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Any mums from Northern Ireland?????????????

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pandi52 · 14/09/2006 15:09

I do hope that there is someone out there from NI (Co Down specifically) that could meet up. Our Mums and Tots are great, but I would like to organise something a bit different!!!

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starfairy · 07/02/2007 11:15

Hi ladies, bloody freezing here & v.foggy. Day off today, so am going to do some of my course work & then relax for a while. What u all doing?

Browny · 07/02/2007 11:16

Hi cremolafoam, it's just like that here too, beautiful day. I've tried to do a link to www.metcheck.com for you but it wouldn't work, it's usually quite reliable... you're daughter might be in luck!

Browny · 07/02/2007 11:18

Morning starfairy, well..... lucky me..... it's ONE of my mother-in-law's birthdays today.... dh's mother, so we're going shopping to buy her present - she's asked for a lampshade!

fireflyfairy2 · 07/02/2007 11:18

Hi girls

JUst a quickie as I'm supposed to be in Uni for 12.15.... & it's very frosty here! I had to drive ds to c/minder there a while ago & was all over the place!!! Only thing for it is to go sloooowwwww... There was snow in Coleraine yesterday, on my way to Uni all the traffic was at a stand still on the dual carriageway.

Anyway, will check back later Cya!!

starfairy · 07/02/2007 11:21

How many MILs do you have?? How long you been married Browny?

Browny · 07/02/2007 11:24

Starfairy, I have TWO, I must have been really bad in a previous life that's all I can say, neither of them are what you'd call a 'proper' nanna to my children, by that I mean that they never come to visit, even though they only live about 15 minutes away by bus and they've never, ever taken them out anywhere or babysat. I've been married for almost 12 years and we've been together for 17 years this November.

cremolafoam · 07/02/2007 11:34

sympathies browny i have two MILs as well. one lovely- dh mum is great,helpful and knows when to butt out! I love her

the other one- well it's complicated but she is as mad as box of fish.At east if i just keep imagining to myself that she is acomplete nutter it makes it easier to cope.IYSWIM

starfairy · 07/02/2007 11:34

Och thats not right Browny, have you ever figured ot why they're like that?

Browny · 07/02/2007 11:35

Cremolafoam, my dh's mother is exactly the same, very complicated and she's been on medication since dh was 16.. so absolutely useless with the children and she says the most stupid things to them, she constantly phones us asking where we are, what are we doing etc, I've got to bite my tongue constantly!

Browny · 07/02/2007 11:38

Starfairy, well dh's mother and father divorced when he was young, so dh's mother lives alone and has her own problems... I couldn't leave my children in her care anway really, but dh father and his wife are capable of looking after them, or taking them for a trip out but they've never shown any interest at all. Oh, they'll put some money in an envelope for birtdays and christmas, but they never come and spend time with them. My own dad on the other hand is amazing, wonderful and I don't know what I'd do without him. He lives opposite me and insists on taking the children to school every morning, despite waiting for a knee replacement op. He's stubborn and won't let me take them, he says he enjoys that time in the morning with them.

cremolafoam · 07/02/2007 11:46

that's such a shame about your Dad and his wife.I always wonder how perfectly grown-up people don't see that it's the kids that are the important ones and that because they are the adults they really ought to be doing the right thing.

My own M&D are pretty good even though they are getting on a bit.( 79/80)I have had a conversation with my Dm and she tried to explain that they didn't really want to do all the child care for sis and me as they wanted to be able to go on trips themselves etc. i kind of understand this TBh( good for them), but my sister thinks differently and uses them as unpaid help nearly everyday.

starfairy · 07/02/2007 11:48

At least your dad is a proper grandad and yor kids will always have some wonderful memories & that special bond with him. He sounds like a lovely man.

Am lucky my Xps parents & family are so good to my Dd, was so worried that when we split that it would change

cremolafoam · 07/02/2007 11:52

sorry hope you know who i mean- that sounded confussed

Browny · 07/02/2007 11:53

Cremolafoam, yes I'm with you, I can't imagine not ever wanting to take my grandchildren out and babysit them (if I ever have any) and I completely understand what your parents say too, at that age (my dad's 77 this year) they haven't got the patience or the strength to look after little ones, well they wear me out all the time, so I can't expect my dad to look after them. He does come for tea a lot and he spends time with them in my house, they love him to bits..

Starfairy, my dad is lovely, he's been so good to me. My mum passed away when I was 23, but I'm so glad that he found a lovely lady and they've been together for over 15 years which is lovely. I'm glad your xp's parents have kept in close touch with your dd, it must be so difficult for you... how long ago did you separate?

starfairy · 07/02/2007 12:00

Over a year ago now, bth it hit the skids when i became pregnant tried to make it work for sooo long, but it did'nt. Can be hard sometimes as i have no family here to turn to. But it was my decision to stay wanted Dd to have relationship with her D.

He is great a great dad. Funny thing is we get on so well now it unreal, we only live 10 mins away from each other. Go figure eh!!

Browny · 07/02/2007 12:04

Starfairy, so sorry it didn't work out for you after trying so long to make it work, but I admire you enormously wanting to stay put so your dd could be with her dad .

I feel like I've gatecrashed your thread, hope you both don't mind .

cremolafoam · 07/02/2007 12:05

Wow Starfairy that's amazing.And how brilliant for your DD.It must make things so much easier that you get on with her Dad.
Respect

Browny · 07/02/2007 12:05

Well, dh is asking me if I've finished sending my e-mails... ha, ha, looks like I've got to go and put my dutiful daughter-in-law hat on. Hope you both have a lovely day, speak soon xxxx.

starfairy · 07/02/2007 12:10

Not at all Browny, lovely to have you on the thread. Goodluck with the shopping.

cremolafoam · 07/02/2007 12:11

byee have a lovely day

fireflyfairy2 · 07/02/2007 20:16

Hello

wow.. I have one MIL & that's plenty Although she's not the worst in the world, it has to be said
They will babysit any time we want them to, even though it has taken me a while now to trust them with my kids (5 & 2). My parents are older & live alone but if I need a sitter my mum will come & stay over.

Starfairy, what's your course?

starfairy · 07/02/2007 20:20

ECDL, FFF2 will be finished in june. What do you do for living?

fireflyfairy2 · 07/02/2007 20:29

Ooh I did the ECDL in 2001!! Hard going isn't it!

I am a poor student

In my 2nd year of a journalism degree & loving it so far I'm in uni 4 days a week this semester so it's pretty full time what with the kids & the house etc... but it gives me something to work towards

starfairy · 07/02/2007 20:32

Do you go out much at the w/ends?

fireflyfairy2 · 07/02/2007 20:40

hah.... what's this going out you speak of?

If you have yahoo or msn I'll add you to my messenger

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