50

Count I'm glad to hear you are coping. You definitely are a strong woman, whether you admit it or not!!! I'm glad your faith, DH and friends are supporting you. Your support and that of others on this thread has made such a difference to me in dealing with my own loss. xx

wifey6 · 19/05/2012 12:08

catsycat....thank you...everything you have said makes sense & I appreciate our wise words.

Countmyblessings · 19/05/2012 16:38

Thanks Catsy- I'm so happy that very soon (monday right)you will be holding you much wanted baby!!!!
Please come back and share.
Just a bit gutted that I'm still here waiting to get pregnant while most of the old crew are on the straight and see the finish line!
Praying it will be mine and others waiting time real soon!!
X

wifey6 · 19/05/2012 17:44

Oo catsycat....how exciting that you will be holding your baby in your arms Monday. Sending you all my best wishes for Monday.

Catsycat · 19/05/2012 21:52

Thanks wifey and count - that means a lot.

tumblebug · 19/05/2012 22:17

Wifey and Zoey so sorry for your losses. I found talking about it here, and in RL, really helped. Like Catsy said, I'll never forget, my loss will always be there, but I am focusing on the future. At my brother's wedding a couple of weeks ago, I was so happy to be there with DH, DS and my lovely bump, but a little bit of me was thinking that I might have been there with a little baby. But then it wouldn't have been this baby, who I am so looking forward to meeting.

Count been thinking of you, I hope you are starting to heal. I really hope and believe it will be your turn soon, but sorry it's such a long journey for you.

Catsy best wishes for Monday, look forward to hearing your news!

I'm 26 weeks now, and finally starting to get my head around the fact there'll hopefully be a baby at the end of this, and starting to look forward to new baby cuddles. It's amazing how much my mc has affected my confidence and enjoyment in this pregnancy, I think I have been protecting myself by not thinking about it too much.

wifey6 · 19/05/2012 22:31

tumblebug....that's wonderful about your pregnancy. I feel petrified at the thought of another pregnancy as this was a missed mc...no sign there was anything wrong. I couldn't go in to another pregnancy with fear in my heart. Sad
I am missing my baby...What I should of been doing at this many weeks- we should of had midwife this week. DH is oblivious to me struggling emotionally...Sad
Sorry...rambling now x

tumblebug · 20/05/2012 00:00

Thanks Wifey. I was only a few days from my 12 week scan when I started bleeding. I had an early scan this time, and was so nervous that they would find nothing, only started to relax a bit after 20 week scan and when feeling regular movements, but still frightened of something going wrong. I knew rationally that the chances were it would be OK. I'm sure you'll know when you're ready to try again.

It's natural to miss your baby - you were bonding and planning for a new little person for all those weeks. My DH was equally oblivious (outwardly at least). To be fair, I probably didn't say much either. Not sure if he even remembered the due date. Sounds like you need lots of hugs from your DH....

Moominsarescary · 20/05/2012 17:18

Not long now then catsy good luck

Wow tumble 26 weeks, where has the time gone!

count I'm still waiting too, although we didn't realy start ttc until after what should have been Jacobs due date in feb. Fingers x it will happen for all of us soon.

zoeymlucas · 21/05/2012 09:44

Really grateful for the support on here its really made me sit back and think and finally let it all sink in! And I can finally admit that I need to go back to doctor and talk to someone as my defence mechanisims have slowly but surely come back in my life since my MC. Keeping it brief I had a hip replacement in 2009 and was sexually assulted by a member of staff in theatre recovery who was sent to prison for 5 years (but comes out next month after 2). After this I stopped going out and couldnt put myself in situations where I wasnt in 100% control or I felt vunrable.
Since my MC I blamed my self that I couldnt control it and there was nothing I could do to stop it so I have slowly gone back in my shell and started stying in and avoiding people and places!

Also With my medical condition (have an incompetiant cervix so my 2 DS's were born at 28 and 33 weeks after AWFUL pregnancies) I sort of blamed myslef that not only could I not control it and protect my baby it was because I physically cant do it! But being on here I realise its not my fault its something that happens to so many people but we just dont talk about it on a day to day basis.

Catsycat · 21/05/2012 21:21

Zuleika Seren was born by elcs at 10:06 today. We're both doing well. Feeling very lucky to have her.

zoey just read your post, and so sorry to hear what you've been through. Hope you can find a way to work through it...

wifey6 · 21/05/2012 21:26

catsycat...congratulations!!! I have checked the thread a few times today to see if there was any news. I am so happy for you. You cherish & enjoy every second..Bear

Countmyblessings · 21/05/2012 21:40

Congratulations, congratulations wonderful news to finally get on this thread!!! Lovely name also! Enjoy all the baby cuddles and big cyber kiss from me!!!! Please keep checking in although I know how hard it is with a newborn!!!!!
All the best xxxx

puzzletree · 22/05/2012 12:42

Wow this thread has got busy again.

