Recurrent Buns Graduates - Pregnancy and Beyond

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Thought it was about time we had a new home for all those lovely ladies who used to frequent the original Recurrent Buns thread, or anyone else who has been through the hideous journey of miscarriage, recurrent miscarriage, infertility, testing etc. and now finds themselves either pregnant and in need of hand-holding (or better yet) with their long-awaited bundle(s) of joy.

I know it perhaps seems a little inappropriate to start a thread in the miscarriage topic but it still seems the most relevant spot for those of us who haven't yet completed the journey - and nowhere else really seemed right or fair to everyone.

I do hope you'll come along and say hello. I do miss you all!

glittery soooo cute! And the hair!!!

LAF wonderful news am so chuffed for you :)

glittery super cute baby you have there

Quick update from me. back from my scan. fluid levels still high but lower than they were. need to go back for rescan in two weeks again at 38/40. no go on a section but i will be induced at term, he wont let me go overdue. baby apparently is a high end of normal but no where near massive, it just the fluid that is making me big. he said that in the next few weeks i can go in whenever if i begin to get breathless as he anticipates it'll start to affect me quite badly on the dizzy/breathless front. but if i can manage and things are the same in a fortnight then i'll be induced if nothing happens naturally.

he also said something about when baby is born he'll be examined by a paed before he's allowed his first feed because PH can do something to his throat? I didn't really understand and his english wasnt great so that's something to chat with CMW about on monday when i see her again.

Baby apparently has lots of hair and on the scan he opened his mouth and poked out his tongue at us... awww

ooops fell of the thread. Just snatching a moment to say "HOORAY!!!" to LAF brilliant brilliant news, and give Lunatic and overdue cuddle, Daisy's balloon memorial sounds so fitting and nice.

. and good luck with everything Coconuts HTH.

no news from me, just starting to slow down a lot now at 30 weeks, but still feeling good. xxx

Well done LAF. Happy waiting Coconuts and good luck to everyone. Reading this thread has been so good this last horrid 2 years with all my mcs and grief that weve all had. Just wanted to announce the safe arrival of baby Jacob on Tues, 8lbs5oz, perfect. 4 hour labour and all good. What a long road, and what a lovely ending/beginning. I can hardly quite believe it. Thx all

Juggling mama congratulations, thats fantastic news. xxx Hope you have a speedy recovery, enjoy all those lovely newborn cuddles

I have just managed to get my driving test date bought forward so instead of being 38 weeks I will be 33, much more doable! AND, I have just found a supermarket in Costa Rica that has started doing internet deliveries - heaven!!!

love to all xxx

Congratulations jugglingmama!!!

And well done mummya on getting an earlier driving test.

I'm wibbling a bit this weekend. I'm 7+5 today - so smack bang in the middle of mc#3 and mc#4 milestones. I've only had one day of nausea last Tuesday but have been fine since. Very paranoid about every twinge of back ache, cramping. Every trickle of cm has me dashing to the loo to check for blood. Boobs don't feel as heavy but maybe that's my imagination. I'm at a wedding today so I'm desperately hoping I'll be distracted for most of the day but I was at one yesterday and every minute I had to myself my brain was working overtime figuring out what to do if I started miscarrying.
And today I have a headache. Which I what I had the day I started mc-ing in the last pregnancy. Hoping it's just because I had a late night last night. Still don't feel particularly pg so as I'm not looking forward to the scan on weds. Have to get it over with I suppose.

for digi, this is probably the worst bit, hang in there. Hopefully by Wed you will feel a bit better for having beaten at least one of the those milestones and will get some positive feedback from the size for dates info. Treat yourself in any way you can in the meantime, nows the time you need to give yourself a little extra TLC. xxx

Just popped in to see how everyone is getting on...it's been a busy summer holiday, can't believe the kids are back at school tomorrow.
So brilliant to hear your news LAF. I'm so pleased that everything is going well for you this time.
Glittery your little girl is just beautiful.
Coconuts will keep checking in in the next couple of weeks to hear your
announcement. I hope you're managing to get enough rest.
jugglingmama I don't think our paths have crossed but thank you for sharing your news, its just unbelieveable what everyone on here has been through and reading yours and others news is inspiring and gives hope.
I'm 25 weeks now and still feel like I've got such a long way to go. Hes a little fidget bum though so that gives me lots of reassurance. I don't think the worry will ever leave.
Big Hello to everyone. x

Well it's all going on :(

Had a complete breakdown in with the CMW today. She isn't happy that consultant hasn't put a plan into action yet. She wants me back to see her again Monday and will then send me straight through for scan #427. I am not measuring 43cm. Nobody even gets to 43 weeks pregnant so am officially off the charts.

I'm so scared everythings going to go wrong at the final stretch.

Petrified my waters are going to go on their own and I won't get to hospital in time.

