Meet-ups: WEST LONDON MEET-UP THREAD - July 2007 - from Acton to Sunbury everybody welcome

[mellow2]

Brand new thread for July.

good morning all

sorry to hear about the bickering and marital tensions.
we have been together for 12yrs now and you would have thought most creases were ironed out by now, but kids always bring new tensions with the changing / adjusting /re negotiating of roles.
we don't really argue and we have some 'rules' about it when we do have tensions, some things just aren't worth it, but then again i have been told we have an odd marriage
guess whatever works really life is too short.

and can i say c*ap weather!

ps and what's up with xoxo?

Apparently, its rainy all week , I was hoping to take ds back to the beach at Kew, he loved it when we found it last week!

Blimey quokka you'd need a whole spare life to catch up on the threads related to me (not about me as such) which have been pulled.

Summary

Thread 1 = op asked single overseas adopters how it was for them as Dh was concerned about employees ability to be a single adoptive parent and do her job. Lots of posters objected to her Dh's seeming desire to judge her ability to parent. Various phrases used I didn't like but nonetheless did post with a very brief summary of my experience but pointing out that if my boss had taken the same viewpoint I would have flayed him alive (or words to that effect). Thread continued and opener started what I can only rather wankily describe as passive-aggressive bullying of me "such a shame you don't want to help other adopters" kind of thing. OP pulled thread because she said she had given away too much info on said employee (she had!)

Thread 2 - Eleusis started thread for people to come and give me a hug as she felt (rightly) that I was being bullied. Thread 2 generated a life of its own and people started commenting on the previous thread OP, I think it deteriorated and got pulled (but I missed that bit).

Probably not my finest hour (I swore several times ).

That's right. Kewcumber turned potty mouth.

have put some camping pics up on my profile

so the 2nd thread turned nasty too?
i thought it was just a nice fluffy one

I can't believe I missed it, I would have come in all guns blazing and swearing!

My maid should be starting in a week, so hopefully no more bickering over the dishes . Really looking forward to going to the local markets with her rather than the super expensive supermarket!

without wanting to be contentious - there was a report on radio this morning that measles cases in London are at their highest for 10 years and there was a death reported in London last year. Measles innoculations are as low as 60% in some parts of London now and they are expecting a mini epidemic as measles is so infectious that you need 95% take up for herd immunity. So if you're getting a single jab, get the measles one done first and asap (in my humble opinion!)

I agree Kew. We do singles and measels is so far the only one of the three that DS has had. Must get round to the next one -- rubella. Though tI'm still dissapointed to have missed my opportunity to get free life long immunity by actually infecting him.

However, the timing of this report is of course intended to pair with the news article which talks about the possibility of Wakefiel being struck off the register (I hope he is not).

one of the many drawbacks of a me me approach and no social responsibility whatsoever while pandering to pseudo science

sorry had to get that out of my chest

oh god! i am going to have to give dd the MMR, no money for singles at all. and i have to make this decision on my own

so, what can i expect? shoould i book some time off work or schedule for a friday so i can be home over the weekend?

qc, am du in L'pool St at 1:30pm for a meeting till 6pm which clearly I will be leaving at 4pm!

no time for coffee which is a shame.

pc she'll be fine, both of mine had very little or no probs after. I would give her a dose of calpol before the jab then you don't have to worry trying to get her temp down IF she gets one. They say 2 weeks after the jab it affects them, well thats what my mil says who has been a nurse practitioner for 20yrs

oh double god! i'm getting cold feet about putting the offer in on that flat!

all the bad things are rushing around my head.

somebody slap me ffs!

ps: i'da hugged ya QC if i'd seen it!

Paddle, if you're unsure take another look at it. We looked at this house 4 times before making an offer! If you want someone to come with you for an objective view, then I'm sure one of us here would be more than willing.

And also, ds had virtully no reaction to the MMR, a slight temperature a day later but that was pretty much it.

Paddle everybody gets cold feet after putting in porprty offers - its the biggest purchase you'll ever make. Get a grip woman its perfectly normal.

