West London June thread (one day early)

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Almost made it to the end of the month. Children are gone. I am free until Sunday lunch

oh and dd's illness yesterday has all cleard up.

did a massive messy nappy, was warm and very pale for a while and quite cranky but nothing more has developed...... so far!

could be the amount of water she swallowed on Tuesday morning.

I know being clingy is casic developmental stage at around 18 months so I do think its normal. I don't think he's ill Sushi - he's been exhibiting this kind of beahviour for a week or so, it was just at its worst this morning. You feel such a heel walking away don't you? But I don't think hanging around helps, I think they get over it quicker when you're not in sight.

Adding to my general grumpiness, I can;t find my bleeding mobile

"classic" even!

Hmmm, come to think of it, yes, DS was rather clingy at around 18 months but now he just can't wait to go to nursery. He even waves and says 'bye' to me. I must say things got so much easier since 18 months.

on the sahm front, dd used to drive me mad always wanting me in sight this went on for a month or so, around the same age this was after i had gone back to work, which she wasn't bothered about and after i had come back home to stay, i knew it was a phase but sometimes it just got to me. i imagine leaving them in tears adds quite another dimension to it

walking around the kitcehn with him hanging onto the back of my trousers is fun too . Don;t tell me it lasts a couple of months! I was hoping for a few weeks.

DS did that for a few weeks till I introduced him DVDs and Thomas the Tank Engine. Did you find your mobile, btw?

take heart it gets better

now we are at the phase 'no i don't want it i's disgusting' an expression no one uses in this house!
also apparently afraid of her trainers

my sister tells ,me the teen years are also fun, she is planning on loosing them somewhere in the mud this weekend at Glastonbury

Ds is also extremely grumpy atm, tho I think that's down to the 4 molars coming thru at the same time, poor lad!

Although I'm looking forward to NY, I'm also worrying about leaving him for so long & going so far away . I know he'll be fine with his nan & grandad but still...

ros can't get used to your name change! Of course you will enjoy it, when you get on the plane have a really strong bloody mary, then a couple of glasses of wine and you'll be having a ball. Then everytime you think opf him in NY just buy something fabulous for yourself - sorted

qc ds2 is very clingy as well (same age eh?) and ds1 went from never crying when I left him at nursery to full blown forgeting to breath episodes. It will go on for a couple of months but, you'll be pining for him to be like that when he's a teenager!

thanks quokka, tho dh will claim I'm doing it on purpose to get away with buying so much stuff

they don't tell you about it at the "tell me about being a parent" course (which of course we all did) - how miserable it makes you to see them unhappy, even when you know its a phase they all go through.

KC ds went throught the same thing. DD, however was the complete opposite at that age. She went into the childminder absolutely fine, but cried hysterically when I came to take her home and refused to go. I had to carry her kicking and screming to the car

i was thinking about these developmental stages and particularly the tantrums.

i used to work with adults who displayed very severe challenging behaviours in public, never once was i bothered and i felt i was well equipped to deal reasonably and properly with dd's when the time came.

well i do and use the same principles but it feels very different when there is the tiredness the emotional attachment and somehow the onlookers opinions of my parental skills almost matter

I agree sfx - I am better trained than most (adoption courses and all that) and I think I do the right thing but as you say feeling it is another matter entirely.

Cov I seem to remember that Eleusis said exactly the same about her DD.

We have "no LIKE it", sfx. Whether or not he ate it perfectly happily the previous day...

well at least dd is unlikely to come after me with a knife
anyhow

am about to buy tickets for the festival next month and also need a tent, had a look at the threads on camping and am clearly out of my depth when did camping became so complicated? what the heck is HH?

must get tent that dh can up up by himself and not too low because i am claustrophobic and this time i can't drink to sleep

Oh My God you people talk a lot. I've skimmed but not read properly. I talked to Nanou earlier. She is alive and well. We must plan her leaving do! I can do the margaritas again.

PC, sorry about your money / another day at work dilemma. If it helps any, I've recently taken on a 50 hour week inder to boost my income a bit. It does wear me out be Friday and cut into my time with kids. But, then, it is also paying for me to run off to Baden-Baden in September (DH squashed the Croatia idea). Work work work. It is tiring me out, but then I'd rather be tired then have unpaid bills. Perhaps when you look at the cost of rent you should also figure in the cost of moving. If it costs you say £1000 to move, how much are you really saving over 6 months? Also, does your lease have a get out clause? We haev a 12 month lease, but I can leave any time I want with 2 months notice. I do think the housing market is going to adjust itself in the not too distant future. So, depemding on how long you can stick it out, you might find that you get better deals (buying or renting) in another six months. Of course I could also be wrong. But, if you look at www.housepricecrash.co.uk you will see current news articles that do suggest the market is at least settling down -- possibly not a dramatic crash, but hey every little helps.

Hi everyone

Just popping in to read your posts. Ooops baby calling.....

aaarrrgghh

hi ele - yes we need to sort out a leaving do for her - are you going to start a thread??

KC - sorry no reassurance but I'm in same boat as you with dd2 (yes not ds!!) screaming and crying and not letting go of me when I drop her at school and she is 6. Whereas ds will just laugh and giggle at whoevers house he happens to be dropped off at (good job as well). It does break your heart doesn't it - once I left dd2 screaming for 30 minutes making herself sick and I felt awful the whole day. Yesterday and today she had to be prized off my trousers by the teachers to go into school. Am so so at the moment but what can I do??

Quokka - dc is still leaving us little presents!! I'm wondering if she doesn't like the lining bags in the litter tray and i was going to put down newspaper instead.

ros - have a lovely time in NY once you hit the shops you'll soon forget about ds - just keep away from the kids section!! Happy birthday by the way!!

come back Foxie.....

tell me if you saw my boy on the school run this morning....

was he still miserable?

As I said, I am happy to host for Nanou. Do we have any proposed dates yet?

Foxieeeee............

Just e-mailed Nanou to ask her for dates.

I haven't started a threa yet, MrsR, because I like to put the date in the thread title so can't start the thread until I have a date.