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Getting exciting now !

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Dizzy happy anniversary for tomorrow

Deb - thanks for good wishes. Am doing ok but in til at least tomorrow and possibly Wednesday. Wound healing well but still not quite at point where ok to go home.

Dh doing well and girls fine (although I miss them). He is having issues with my mums care of dd2 (making her sleep too much and not changing her nappy often enough).

Scottish - will watch that when less hormonal

Thanks Deb and Gig - yes, we're soppy old things Deb . Also figured that 14/02/00 was a wedding anniversary that dh would never forget .

Sorry to hear dh is having problems with your mum and DD2 - is she looking after her all day or is it only when the nanny goes home? Is he able to say anything? So hard when he has so much else to worry about .

He certainly wont.

Dh is quite pfb and hands on re girls. He thinks my mum can be a bit lazy laid back .

So thinks (probably rightly) that doesn't change dd2 enough ( we have had some issues with nappy rash- mainly cos of sheer volume of poonamis!). And also just let's dd2 sleep all day (fine but then is up feeding all night). The thing that worried me is that said she had dd2 under a bunch of blankets jncl an electric one (it wasn't on). This really worried me . I will get dh to say something (and hide blanket) .

But am grateful for all her help and support so don't want to upset her (plus I know what she is like so if is at home "helping" me I can keep an eye on things).

But it does worry me a bit as feel should be home as a lot for dh to deal with.

Can nanny take over with nappy changes and things? Can she whisk DD2 off for a 'walk' which doesn't involve her sleeping? I agree that the blankets thing is wrong - one of those generational things unfortunately.

Can your mum concentrate on looking after DD1 who, let's face it, is much easier in a lot of respects, and then nanny can focus on DD2?

Don't want you to be worrying too much about it (though inevitable that you will ) when you should be focussing on getting better x

Nanny can do stuff with dd2 but isn't that used to small babies (those is doing well and dotes on dd2 ) so is happier if me/dh around to ask what is normal .
She could do stuff with dd1 but is lazy basically - so not sure the normal things that planned for dd1 this week (park, etc) so good.

Have compromised as dh working at home and not coming in to see me so can be with girls and also get some work done (am worried that he doesn't fall behind). So I am going to rest up here -think its unlikely will get out today .

Happy Anniversary Dizzy!

I'm sorry your mum is causing some stress at home Gig. If DH is going to speak to her about anything can he break it down into non-negotiables and things that are just annoying/not what you prefer? So it doesn't become a 'everything she does is wrong' kind of conflict? It might make it less stressful if you and DH can compartmentalise stuff that way too and try and ignore the stuff that's annoying? Easy for me to say I suppose though!

Sorry you won't be getting out today - another day's rest though (if you're finding you can rest? I always think hospitals are the least restful places!).

Not much to report on from her. After spending a small fortune on Madonna tickets we agreed not to do anything really for Valentines. As DS is rarely asleep before 9, we've never successfully been able to have a nice meal/bottle of wine at home since he was born! Many a valentines day/wedding anniversary/other important anniversaries have being ruined while trying.

Hospital not too bad as they go as do tend to leave me alone so am resting.

Dh managing to bite his tongue- and compromise agreed as she cooks for freezer(until he sees mess she makes - makes me look OCD) so some peace .

Think am safer here

I think hospitals are very different if you're in your own room - I remember I was transferred to my own room the day after DS2 was born, it was bliss !

Will your mum stay for long after you're home Gig? Is there anyone else who can come in and do a stint instead? (Can't remember what the situation is with your sister - although I suspect she's probably working isn't she?). Can you get a mother's help in? (I've heard of them but don't really know what they do!). Your hospital/HV/Macmillan nurse should be able to advise you on what help is available given you have two small girls and need to rest and your dh has a full on job. Then it takes the pressure of your mum if she's not that reliable!

Had some bad news here - dad has just been diagnosed with COPD . It's mainly associated with smoking but dad has never smoked - but then he was diagnosed with Type II diabetes 9 years ago which is mainly associated with obesity and he is as thin as rake. Talk about unlucky .

Anyway, it's manageable at the moment and we'll just have to see what the future brings . . .

Just come back from a lovely lunch at Loch Fyne and now waiting for a friend to come round. DS2 asleep - seems to be picking up his daytime naps again!

I'm really sorry to hear about your dad Dizzy. I'm glad it's manageable for now.

Gig, glad hospital ok and that your DH is managing to bite his tongue!

I feel bad for coming on to post a fairly frivolous question but I was after some opinions on this curtain fabric (the akin louise moss one)? I'm a bit scared of patterns so I never know if they're ok or something my mother would choose. I need some curtains for the patio doors and they definitely need a bit of a pattern (but not too much). The walls will be a sort of ivory buttermilk. DH is of no help at all.