She said there is no way they will induce me at term if baby is wrong way up so doesn't understand why they quashed my suggestion of ELCS.

The nasal-gastric tube thing sounds easy though, so am less worried about that now than I was.

So Monday is my 24th birthday and will be spent in hospital. :( Can barely walk now, let alone breathe. DD has gone to preschool full time as from today so major wibbles about that upskittling everything. Major guilt at asking my mum for help as ILs are busy all week next week. Mum still not 100% in herself so hate to worry her.

One thing after another.

On a positive note, I have complete nesting syndrome, everything is ready, washed, built and in place.... I just need my baby here... NOW.

Sorry for me, me , me and not catching up

coconuts I'm empathising with you, (although I've never been heavily pregnant). I've read that if you are struggling to breathe, the time must be near!

I can't understand their treatment of you. If the baby is that big, surely they would induce you or opt for CS.

IKWYM about thinking about inconveniencing others, but your needs are pretty great right now, and they should come first!

Thinking of you.

Thanks LAF If I'm struggling to breathe then the polyhydramnios is getting worse and they want me admitted so trying to struggle on. Just need to hang on til Monday.

They said they will induce me at term, no sooner. CMW said they won't touch me with a bargepole before 38weeks so if I can do my best to persuade them for ELCS at 38 then I only have two weeks left but not sure they'll hear any of it.

CMW doesn't understand why they told me they'd induce at full term when there is no way I'll have a head down baby, and obviously they'd induce a breech so CS will be what happens so why don't they just book it and be done with?

I hate all this mithering and complaining about things. It's do difficult to be grateful and happy and gracious about things.

Pretty soon, you'll be heavily pregnant and complaining here too!

I spoke to my mum on the phone this evening and she has been feeling better for a few days and will be taking me in on Monday with no problems and is prepared to have shared care of DD with DH so DH can keep working if I get admitted.

justmee will be having her baby pretty soon too - I talk to her on FB and she is booked in next week!

lucky the worry never goes but it does get easier, honest. The mentalling kind of gets taken over by the need to get prepared. And you are in the lovely stage at the minute where things are nice and neat and you can still move freely haha!

jugglingmama Our paths haven't crossed either but thank you for thinking of me and congratulations on borth of Jacob - love that name :)

lunatic frazzled julez glittery mummy Hope you are all ok too :)

Coconuts Like your CMW, I'm baffled as to why anyone would even consider an induction if the baby is breech. Sounds completely bonkers to me, particularly in light of the other concerns about fluid and size. There is also the chance that you could go into early labour given your measurements, so I'd put your foot down and beg for the ELCS on the grounds of your psychological wellbeing if nothing else. Big hugs. These medical people know how to scare us don't they? You aren't being me, me, me and no one would expect you to be gracious at this point. Vent away! Send our best to justmee - unless she's lurking in which case she can read that for herself!

Juggling Congratulations on the safe arrival of Jacob. I do love happy endings. My DS is a Jacob too!

lucky You're right that the worry doesn't leave, but it's an easier worry in some respects once they're here!

Lunatic Sorry to hear about your cat. We recently had to have our family dog put to sleep. Heartbreaking decision. She was my sister's dog, but very much part of the family. Did you go a bit mushy dropping off DD1 at school. DS is only going part-time as of next week, but I already feel a bit wobbly.

Mummy I have everything crossed for you on the driving test front. It was one of the most nerve-wracking things I have ever done as I'm a bit phobic about driving, still. Having said that, I would be lost without it now. It's a very worthwhile skill. Good luck!

Oh digi you have my total empathy on the symptom spotting. It's awful, but you are at the hardest stage and it does get easier. Hope you are feeling better today. I remember the 7 to 8 week point as if it was yesterday.

Not much to report at this end except I am officially sleepless. Little Miss has me up all hours feeding, feeding, feeding. I am going to try to feed her myself for as long as possible, but she's mega, so I may have to admit defeat and supplement her soon. Mummy is desperate to get some sleep. I feel permanently drunk! Having said that, I wouldn't change it for the world!

Just popping in to let you all know the scan went well today. Baby measured 8+3 and had a strong heartbeat. So this is me at the furthest along I've ever been since ds. Although each pg has progressed further each time so am still cautious. But very relieved about this morning.

Can I go back to pretending it's not happening?

well done digi!! just try to believe..i know its hard..not long til the 12 wk scan..or if you want an 11wk one+v thorough tests etc all in one go, i went to the fetal medical clinic on harley st. best £150 i ever spent..the worry after 4 mcs had me on edge this whole pgcy. yesterday my little boy was a week old (tho only due today) and i cuddled him on my chest as he slept..and i just cried, the relief of him being the baby that finally made it..small, perfect, newborn..and the relief of not having to be strong, try again, pretend to myself that all those mcs wouldnt beat me etc..peace at last..wishing you all the luck in the world x

Thank you jugglingmama - must be so amazing to be looking at your baby right now. I hope I get there too.

