Anyone else just UTTERLY EFFING SICK of peri?

[RipeApples]

I know there are plenty of you cos i see your threads but my GOD I am so over this shite. Not only the symptoms in the first place but the apparent need to just play it by ear as though we can just afford mentally and physically to just bob along with sometimes debilitating symptoms. Oh you think you're peri? Let's wait and see how those symptoms play out. Oh you are peri, try this gel. Oh that's not worked, let's wait and see. Oh that's too high a dose, oh let's reduce it. Oh you don't seem to be able to do your job which you've been very successful in doing for the last 25 years? Oh your symptoms are back. oh oh fucking OH.

I'm obviously in a foul mood over it as i'm ranting but even on my 'good' days (around 4 a month honestly for the last year or so- been on HRT for 18 months) I'm still agog that this is something which, to varying degrees, women will experience and we're left at the hands of uneducated GPs, having to scrape money together if need to go private to get someone to listen and even THEN the whole regime is just seemingly pot fucking luck.

I really hope I'm one of those who eventually finds my magic combination of dose, brand and delivery method but there are so many variables, alongside the changing symptoms as we age, that I really can't see it ever happening. And then seeing the thread yesterday (?) about women who are still not post menopause in their mid and even late 50s put the fear of God in me. I'm 46, around 3 years into Peri - How do you just accept you've got to suck it up? I'm so angry about the whole thing on top of being angry cos i'm permanently seemingly pre menstural. There's not even anyone i can complain to about it and that's winding me up too.

Rant over. If you've got this far, thanks for being on the receiving end. I do have friends of peri age but it seems they are all doing fine and aren't struggling like I am and if mention menopause at work, my colleagues visibly shrink away- and frankly my dh and dcs are sick of me going on about it and reading this thread back, I can see why;)

Yep,really fed up of it. I'm 54, tried various hrt combos, none of them help that much... still having regular periods and pain and the anxiety is excessive. It's so difficult trying to work while feeling so rubbish, but I'm not in the kind of job I can just phone in sick as it really impacts the rest of the team. I feel like hrt and perimenopause is all I've been thinking about and talking about for years...

how soon into peri menopause do these symptoms usual start?

I've just read a physiotherapist report on my FIL when he was 54 years old he was signed off work by insurance.

You know what the 3 pages of report basically described peri menopause, sex drive zero, lack of focus, brain fog, inability to do his previous high flying job, lack of confidence along with anxiety and appetite changes.

He was signed off from work for life, retired and now in his late 80s has dementia, I'm not making light of the fact he was struggling with early onset dementia.

But what struck me was the absolute way his report was written in a deeply sympathetic way, his loss to work life, sex life and general ability was deeply emphatic.

And there is me thinking fuck me that's what I'm going through.

I do wonder had they given him some testosterone how he would have faired.

All I wanted to say was say my deepest understanding and my equal rage about how we are just expected to get on with life, also the busiest period of life no doubt.

And yet maybe like you I feel like I'm actually loosing my shit over here and would like a 3 page report that justifies my headspace.

I see you, I feel you, I agree with you 100%. It's effing awful. I had 9 migraines in February and had to carry on up to a point until 8 & 10 year olds were sorted enough that I could take super strong Sumatriptan tablets and take to bed. I feel like I have a hangover half the days even though I haven't drank any alcohol. It's tough and its hard and no one has answers except to just up and up the doses of HRT!!! It's sh*t.