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Recurrent Buns - Miscarriage Testing and Beyond! Part three..!

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Julezboo · 23/11/2010 12:52

Not so imaginative as lunatic !

Part One HERE

Part Two HERE

There are a mixture of Pg ladies, new BFP's (YAY) and new ladies who have sadly had to join us and are going through testing. Lots of OMW's and hand holding here!

Sit down, grab a cushion and a hot choc and get comfortable.

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Ladybee · 05/01/2011 08:56

Hello (gulp) - I'm a little bit pregnant!

I'm a bundle of nerves and anticipating trying to get hold of consultant is enough to make me want to hide under the covers. But there we go, one hurdle jumped! Lots more to go.

Now, hopefully if this bundle of potential gets to join the queue maybe mumatrons hub would like to budge up to make room?

Eek!

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts · 05/01/2011 09:04

OMG Lady Grin Congratulations!!

This really is turning out to be a lucky thread! Send some vibes my way... I'm leaving in 30 minutes...

So pleased for you!!

Be back later tonight xx

Julezboo · 05/01/2011 09:39

YAY Ladybee :o Congratulations!!!!!

Good Luck lovely

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mumatron · 05/01/2011 12:22

congrats lady will keep everything except my legs firmly crossed for you.

still here, still in pain and still leaking :(

mw is coming sometime today to do 2nd sweep, hope it works this time. or it's induction tomorrow :(

MummyAbroad · 05/01/2011 14:08

Massive congrats LadyBGrin Grin Grin when do you see consultant? Hope you dont have too long a wait in front of you xxx

coconuts good luck today!!

mumatron Oh you poor thing, this is going on a long time isnt it? Hope you are able to keep your spirits up. I'm guessing everyone you know is suggesting ways to advance labour.. and you are probably quite sick of it by now...but sorry, but here are some more!WinkGrin Two things that worked for me (when a sweep, and everything else didnt) were Caster Oil (diarrea in labour is NOT PLEASANT) and doing lots of visualisation and affirmations.
Choose one to suit your personality:

Hippy: "I am opening up like a flower"
Crude: "I have a huge bucket fanny!"
Practical: Make a circle with your hands about 10cm size and say "My cervix is opening to THIS big" substitute with your favourite 10cm size round object.
Hope it works!!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Lunatic best of luck with the scan. 30 weeks is great!!!

notsobarrenmorebrokenbrook · 05/01/2011 16:12

Hello all, thought I would just pop my head in and say congrats to glittery and again to bee wonderful news ladies. Here's to both of your growing beans, fingers tightly crossed x

Apologies for not catching up properly but I've missed so much!

mumatron is bubs still playing imcomingimnotcoming games? Hope you're doing OK. (sorry, but I am laughing at ma and her ways of getting you to open up!) Grin

julez and frazzled hope the bubs are still cooking nicely and you are both holding up OK too.

Sorry for lack of posts, have been wallowing in a pit of my own uselessness and despair slightly which isn't good for anyone so stayed clear. Had my first appt at St Mary's through really quickly and went in on 21st Dec for first round of tests. They think I may have fibroids so have to go in for an HSG in March (which I am not looking forward to one BIT!)

I go back for results (and hopefully some sort of plan of action) on 1st March at St Mary's. God I hope there's something they can do!

Love to all x

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts · 05/01/2011 17:47

Hi all I am back from hospital. What a long day. I officially hate buses and rain.

Appointment went well. Height, weight and BP all fine. Consultant said he is convinced it is definitely PCOS although needs to run more bloods to be sure. So I have to make the nightmare trip again in a week as they can't be done at my GP surgery.

He checked all my hair growth Blush and read my history that I'd written. He even photocopied it to keep in my file. He let me ask all my questions and explained lots (even though I knew alot of it already).

I have a follow up appointment coming in the post for 6 weeks time to discuss the blood results that they will then have and then do an action plan regarding treatment. he said he wouldn't like to discuss Metformin/Clomid until the blood results are back and he can be 100% sure although he would put money on it.

He said the positives are that I will have had PCOS forever and I have become pregnant 3 times with it. Something I hadn't actually considered before. He said it is unlikely that my bi-cornuate uterus had anything to do with my miscarriages as it usually has a negative effect on a pregnancy much earlier on than I had.

So blood tests in a week which will be a month since my last period (providing my period doesn't come in the meantime - if it does then I have to go the next day so the tests are done cycle day 2). then follow up in 6 weeks. All in all a positive appointment.

It was freezing cold and raining outside so once we got inside my hair went frizzy and I went bright red and hot so must have sat there looking a bit foolish!!

lady Congrats again :) any news on consultant yet?

mumatron Hope the sweep went well and actually moves it along a bit. Did she say whether you were dilating at all after all these pains?

barren Hi nice to hear from you again although I'm not sure whether we actually spoke much before. Hope the HSG goes well, March will come around quickly :) and then hopefully you can get a decent plan in place.

MummyAbroad · 05/01/2011 19:02

Hi BB I love the name change Smile

Have you seen this thread is conception about HSG's?

