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Older mums ??? 40 plus???

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Laurang63 · 27/04/2005 19:41

Hi, I'm 41whispers quietly and have 3 kids, dd18 ds16 and an 8 month old. Would love to hear from any other older mothers.

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fatfox · 19/09/2006 09:45

You people make me feel much better - being preggers at 43!!

helsy · 19/09/2006 22:46

Dh's mum had her first baby at 19 and her last at 44 - she had 6 - his grandma had 17 yes 17, with about 30 years in between them all I think - and no twins!
Made it very difficult for us to think of baby names - they'd all been taken!

sorrell · 19/09/2006 22:47

43 - - 5 and 2. Feel really normal!

queenceleste · 19/09/2006 23:58

I'm 41... ( I think I'm still 41...) and have a 5 year old. Hello Arabica! I remember you from awhile back, I used to be called girlfromipanema but stopped mumsnetting for awhile and somehow lost my name. Congrats on being pregnant - how wonderful! I like this thread very much and would like to join.

fatfox · 20/09/2006 06:43

I think its just being PG at 43 that makes me feel old -- feeling so tired etc. Its very reassuring to "meet" you all anyway - and nice to feel part of a majority for a change, rather than being the oldest Mum of LOs in the playground

Greengirlforever · 20/09/2006 10:14

Well I am feeling very old this morning. I'm due in April with no. 3 (long gap between 1 & 2!) and I actually feel 41 - cos normally I feel about 25 you see!

fatfox · 20/09/2006 17:36

Congrats Greengirl

clon · 21/09/2006 10:00

Hello all

I'm 41 with my first due in 4 weeks. My twin sister has 3 aged 21, 19 and 17 so I'm a little behind her! I wouldn't have liked to be that young but wouldn't have minded starting about 6 years ago! Just didn't meet the right guy nothing to do with my career, would give that up in a heartbeat!

mrsmummy · 21/09/2006 15:41

Hi congrats on your pregnancy [smile}, personally i couldn't imagine myself at this age (41) having children in their teens!!!, i know for a fact i wasn't ready for children in my 20`s, so don't worry about being behind your twin - she will have lots of useful information for you!

fatfox · 22/09/2006 19:57

Hi Con and welcome - congratulations! I'm preggers too, at 43! Have DS 6 and DD 3, but like you also started late. A friend of mine had her first 2 at 44 - twins

prince · 27/09/2006 00:39

First time today that I have left messages on mumsnet. Thought you might like to know I am 51 and 52 next March. Had my youngest at 46 yrs ( and not impressed by being compare to Mrs. Blair!) My eldest is 30 this year and the youngest is 5yr but it does help to have a number of babysitters on hand. I have six boys aged 29, 25, 20, 19, 16 and 5. (I never stop washing!) I also thought I was on the "change) when I got caught, but my husband found it hilarious (He would!) But on the positive side I also began my training to be a childrens nurse 8 months after giving birth and have breastfed all my children. I qualified aged 49 yrs so there is hope yet for us old buggers!

sleeplessinhants · 27/09/2006 20:41

Okay, I'm not 40 but not that far off (37) having waited and got lucky with first IVF, now have beautiful 9mth DS and considering trying again in near future, everyone I meet seems to be in their mid 20s, and made to feel left it too late , so would love to be included

Greengirlforever · 09/10/2006 13:46

Prince at all your boys!! Boy or not (have 2 DS's aged 13 & 3) after this one (due in April at age 41) I'm not trying again!

Greengirlforever · 09/10/2006 13:52

Oh and Prince - was the children's nurse thing a whole career change for you - did you start training for the whole thing at age 46???? That is amazing. I'm well up for a career change - having a severe mid-life crisis so am very interested to hear success stories like this! .

So are all we 40+ (and honorary) older mothers going to try to meet up then? I'm in Devon but would be happy to travel to eg. London for a major party!!!

CharleysAunt · 10/10/2006 18:58

Can I join in? I'm 45 with DS1 (23), DS2 (21), and a foster daughter of 18, and I'm beginning to think I might have finally got the hang of this motherhood thing .

With dp for past 9 years but he wasn't much bothered about having kids of his own, and the ones I'd already got were more than a handful, especially after dp moved in, so not likely to be any more, though I've had my moments of temptation! I do have a terrific 3 year-old nephew though, and he's mine, all mine, for a couple of days each week.

Oh, and I'm new to MN - I've been lurking for a couple of weeks trying to find my way around.

ska · 15/10/2006 11:15

I'm late joining but with my own 7 year old daughter (had her when I was 41) and 2 step children who live with us 5 days a fortnight aged 13(G) and nearly 11 (b). Got thrust into motherhood when the B was 2 so learnt very much on the job with a todler and 4 year old!! I love having kids but get SO tired and I don't feel I'm patient enough. Have local friends but am by far the oldest at 48 now. sometimes feel like a granny rather than a mummy...

LeilaS · 17/10/2006 20:15

Hi Ska, I imagine I'll continue to be the oldest mum in my circle too - I certainly am at the moment. I don't feel older though - not yet. Do you work as well? Cos that's the really knackering part. Although, saying that, I was talking to someone yesterday who has a two year old. She admitted she goes to work for a rest.

Woodelf · 19/10/2006 10:37

Hi everyone! Just had my LO at 43, first time mum and definately losing the plot re sleep deprivation. Such a life changing experience! Croydon based so near London and would love to meet other mums of the mature persuasion...

sleeplessinhants · 21/10/2006 16:29

Woodelf, Congratulations! I do empathise with the sleep deprivation, do look after your self, It took us over 8mths to get a half decent night sleep with our DS I would pass on some words of wisdom but nothing I read worked he just figured it out in the end. Just tell your self one day it will happen and then there's all the years of dragging them out of bed as teenagers to look forward to

Woodelf · 21/10/2006 16:45

thanks for the advice sleeplessinhants - I guess the name gives it away

Am attempting to use the Babywhisper 'EASY' method and so far we are on a roughly 3hour cycle of eat, activity and sleep. Goes haywire due to wind pain a great deal of the time tho.

sleeplessinhants · 11/11/2006 20:51

Hi Woodelf any improvement with the sleeping, weve taken several steps back thanks to pesky fireworks

emster · 08/04/2009 01:38

Pregnant at 44 & naturally. DD18 months born aged 45! And this despite an awful experience at the Lister where I was told my chances with IVF were infintesimal and I should go & talk to egg donation unit! Thank god for a lovely India n doctor who said oh plenty f women she knew had first babies in their 40s and advised me to invest in a personal machine. Best advice ever!

iSOLOvechocolate · 08/04/2009 01:47

Wow! a very old thread resurrected! I'm 45 and have Ds 10.8 and Dd 2.3.
I had fertility issues too, but managed to have Ds after 14 years!

Can I please ask what is a 'personal machine'?

pepper66 · 13/04/2009 23:22

Hi everyone..like CharleysAunt i've been mooching around MN for bit & now taking plunge in!... I've got 4 children,but found it a little weird with last 2 as all people i knew with 1st 2 have moved on.Didn't want last 2 to have trips to tesco as highlight of their week,so back to toddler groups!