Older mums ??? 40 plus???

[Laurang63]

Hi, I'm 41whispers quietly and have 3 kids, dd18 ds16 and an 8 month old. Would love to hear from any other older mothers.

Hi Ladies, Can I join you? I'm Karen, 39 - 40 in July. My eldest is 20 in just over a week, my youngest is 9 months!

Here's another one reporting to the old'un's- but good'uns thread.

The summer of '64 here (41 this year ho hum)...

Who remembers that programme with the kids who lived on the bus (what was it called??)...
plus what on earth was that 1 banana 2 banana 3 banana programme called/about??

Memory has definately taken a turn for the worse sitting hitting 40 (although maybe it's more to do with the increase in alcohol consumption since having dd (6 today!!!) and ds (3).

Ah unicorn - the Double Deckers!! and the Banana Splits - Tr La La, La la la la, la la la, la lal lal la

Chipmonk - that's a bit of a gap - things changed much?

Hi Potty! Well my first two were born in the States, Tyler is 20 and Kyle 18. I moved over here 4 1/2 years ago. My dh and I lost our first son at full term and we went on to have Connor who is 3 and Tucker who is 9 months. I find that I do the same thing for the younger ones, as I did for the older ones and have come up against so much criticism because of "guidelines" and "just because that is the way things were done then, doesnt mean it is the way to do it now" all I can say is if it aint broke, dont fix it! Connor recently started pre-school and I stopped the first day and watched him through the window and got a tear, and it felt so strange to be doing this all over again. x

I'm back! Had a prob with computer, was previously laurang63........ah how sad am I? I have the banana splits theme tune on my mobile at the moment (I LOVED that show when I was a kid!) I also had the Double deckers annual 1971! Still have it around somewhere......

Hi Karen, I remember you from the August 2004 board from babycentre I think I posted about a couple of times that's all, although there seemed some lovely ladies on there I didn't feel like I fitted in (felt so old!) My daughter is 9 months old next week.

Hi Lolly! What was your screen name there? Yes, mostly they are a great bunch, but I feel the age thing. Also feel the difference of coming from the States, as to having grown up here. I can't join in on old shows, bands, terms, etc. It puts me at a bit of a disadvantage, but I try to keep up!

Tucker is a handful at the moment, trying to walk and has much too much confidence, which usually lands him on his head.

Connor has chicken pox and I think we are sick to death of being housebound. Just waiting for Tucker to get it next. x

Karen, to be honest I can't remember what my screen name was!! It could have been 'angie' something I think. (well that's my real name) and I was on Anitaskas? list of mothers and babies. Laura is also a handful at the moment, she's crawling all over the place and always goes for the things she shouldn't do! We've had to move the skybox as she was always taking the viewing card out and losing it under the mat! Sorry to hear to about the chickenpox, I suppose it's better to get it while they're young, I was 4 months pregnant with my dd when I got it!

Ugggh poor you! I've had to ring my Mom and make sure I did have them! David isnt sure if he's had them and there's no one to ask, so we're on the lookout for all the symptoms. The older two were 4 and 5 when they got them. Tyler at Thanksgiving and Kyle at Christmas the same year. Tucker has just fallen asleep on my lap and as typical, Connor wants to sit there too.

In our heads we still are ...

Hi ya

I can almost join you as I'm 40 in July. Have DD of 13 months. Got married two years ago, was told I couldn't have children, came off the pill on our honeymoon and bingo along came DD 9 months later at the grand old age of 38. Just goes to show what doctors know huh? DH is 36 - so a baby in comparison

All I can say is that people are always shocked when I tell them my age as they always think I'm a lot younger, a lot of my friends are much younger than me. I thought I'd be the oldest person on the board and everyone would think I was a right old fart - just goes to show!!

Hi Firewalker! What day in July? Mine's the 11th. I cant' believe I'll be 40, it just doesn't seem possible, lol. I don't think I look it, and I certainly don't feel it. Mentally I think I'm about 21, hee hee. I had my last ankle biter (literally, he is going through the biting stage) at 39. Never would I have thought years ago I would have children at this age. My eldest will be 20 on Sunday and Tucker is 9 months! Hope to talk to you some more, Take care, Karen x

hi older mums. i am 46 and feel 26. i have three kids. ds 17, dd 14, and little ds of 4 yrs. my dp is only 37 . guess we are together cos i look only bout 39. are there any mums my age who live near romsey/ southampton/ salisbury?