The doctor who treated me for AS, Doctor Adrian Lower is also a fibroids specialist (he started out just doing fibroids) You could email him and ask him to review your case, you might be able to get some useful info for free. [email protected] Sorry you have been feeling low. Looks like you are headed in the right direction though, towards a good diagnosis and treatment.

coconuts sounds like it went really well Smile (apart from the travel, poor you all soggy and frizzy!) I'm glad you got all your questions answered and that you are getting taken seriously and a plan put it place.

banana thank you for the good wishes over getting a nice doctor - it worked!!

Just got back from seeing my new gynecologist and I actually like him! He spent ages listening to me, seemed really open minded and willing to learn about AS did two really long detailed scans and put them on a CD so I can pass them on to the specialist in London and whipped out my coil so quickly and painlessly I gasped in surprise! I am now technically fertile again Grin Grin Grin

mumatron · 05/01/2011 19:24

hi all, not up to a big post, still in a fair bit of pain from sweep. am 3 cm dilated and even though i don't think i will go in before tomorrow morning, i'm glad i had the sweep.

should hopefully make the induction easier, they will probably go straight for breaking my waters.

hopefully i will going in early in the morning, aslong as there is a bed avail. will post before going.

Julezboo · 05/01/2011 19:38

Good Luck for tomorrow mumatron hope its easy for you :) Cant wait for news. Wanted to post as Im heading to bed now before I go insane with tireness x

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mumatron · 05/01/2011 19:43

thanks julez doubt i'll be able to sleep much myself but i'm off to try now.

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stillfrazzled · 05/01/2011 20:59

going to have to keep this short as on rubbish hossie computer.

DS born last night by CS. scan yday showed poor blood flow and IUGR - he was 35 + 3 but only measuring 32/33.

he's in high dependency - only weighed 3lbs 5ozs. breathing on own and drs seem quite pleased so far but am heartbroken and terrified.

please send good vibes, prayers etc for Finn Matthew. will be back when i can.

MummyAbroad · 05/01/2011 21:07

stillfrazzled oh bless you and little Finn Matthew!! I have tears in my eyes reading this! all my prayers are for you both xxxx

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts · 05/01/2011 21:27

frazzled congratulations on the birth of your baby boy. I'm sure he is gorgeous and I love his name. He is in the best place and I am thinking of you all :) Hugs to you xxx

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Glitterybits · 05/01/2011 21:55

Oh my God I have no idea where to start. Sorry for being away for so long. I've been manically busy with work and my feet haven't touched the ground.

stillfrazzled Huge congratulations on becoming our first graduate! I'm so sorry to hear of the complications and, obviously you will be terrified and heartbroken, but the fact that he is breathing on his own is such a good sign. Hang in there. Prayers are being said and will continue to be said until you are safely home. If he's anywhere near as tough as his Mummy, he'll be fighting away like a little champion. What a gorgeous name too. Huge hugs for you. Wish I could come and give you a squeeze. Thinking of you.

mumatron I really hope you dilate a bit more overnight. Once you get to 4cm you're considered to be in established labour, so they might not have to intervene in evil ways. Mind you, I bet you're ready for them to. You get past the point of caring once you get to this stage. Fingers crossed for you. I remember how desperate I felt all too well.

Julez Hope you get a good night's sleep. I can't believe how nail-biting this thread has become. I'm beside myself and feel terrible for neglecting you all for the past few days. So much seems to be happening!

Ladybee YYYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!! Wonderful news. Christ this is far too much for a pregnant woman's wobbly hormones to take. I can't see the screen for tears now. I go through every possible emotion every five mins anyway ladies and I don't need anyone's help with that!

BB Lovely to hear from you again. I had a HSG in August, so fire away if you have any questions. I'll do my best to answer them for you.

Mummy Pleased you've had such a positive meeting with your doctor and the coil removal was painless and speedy. I think anyone who can do procedures like that with minimal discomfort can only increase your confidence levels. Is it wrong that a small bit of me thinks you might actually be super fertile now all your pipes are clean and shiny! No harm in hopping on the good foot and doing the bad thing to find out! Grin

Coconuts Excellent news on what sounds like a very positive appt for you too. I'm not surprised you were told things you already knew, but it's heartening to know that your doctor agrees with you! Must be something of a relief that someone is listening! I wouldn't worry about your rain-induced state. I imagine they've seen a LOT worse in their time! Really pleased you have a plan now. I know it's a long-winded process, but it's good that they want to get all the testing ruled out before giving you a drug you might not need. From personal experience, you probably will, but it is nice to know they're doing it all properly. Suggests the level of care will be better to me.