So sorry for your losses Zoey and wifey, (zoey on top of your other horrific experience it's no wonder you're so shaken) glad you both found your way here though, it really does help to talk with others who understand what you're going through. Allow yourselves to be sad and take time to come to terms with the miscarriage, but hope your future holds lots of good news too....

For you too Moomins and Count, you both really deserve a sticky BFP very soon x

Catsy CONGRATULATIONS!!!! You did it! A new daughter with a gorgeous name, so happy for you :) Enjoy getting to know her x

tumblebug wow, 26 weeks already :) know what you mean about lack of confidence in this post-mc pregnancy, hang on in there, not long until baby snuggles x

All's well here, 6 weeks until the anniversary of the mc :( but that also means about 6 weeks until this new baby will arrive :) Love to you all xxx

Catsycat · 26/05/2012 19:20

Thanks for the good wishes everyone. A few months ago, I found it hard to believe I'd be holding a newborn again, but here we are... I hope everyone else will be this lucky :).

Puzzle 6 weeks will fly by! So glad everything is going well. Tumble so pleased you're doing well too. I was still nervous until the moment I saw Zuleika, had so many little scares, and went for monitoring twice due to reduced movement (had an anterior placenta which meant feeling movement was difficult sometimes).

Really happy she is here safely, though tbh have had lots of tears too, because having her has brought home the loss last year, and that there was a baby I never got to hold... there is still part of me that will probably always be wondering about, and missing, the baby we lost. Am focusing on being as good a mum as I can to all 3 DDs, and appreciating what I have, as I said I feel really fortunate :) xxx

tumblebug · 27/05/2012 20:54

Catsy, rather belated congratulations! So happy for you, glad all safe and well.

Puzzle I feel like I've been pregnant forever, finally feel we're getting somewhere though! Like you, baby's due exactly a year after mc, so although it will be a sad anniversary, I hope there'll be lots of happiness too.

moomins and count thinking of you both, really hoping for bfp's for you soon.

zoey sounds like you've had a really tough time, hope you can start working through it. MN is a great place to come for a rant and some support. Like you say, MC is bad luck and completely outside your control, but knowing that doesn't make it easier - you have to give yourself time to hurt and grieve, and when you're ready you'll be able to move on but still remember.

Countmyblessings · 14/06/2012 16:09

Puzzle & Tumble - how you guys doing? I hope all is well!
Catsy - hows life with you, I'm sure your enjoying every
Minute of sleepless nites and night time feeds!!!!
Still here plodding alone, not return to work don't feel strong enough yet but enjoying being at home getting on with things I couldn't do before!

Catsycat · 26/06/2012 15:39

Just stopping by to see how everyone is.

Puzzle, hoping to hear some good news soon.

Tumble, hope things are still going well.

Count, hope you are healing well, and getting stronger as time goes on. Glad you are enjoying being at home.

All is well here. DD3 is more settled, so I'm getting a bit more sleep!

It's a year since the mc for me this week (my ERPC was on 29th June last year). In some ways it seems to have gone really quickly, in other ways I can't believe how far I've come since then. It's been a bit of a journey... thanks to all of you for the support and sharing. I don't know what I would have done without you.

Countmyblessings · 26/06/2012 19:20

Hi Catsy- as you can see the thread has gone quiet!
Great that your enjoying motherhood and that your settling into a routine!
I'm still dealing and getting stronger each day!
Facing my giants at the moment!
Holding off TTC until August so all I can do is wait and see!
While off really wanted to change my career so I can spend more time with my family!

Catsycat · 26/06/2012 20:11

Hi Count, yes I thought it looked a bit empty in here! Hope you manage to change your career - it would be great if you can make something positive out of what has happened.

Countmyblessings · 27/06/2012 11:42

It's amazing as this thread is coming upto being a year old!
So much has happened and we have all survived in different
Ways!!!
It's sad to see so much threads popping up addressing the same things we have been through and some worse!
But some great follow up success stories bringing tears to your eyes but joy to your soul!
Best wishes to you Catsy!!!!!
Hope everyone else is ok! And I still watch out for new posts on here!!

Moominsarescary · 07/07/2012 18:57

Hi everyone, just poping on to say I finally got my bfp! I'm now 8+1 and everything looked fine on the early scan x

Moominsarescary · 07/07/2012 18:58

Funnily enough, due date was the same as Jacob should have been until they changed it after the scan

Countmyblessings · 08/07/2012 00:22

Moomin- Congrats,Congrats and thanks for sharing!
When are you due!!!!!
Hand holding all the way! Pom- Pom as we cheer each other on!!!!!!
Yes I too got my BFP!!!!!

Moominsarescary · 09/07/2012 15:50

Yey that's great news!! 20th of feb is due date, when's yours x