WEST LONDON MEET-UP THREAD - APRIL 2007 (Part 2) - Acton to Sunbury everybody welcome

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New thread as the old one has run out of room.

did you go through chiswick roundabout ?

I don't need to go chiswick roundabout to get to the retail park, just down Kew Road & over the bridge!

pudding - absolutely! Just emailing a few Au pairs and tidying up the bomb-site of my house then I'll be over.

Quokka - good luck with the viewings. I hate Estate Agents - they are just not worth their money.

pc - I'm an expert on night-terrors - dd2 had one the other night and spent the night in our bed. I really think it's when they get too hot (dd2 gets terribly hot in the night) so cooling them down works. But the best thing is to sing them their favourite nursery rhyme gently and it slowly takes them away from their terrible dream. Dd2 used to go into the bathroom and imagine there was someone there and scream the house down uncontrollably. Sorry to hear about dhh, sounds like my Dad - does a kids party that my niece attends but can't be arsed to go round to my sister's house and say hi. It's not you - it's them being self-centred.

Right, best get tidying up!

Just refresh my memory what number are you?

I am also an expert in Night terrors but only theoretically! Had to learn all about it as they are very common in adopted childrne. They are different to nightmares which child will remember (if they wake up shorlty after) and be scared of. The child is not aware of having night terrors and will wake up none the wiser. They are only scary for parents, you can ride them out or if your think they are causing a sleep problem you can try to ientify when they commonly happen and wake the child slightly before hand - that seems to stop them. I'll look it up in my adoption book and let you know if they have any other advice.

If she did not wake at all then they are probably night terrors not nightmares.

PS - DDH is indeed a DH. My Dad once posted a chistmas card through my sisters door wihtout ringing the bell, he had to know they were in he would have seen the lights Some men are just plonkers (dperession or no depression)

Are you girly wusses afraid of the Chiswick roundabout?

I'm number 19 MrsR

I don't know about quokka but I'm terrified of it , last time I went to quokka's I went the long way round rather than go round that roundabout!

hi all. hope all is well. can't catch up with all the threads... anyway just to let you know that dh has been offered a job in ... switzerland . so... the nanou family will move probably around september and dh starts next month. very pleased for dh but it is all a bit daunting (spelling?). so much to think about etc ... so i have stopped looking for another job as the summer will be busy as 1. being a single mum and 2. organising move. still in shock; excited but in shock... and i dont know how i am going to manage to stay in my job til then since i hate it so much but can't risk moving somewhere just in case dh does not get through his probation and need to come back to london! unlikely to happen but one never knows. i do love london and have been here 17 years already. will try and see if there is a thread for switzerland somewhere now. all feeling very strange, told dh last night "why can't we be more excited and celebrate your job??!!!" anyway here are our news. will catch up later. have a good day all. xx

wow thats great nanou! What about temp work, and will pay better?

Nannou - congrats for dh . I really you should think about taking the other job if you get offered it. I'm an expert at short-term jobs (most of mine start off at 3 months) and the first month or so is always very quiet and so much less stressful. I know you want to be honest with them but, having worked for over 30 years now, most employers are not honest. Look after yourself and do what makes you happy. I'm around if you need help with the move or anything. Please think about yourself as we are all worried about you.

hi all

thanks for the messages and info on NTs. She did wake eventually and i sang to her adn tried to calm her. she'd start to calm then go crazy again. very upsetting for us both. eventually teddy came into force and we played finding his nose, ears, mouth etc. by then the medised was kicking in.

she had a bit of a restless night and was awake at 5am. still not sure if teeth or NT. just hope she's okay at Grandma's tonight.

Actually I feel sick at the thought that she's gone now. All these dreadful scenarios are running thru my head. Ridiculous I know and I've been looking forward to this milestone. I know she couldn't be in better hands but......

I still feel sick, can't focus on work and very sorry for myself.

LOL, pathetic I may be but I'll console myself that I can negotiate Chiswick r/bout no prob!

ps: sue, thanks would deffo be interested in what your book says about NTs.

Congrats Nanou - where in Switzerland? I have a friend who works for the Red Cross in Geneva - could give you his email address when you move. He is a crusty old bachelor imnd you so no play dates for DD!

MrsR - you started work when you were 7yrs old?!

ooooh nooooo! Nanou going too!

bloody mass exodus! the West London Mumsnet Posse Diaspora FFS!

right, i want to move o/s too.

suggestions on where I can go please!

ps: nanou, single parenthood ain't so bad and sue and i will be happy to advise i'm sure. mrsr's right y'know, if you get offered the job then take it. they need to know nothing!

thanks guys ! we'll be in Zug - about 30 mns south of zurich i think. it is all exciting really. am thinking i'll take a part time job. thanks for offers! and dont complain if i take you up on them ! would be great sue esp since i am thinking that i would like to try and get into red cross type company. maybe your friend would have valuable advice - thank you! this is a new start for us and in some ways turning the page on the last 2 years esp that have been so hard for us. paddle - what is happening? sorry no time to read all the threads... quokka you liked it there?!

Paddle my mum is picking up DS and puttig him to bed tonight as I have to go out for some stupid work dinner. I am ridiculously about it and convinced that it will be a problem and feel that I am somehow betraying him, so I know how you feel. Its all a part of separating from them and accepting their life apart from you. In my case its particularly ridiculous when you think that any number of random people looked after him for his first 11 months.

i know what you are all saying re my job situation but i have no family here and i think it would be too much to change job, organise moving to another country and be on my own with dd... dh does quite a lot i realise; i don't know how you guys do it... my hat to you both paddle and sue . ps: am not feeling sorry for myself just being realistic!!!!!

hugs for you sue. i still remember the first time that happened with dd.... he will be fine . but i know exactly what you mean, i felt the same as you i think. and felt silly feeling that way esp when i knew she was well looked after.

just so you lot know... we are looking at renting a 4 bed flat; so you guys are all invited of course

Nooooo Paddle - don't leave me.... lets go live in a commune together, anyone else?

paddle do you think dd is dreaming about my husband...

one handed typing here

nanou - am so pleased for u and dh but very sad you will be leaving us

steppy - saw your dd this morning with your cm - looked v happy toddling along

sue - where shall we all move to then

please imagine question marks where appropriate...

mrsr/mellow - did you see the nurse in thread - mass bf picnic in london...interested - imagine q mark here...

sue / paddle ... you could come for a long weekend

what about me, question mark...nanou

feeling too foxie.... but wont be moving for another 3/4 months . what's happened to your other hand?