Lunatic What time is your appt on Friday? I want to send psychic "all is well" vibes at the right time. How are you feeling? I think I'd be climbing the walls in anticipation. Hope you have recovered from your jab now. Was it the swine flu jab? If so, can you get it at any stage of pregnancy?

digi you have my every sympathy with the long cycle saga and mine weren't even as long as yours. It's such a rollercoaster of emotions and it's not even as though you can take the month in two-week chunks because you never really know what's going to happen next. Also, the charting thing eliminates any possibility of you having a day off. Hugs. The SWI thing can get a little much too, but I always felt better knowing I had given it my best shot (no pun intended, sorry!) if you know what I mean. I used to think it was a bit like buying a lottery ticket. If you didn't go for it, then your numbers would come up and you wouldn't be prepared. If you did buy one, the chances are you wouldn't win, but you'd know you'd done everything possible to win! Did you call about your results?
Hope you're having a nice time with your DH on his birthday, anyway.

banana So sorry to hear about your friend. Whenever I dare to think that I might actually be pregnant and safe, I am reminded that I'm not allowed to dare be comfy just yet. I'm pleased she has a friend like you. I'm also pleased for you that you've made the brave decision of waiting a while. It can be quite liberating to accept that you need more time. I'd definitely ask about the clexane and aspirin. There's no harm in suggesting it.

Love and apologies to anyone I may have missed.

Not much to report at this end, though I think there's been quite enough excitement, drama and distress on this thread to last us a good while. I had my first, momentary belief that this is really REAL today. I have a definite tummy. I know the bit I'm looking at is just a result of Christmas lard, but it's where it is that makes me think things are growing and the unflattering bits are being pushed upwards and outwards! The bulge of lard (lovely) seems to be getting higher and higher. Unfortunately this makes me look about 6 months' gone. Not a good look. Think I'm going to be massive again. Oddly, 3 days ago I was saying the exact opposite. My trousers are still plenty loose enough. I'm just a hideous shape.

I'm still sick as a dog. It is less frequent than it was, but a lot worse when it hits now. I've also already started getting coccyx pain which I had really badly with DS. This all seems a bit soon. I'm only 10 weeks. Am I imagining it? This is my third pregnancy, but I'm concerned that I'll be the size of a house before too long and doubt I'll be able to hide it for very much longer even if I wanted to. Roll on 25 Jan. I'm quite frightened about my scan now. I seem to have wiped the first scan from my memory and still spend vast portions of the day assuming it was all in my mind. I wonder when the denial will stop. Smile

Ladybee · 05/01/2011 22:23

Gosh, stillfrazzled congratulations on the birth of your beautiful boy! Although I know you're terrified and so sad not to be holding Finn, he's in a safe place and being cared for expertly. Glad to hear the Drs are pleased, that counts for a lot. One day at a time lady

brokenbrook gosh that's quick for St Mary's. Gah about the HSG but best to just go with it all and let them find out all the information they need.

coconuts sounds like a good appointment and kudos to you that a copy of your history is now in your file!

MummyAbroad congratulations on your new fertile status Grin fantastic that you've found a new gynaecologist that you like as well.

Mumatron I have everything crossed that the sweep starts things off tonight before the induction, but at 3cm already it should go fairly smoothly. All that pain has been doing something, so just the final bit to go. Good luck, keep as active as possible, mouth open jaw loose and breathe

Glittery you sound completely sane to me. You're doing really well. If I can manage to hold it together with as much grace as you do, I'll be very pleased indeed.

Glitterybits · 05/01/2011 22:24

Lunatic Apologies - pregnancy brain. Just back to wish you the best of luck for your scan tomorrow. You will be fine.

Glitterybits · 05/01/2011 22:28

Lady Thanks for giving me a good laugh!!! Nearly fell off my chair. Sane? Me? You must be kidding. Still, it's good that I appear that way even if it couldn't be less true. Either that, or you are kindly humouring me like my poor DH and everyone else! x

Julezboo · 06/01/2011 10:14

frazzled Congratulations on the birth of Finn Matthew (Matthew is my DS1's name!) Just to give you a bit of hope and faith he ws born at 31 weeks weighing a tiny 2lb 12oz after suffering IUGR and was in SCBU for 29 days. Its great news he is breathing on his own and he will be fine! I hope you are not too sore and make sure you take allll the pain meds they give you!

mumatron thinking of you this morning!

I'll be back shortly I need to go eat!

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notsobarrenmorebrokenbrook · 06/01/2011 11:44

frazzled wonderful news, congratulations and welcome to Finn Matthew (lush name btw!) sending you lots of love and luck. Bubs is in the right place and although it seems scary it's a fantastic sign he's breathing on his own and the Drs are pleased. My best friend had her baby boy (now 8!) at 28 weeks and he spent a huge amount of time in SCBU, they're brilliant in all units I've heard of so I'm sure you're in very good hands. Don't forget to look after yourself too xxx

Hello to everyone else, at work so must run x

mumatron · 06/01/2011 16:58

Quickie from us :-). Baby Eliza born 3.39 am, 8lb 8oz. Stil in hospital as she hasnt fed yet but wil post tomorrow when, hopin to be home.
frazzled I tried desperately to post last night say a huge congrats, stupid ipad wouldnt let me! He sounds like he is doing so very well. Hope you have him home asap.