Is this the start of the peri-menopause? TMI Warning.

[ScarahStratton]

Normally I have nice, light, regular periods. No cramping, no pain or bloating (I know, I've been incredibly fortunate).

This month I am having the period from hell. Very heavy, feel like I've put on 2 stone in as many days, and absolutely horrific cramps that nothing is shifting.

I've spent hours in a steaming hot bath today, and just want to crawl into bed with a big mug of tea and LittleDog to cuddle.

I'm 44.

Me too Nanna - my mum at 30/1 and my nan around the same age.

My mum swore by HRT, she could never take any synthetic hormones like the pill or use the coil so when she discovered HRT, she felt 'well' for the first time in her life ever.

How very sad for her.

DH and I have just had the 'well, just let me get on with it and then mutter under your breath when I've gone' chat.

He hates the way I am, fumbling around, forgetful, scatty, faffing ect but rather than let me get on with it, he pulls me up on it.

I can't help these moods, I really hate myself when I'm like this but what can/should I do. I just wish he'd leave me to have my 'moment' and just keep his trap shut.

Off to the docs now to get my bloods taken hopefully. Sorry for the moaning. Be back later on xx

Don't hate yourself when you are like this Mouse...it isn't exactly by choice is it? Be nice to yourself...it's a hard time for any woman

How's this for a "moment" mouseface and friends ?

I was just making myself a cup of tea and after taking a tea-bag from the box in the cupboard and boiling the kettle (so far, so good ) instead of putting kettle back on it's stand I tried to put it in the cupboard

Hey crazynanna
I wrote you a poem: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1390004-Lets-make-up-some-MN-limericks?msgid=29719967#29719967

fucking inspired ....I nearly spilt my Jacobs Creek on the laptop and actually did drop the fag and all the ash on the keyboard

Jacob's Creek before 6pm? You get to work early!

Day off....don't care....dd at ds's tonight...just me and the cat...and you lot

Men can't do that though I've found ...
Just listen ....
Without trying to fix it !
I've left so many jobs after telling DH about my troubles at work ...
because in desperation, or actually really quickly, he says
"Well, I'd just leave if I were you. It's only minimum wage anyway"
Hmm, that's not the point DH. Pretty much all women's P/T school hours/ school term jobs are minimum wage.
Actually I liked it in some ways, I was just having a moan
Looking for a new job ATM. (Actually the last one was pretty dire in the end)
Wish me luck !

Enjoy your time off xx

Needs fecking must tonight!

Well, doc thinks it's one of two things, under-active thyroid or Perimenopause.

My money is on the second option. Bloods next Tuesday so with a bit of luck, I'll know more. He said he wants to keep an eye on me as the rapid weight gain is not in common with my meds so could be a sign of something else. I was tempted to say, "yes doc, I'm a big fat munchy Mouse that's why I'm chunky round the middle these days"

Except I'm not. I don't gorge and eat rather little really. I have fresh fruit and veg, yoghurt, cereals, chicken over red meat when I can, I try to drink 2 litres of wine water a day......

The doc also wants to repeat my chest x-ray as the left hand side was 'cloudy' so they want to double check it's just the position of me and not something more.

DH and I have just had a proper shouty row. Never, ever in the 7 years we've been together has that happened. I'm that it got to that stage. He just pushed all my buttons at once. Oh well, tis all nice and ery again now but he want out of the house and took the keys for the car, I thought he was leaving and burst into tears... and then he came back in because he was only putting the car up the drive!!

Snow - did you manage to get the kettle in?

Thank you Nanna, I know I shouldn't let it bother me but I feel a bit out of control with it all. Like "Oh feck, what's she going to do next?" kind of a feeling.....

Oh FFS! I think that I'm going to come on. Day 24. It's not much in terms of clots, more like a show but boy it hurts like a mother fucking torpedo tearing me in two.

I'm going to have to pray to Jeff that I make it through the night as I've no TA left, I'm waiting to pick it up tomorrow as they had none in today. BuggerationAndDamnTwattery.

Ah............... that feels better

A good old swear seems to help me de-stress these days!

Hi mouse

so sorry to hear about the row with DH.
Mine's in India so we're getting on rather well ATM

And no, when it didn't fit on the shelf next to the tea I realised something was wrong, and perhaps it didn't go in there after all

Oh bless you snow. It's all okay now but it was really frightening for a while, I've never been so cross, it's like an anger that wasn't part of me.

Is your chap away with work snow? I miss mine more when he's away...... heart grows fonder and all that.

I'm away to read. Sending sweat free nights, no trips to the loo in the cold and sound sleep to you all. I have to say that I feel really welcome here. Like I've found a group of mad old birds, just like me!