I have another scan at St Marys in two weeks, then if all is well I get transferred back to my local hospital for the 12 week scan.

digi that's great that St Mary's is looking after you. Was Vanessa your sonographer? She was the most important person to me over the last 6 weeks.

I hope I can be in your position too juggling

Thinking of you coconuts

Hi all :)

lunatic am very prepared to bring out the big guns and cry a few tears to see if that works ;) bring on Monday. Sorry to hear about your cat, but glad DD1 is getting on ok at school.

glittery I will send your regards to Justmee. She is moving house this week too and has her section date for Wednesday I think so she is a busy bee. I'm sure she won't mind me telling you :) but I will leave any announcements to her obviously.

Yes these HCPs just seem to be scaremongering me. If I'd never known any different I'd just be an uncomfortable mess, not a concerned and anxious one. I wish I'd never known about these issues. Ignorance is bliss, although not always safe so I don't know.... Just so relieved to have a decent CMW, I'm lucky in that respect.

Glad to hear all is well at your end, even though little miss is keeping mummy awake, it's ok to be that tired when you're looking squinting at a gorgeous baby

digi So pleased for you :) One day at a time hey. And yes, pretend it isn't real all you need, it's the only thing that got me through the weeks. Even now I have days where I pretend

jugglin that brought a little tear to my eye. Must be an amazing feeling, a feeling I cannot wait for. That relief when my baby comes out is going to be immense, I can feel it building up inside me with anticipation.

LAF thank you :)

Hope everyone else is well :)

Not much to report here, just general discomfort, few niggles and pains, stretchmarks are bleeding they are that bad :( and I'm scratching them like a dog so that doesn't help. DD busy at preschool, DH busy at work. He is having to do some extra hours to cover someone whose gf has just had a mc so that's kind of made me feel a bit sad too. The memories of the years before, and the hope of the years to come.

Have been very emotional the last few days and feel really clingy to DH. feel like I don't want to go anywhwre on my own. Good old hormones hey. I have a feeling things are gearing up to happen naturally so hope they listen to me on Monday. Tmi - have had the runs today - alot - and have random pains, I just generally feel different. I had a bit of a wet feeling earlier too, but worked out for myself it was just discharge so I'm back and forth to the loo to check that. The waiting is the worst.

hang in there girls..coconuts, you are sooo close. and digi, you will get there..im v emotional looking at my little baba+smelling his wee head, hes like a little curled up bear cub jst now , so so sweet...think of an image like that, rather than all these nasty clinical things..i feel stressed for you all just remembering all that...hope is all we have. hang in there xx

evening all. big apologies for not posting much. I'm exhausted atm so not up for an epic catch up :(

E is teething (she has 4 front teeth, very cute) so she has been so whiney. she's also trying her best to drive me insane with throwing herself around the furniture. lots of fun here lately.

digi so very glad things are going well for you. (I'll go back to pretending it's not happening )

coconuts I don't even know where to start with you my dear! I think tears are a good way to go. how's the footie team? tbh i haven't checked mine for weeks!

sf has L got to grips with the school being a permanent thing yet?

glittery I is adorable how are the sore boobies?!

off to bed now as I am half asleep on the laptop and I am expecting another early start with happy guts E tomorrow.

night all.

Hello ladies, I wanted to pop in and tell you that I've had my 12 wk scan and things are looking good. Nuchal measurement was 1.3mm, so I'm feeling quite relaxed. Baby continues to be 5 days ahead of actual dates, so feeling chuffed.

For the first time in 18 months, I feel truly happy. I think that this time, I might actually be pg. I'd love to be able to see my baby every day. 6 months seems to be a long time to wait to meet him. I need every single day to get ready to be a mother though.

Thank you all for your support over the last year! I wasn't sure if it would ever happen for me.

Thinking of you coconuts hope that they will give you ELCS soon.

laf very happy to hear your news.

hi ladies

was wondering if you could help me? please could you have a look at my post in the testing thread and give me some advice?

i am getting all the results from my tests later this month and was looking for advice of what to ask etc to get the most from the appointment.

i know you have all been there so looking to learn from your experiences.

I think it's beter to keep all the reponses on the other thread so that others can read them too.

thanks in advance!!

pebs first thing to do is write a list of any questions you have. Make sure you have the list in your hand when you go in. i made the mistake of leaving mine in my bag and forgot all the things I wanted answered.

Are you going to alone at the appt? My dp couldn't make it to our results appt and i wish i'd taken a pen to jot down some of the figures my cons quoted.

apart from that don't let them rush you and if possible ask for print outs of your results. It makes it easier to compare results if you ever have more tests.

good luck with the appt