I am giving DS MMR but in August when I have some days off booked anyway as CM is on hols. (contradicts own advice to give asap)

I looked into it in some detail (as I think many parents do) and decided that it seems children with no history of autoimmune or allegy or gut problems are unlikely to be at risk of adverse reaction to the measles bit of jab.

The guy interviewed on the radio refused to comment on the proposal to strike off Wakefield et al - he said all the evidence should be based on the science available (including the Wakefield study) and that the proposal to strike him off was based on professional misconduct to do with the undeclared funding of the study.

Apparently the Wakefield study did not conclude that MMR was unsafe but that there was insufficient evidence (in their opinion) that it was. No idea if thats true or not.

Paddle, I think Teddington Walk-in Centre does immunisations every third Sat (not 100% sure tho) and no appointment needed. We took DS there for a jab and it was a very straight forward procedure.

Ok, ladies. I have a little problem. I put my electric pump up for sale last night and now I have 3 people who want to buy it.

1st poster from last night got back to me and said she would like to have it

2nd poster said she would like to have it after I held firm on price

3rd poster said if it didn't work out with 2nd poster, she would take if for asking price.

What do I do?

I mean what's the protocol in situations like this?

Morning all. Today isn't going to well. A huge pot f yoghurt jumped out the fridge at me and I was splattered head to toe and all over the floor. To make matters worse it has dripped down inbetween the freezer door and the integrated cupboard dorr where I can't get to to cleanit, so no doubt in a day or 2 the kitchen will stink of sour yoghurt. The having cleaned the floor and myselfand changed my clothes, I got an actimel drink out the fridge, opened it and put it on the side whilst I got ds a glass of water, he picked it up and tipped it all over him and the floor, so washed floor a second time and changed his clothes. All by 10am. [aarrggghhh]

Way to go, PC. I'm getting SOOOOO excited about your offer.

If I had more money, I buy properties like I buy shoes.

Yoohoo anybody out here?

Quokka, queen of e-bay, can you help?

Hi mellow, personally I work on a first come, first served basis, so I would go with the first person who contacted you. If that doesn't work out then move down the list.

hi everyone

how you all diddling?
kew - that sounds amazing, what an emotional experience, probbaly much more for you than ds at his tender age. do you breckon he realises he's meeting "his" people? probably not consciously - as i thinnk childen just take people as they find them - especially if they're being nice to them! don't they - but definitely at a sub-conscious level. and, as he gets older, he'll obviously have more awareness. interesting stuff...

paddle - yep, just human to freak out once you've made an offer. but, as ros says, you can always go to see it again.

oh god mmr. yes, they always advise you to get measles done first if you're going down the single route. after seven years of single vaccs for 3 children (not complted yet, but all have up to date measles) i hate to think how much i've thought about it and how much it's cost. when i first got them done with ds1 six years ago - it was £25-£30 a jab. now about £100, isn't it?

trouble is what started out as a rational, logical decision (as much as it can be when you're thinking about your child's health anyweay) has turned into an emotinally wrought, almost superstitious, gut feeling.

bottom line line is i reckon very few children wiill suffer adverse reaction to the combined mmr and very few would be seriously ill if they got measles. everyone just does what they think is best for their chiod, don't they?

sorry you had a niggly weekend, ros. everyone argues sometimes - no-one's perfect. except me obviously

sorry for any crap typing, dd is clinging on to my back trying to pull my hair down. got to go..

toodlepip

yes mellow, my (lapsed) catholic conscience would always say first come, first served!

no Steppie - I don't think he was at all conscious of "meeting his people" (that phrase did make me laugh)! In fact he had to be persuaded to allow some of them to pick him up - however he is a sucker for being centre of attention so I think that was the draw for him. I would like him to see other kazakhs a couple of times a year if possible so that he grows up accepting that there are people like him in the world and for it not to be a big deal suddenly when he is older.

Mellow - I'm an accountant, I'd take the highest offer