Night all xxxxx

Hi everyone

Struggling a bit a the moment with a cold that is refusing to go and a stressed DH. Have started the pills so watch this space.

I feel extremely overwhelmed by the simplest of tasks at present - is this common with peri or is it just me ?

Morning all

Maryz - it's never my week, there's ALWAYS something but I'm a firm believer in what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

CT10 - are you okay? You seem really down in that last post, good luck with the tablets today. I too get overwhelmed by the smallest things, I'm flappy and stressed out by something as simple as loading the washer.

I forget to put the detergent in on a regular basis and forget to put the dryer on too, little things but they all seem like mammoth tasks some days.

I hope your day improves xx

Nemo has just lost his first feed so we're now playing catch up before nursery. I've got really strong period pains with a bit of spotting. Not sure what that means so wil wait and see.

TMI ALERT! - It's dark brown and red in colour rather than the fresh blood that I normally get so I'm guessing this is my last period rather than a 'new' one if that makes sense..... does anyone else have that?

Thanks Mouseface.

I hope you are feeling better after your ordeal .

I think my mum hit the nail on the head when I explained what was going on with me and how did it compare with what she went through - apparently she was a similar age with similar symptons but she didn't have to cope with young children (my DB was about 16 when she went through it and us older girls were independent and/or left home) and she feels this would make a big difference to managing to cope with it.

We'll see what the GP says next week when she has the blood results - am a bit about anti-depressants though.

Going away for the weekend on our own w/o the DCs but I am turning into a manic person trying to deal with everything before we go - none of it's hard or complicated, it's just me trying to get my head round it and my a*se into gear......

Hi Counting that would be me too! I have a major dose of CBA today - hit about early afternoon. I just feel really pointless, old and dusty and want to curl up under my duvet forever. I am seeing the GP next week. I am tired so a night's sleep will help but the dragging tiredness and feelings of vague uselessness won't disappear overnight.

I really, really hate this

Evening all, had a dreadful week. I have been Mrs.Angry anyway, but we have, or should I say my dh has taken it upon himself to discuss with my dc about returning to school. (has been home edded for a year due to bullying) The return is happening quicker than I had anticipated and I have been crying all week.

CT10 - you know that you don't have to take the ADs don't you? It's your choice and one that YOU should be making, not her, they're not a miracle cure but the right ones can certainly help.

A weekend away without the DCs sounds ideal, I hope you have a fantastic time xx

How are we all today?

Nemo had his first bump to the head in nursery today. Not an accident and I had to do all that I could to detach from my role as his mummy and try to remain his carer for fear of telling the DC who decided it would be fun to play skittles with the other DCs using a wheeled trolley exactly what I thought of that game.

He's okay but he really took a tumble . He cried, I cleaned him up and then he decided that he was fine and wanted to go back out to play .

On the period front, I have the most horrific cramps, like labour pains that come on and get stronger. Not much in the way of flow luckily. Just very painful. On top of my back pain, I really don't want or need it.

Anyone doing anything nice for the weekend? xx

Oh dear Isla and Change here, you sound like you both need one or two of these .

Sorry to hear that you've both had shit weeks/days.

Nice hot bath, glass or three of , PJs, book and bed or some telly? Get yourselves snuggled up on the sofa?

That's my plan after dinner.

Isla - is that fair of him to discuss with DS without you both being there or was that the plan? Do you want him to stay at home longer? What have school said about it? Sorry, lots of Qs. xx

counting - oh sweets I'm so sorry to see that you are struggling with this. Is there anyone you can talk to in RL, just let it all out to? Feel free to download here xx

Hi all, can I ask some advice please? Doctor phoned and wants me to see him because of some hormone results...

I'm 42 and was told last year I was in line for an early menopause. I've had tests done a few times, and they've been a bit erratic but this time most are out of the normal range. Testosterone is on the floor (abnorma), progesterone at the bottom of normal range, but oestradil very high - beyond normal range. I've been feeling weird - total mood swings, sexual libido flat as a pancake - broken sleep - tired, tired, tired - pissed off, angry or crying -

What will the doctor say?

Does this mean I'm very premenopausal? I did an AMH test - it looks at the quantity of eggs in your reserve, because I was thinking about getting pregnant - and it was horrendous. On the floor, as in empty.

Thanks all

Oh and very erratic periods after 28 cycle for 20 years.

think - I'm so sorry I have no medical knowledge but if you are wanting to get pregnant and have discovered that then I'm sure your heart must be breaking. xx

I think all you can do it STAY AWAY FROM GOOGLE and wait to see what the doc says. I know it's hard waiting. The other thing you could ask for is a test for an underactive thyroid. That has similar symptoms as perimenopause.

Stay a while, I'm sure someone who knows more and has more experience will be along soon, I'm a newbie xxx