Hi Chipmonk

Mine is 22nd - so not far out huh? What are you doing to celebrate? DH has booked us a long weekend away up in London - we're going to have tea at the Ritz, see Mary Poppins, go on a lunch cruise on the Thames and the London Eye to name but a few things. DD is staying with my parents and it's the first time we've left her for longer than one day or an evening. It will be great to have some time alone though, although I think my Mum and Dad will need a week to recoup after as DD is a little bundle of energy now she's learnt how to walk!!

DH was planning for us to go abroad for a weekend, but thought we'd better be on hand just in case we have to dash back home or something.

Being 40 is scarey, but, like you, I don't feel it at all.

Speak soon x

That sounds like a fantastic weekend! You've got a gem of a husband. I think mine is the most unromantic and has no sense of adventure. I have booked us two nights up near Whitby, N Yorkshire. We have no babysitter, so the kids are coming along. To be honest I am not expecting for it to feel very special at all.

Chipmonk, it will be better than being at home believe me. I had my 40th last New Years Eve and dh and I went to Paris for the w/e..........with our four children! Even so, I had the best birthday I have had in decades - ever, maybe. This was mainly because it did not feel like it was birthday at all!

How refreshing to read all these messages - revived my long-term memory bank!!!!Double Deckers, Banana Splits, spangles - fantastic.
What about Donny Osmond, David Cassidy and Jackie mag every Thurs - long live Cathy and Claire!!
Iam 45 with 3 angels - ds 11, dd6, ds4.

Hi all im 41 this year and have dd22,ds18 & ds4 plus 2 granchildren 3& 1 sounds like im starting a tribe. i like being 40 as I have more patience and feel more relaxed about things.

Oh God Chipmonk I'm sorry. That makes me feel bad about telling you what I'm doing now. Is the place where your staying in Whitby able to arrange babysitters at all so you could have a bit of quality time for yourselves? A lot of places do that - we're off to Center Parcs in two weeks and have already booked three babysitters so that we can have a few games and go out for dinner by ourselves. Hopefully you might be able to to the same sort of thing where you're going?

No problems, don't worry! I'm happy that you are going to have a great time. I've checked and there are no baby sitters available, or sitting services. It is just a small b&b. I think just being somewhere where the scenery is different will do me a world of good, and the boys are good (mostly). Just hate the thought of coming home after

We have had chicken pox through the house going on for three weeks now. The baby has got a really bad case and we've had very little sleep. I really am feeling old.

Take care,

Karen x

Karen

I'm sorry to hear you are suffering so much at the moment. My DD has been in contact with chicken pox three times but has avoided it so far somehow.

As for Whitby - as you say, a change of scene and the fresh air and seaside will do you the world of good.

Take care.

Paula x

Hi, I've been lurking for a while, but not posted before. I'm 46 next week, with ds18,dd15 and dd3. When I was first telling people I was pregnant for the third time, I was amazed by the number who asked "Was it an accident?" In some ways this time round has been easier - I know toddler tantrums pass!, but I have much less energy. It's also a bit disconcerting being congratulated on my lovely "granddaughter" at the park.

Karen, Just wondering how you're doing? Hope the chickenpox is under control and you are all feeling a bit better especially your little one, and managing to get some sleep!
It's a shame you couldn't get anyone to look after the boys in July, but as Paula says the change of scenery will do you good combined with the fresh air. I know what you mean about not wanting to come back, we have a caravan in Scarborough and I NEVER want to come home!

Welcome ellceeell, congrats on becoming a mum again at 42, 43? . I had my dd a month off my 41st birthday and also got asked the same question. Perhaps you can give me some tips when my dd (9 months) gets to the 'terrrible twos' stage?
Angie x

Hi Angie,

Things are a bit improved I guess. Tucker's spots are all scabbing over, which has made them more itchy, poor boy and he still looks like he's been through the wars, but at least they are going. I do wish however that he would decide that 7.30 would be a much better time at waking up than 5.30, I feel dead on my feet all day. And what terrible two's?? Don't you mean terrible two's, terrible 3's, terrible 4's! Connor (3) is really good at throwing tantrums and just being a total misery guts sometimes.

Hi El - I got accepted to a college (I am originally from the States) and went to the orientation for the beginning of the semester, and was walking around with the coordinator when she introduced me to her husband who promptly said "oh is your son/daughter enrolled?" He looked like he swallowed a fly when she told him that I was the student! Now that I live here in the UK, I am embarking on enrolling at the local college this September and already have the "will I be the oldest" syndrome so much that I haven't filled out the application yet. Welcome to the board!

Karen x