Oh, and it also appeals because made to measure curtains fairly inexpensive on this website! Even if we're not moving this year, I don't want to spend a fortune on curtains for somewhere we don't plan to stay longer term.

Thanks SP, have been doing a lot of reading on it this evening and it's difficult to know what to think at the moment. It's not good, but he could potentially have another ten years, I don't know. I think I might phone the British Lung Foundation tomorrow and just have a chat with them about it. He's not a well man anyway, so this is certainly not going to help . The one thing that came up time and time again is that this disease mainly affects smokers, and he's never bloody smoked .

As for the curtains - I'm not wild about the fabric I'm afraid . We have recently chosen some fabric from here but you would need someone to make them. My SIL makes curtains and she's very very good - what's your budget? She has a template for measuring and would be able to advise you on colours and styles if you're interested?

That's so unfair Dizzy. Ringing the BLF sounds like a good idea - maybe there's some kind of support/info for families? How's your mum taking the news?

Thanks for the link. I'm not sure any of those colours would be quite right. My budget is as little as possible so I'm trying to avoid having something made (but thank you for the offer to get in touch with your SIL). From that particular website I linked to I'd expect to pay around £130 for the size of window. Gah, I hate soft furnishings. The problem is, I wouldn't actually choose the colour of walls we're going to have, it's just that it goes with the existing kitchen/tiles (which I wouldn't choose either - cherry wood kitchen, light moss green sort of tiles). So trying to find something that I like to go with someone I don't really like is quite difficult! Ho hum. The search continues!

Agree re blf idea being good as they will hopefully have a much better idea of what it is actually like to live with this . Googling never a good idea.

Re curtains I don't mind those ones you choose but are your windows a standard size? I only ask as Ikea can be great for cheap but decent fabric (completely sympathise about not wanting to pay too much).

Hoping am released today- as stitching knows I was getting quite down by last night and really homesick. Not helped by my dsis visiting which was nice but she made a particularly tactless joke (saying my mum would be jealous as my cancer was Bigger than hers- given I had just been fretting re worst outcome and that I might have to have chemo this was not the best).

But on nicer news from FB I see mud is back here

Waves to deb

Oh and loved the photo of new house lag - gorgeous views .

I hope you make it home today Gig!

On the curtains - it's patio doors so quite big I think. I had a look at standard sized curtains in John Lewis etc but they were too small. Hence the appeal of that website. I wouldn't have curtains over the doors at all if I could get away with it, but the kitchen windows are south facing and even in the winter, we often need to close over the existing patio door curtains (which don't match at all) to stop the kitchen becoming sauna like during the day.

Are blinds a cheaper option?

£130 is very good for bespoke curtains! Go for it .

Were LG's photos on FB? I can't see them . Although visiting the house myself tomorrow so will be able to ooh and aah at the views in RL and probably be very in the process!

Re: dad, mum seems quite calm at the moment and content that his symptoms are manageable right now. I searched COPD on MN last night which was an even bigger mistake then google as came up with lots of threads about people with end-stage COPD and it wasn't good .

Great news about mudwiggle .

Gig, really hope you're home today and your sister is a numpty - it's that old "saying anything cos you don't know what to say" chestnut isn't it? .

Waiting for friend to turn up and off for a wander into town I think - the sun is shining .

How many times have you told me to stay away from google? Ime people rarely post on anything ESP health wise unless there is a problem.

An getting out but with stern instructions on wound care etc . Clips come out and final check next week

I had been thinking about blinds actually. We've just got new roller blinds for the kitchen in a jute style, so fairly unoffensive. However, they have to go outside the recess because of the way the kitchen window opens. For the patio doors I could have them inside the recess (preferred) but I think it would look odd with one blind in and one blind out. Or am I over thinking? Would a roller blind look ok over patio doors? I do have a perfectly nice curtain pole over the patio doors which I'd need to take down which would be a shame but the painter is coming at the weekend so if I took it down now he could fill the holes etc before painting the walls.

On your sister Gig - yes, she's being a numpty. Some people really don't think! I recall going to visit DB and DSIL when they had my niece (after having 2 mc's in the preceding 4 months which she knew about) and when commenting on how cute she was DSIL responded 'I know, doesn't it make you want one'.

Evening all.

Sorry to hear that you are stuck in the hospital still Gig. The "issues" between DH and your Mum are bound to happen even in less stressful circumstances. It's a difficult one to deal with. It has been well documented on MN over the years that my PILs are decidedly lax about changing nappies. Today included. MIL has no sense of smell, and PIL has always refused to change any nappy. As a result nappies only get changed when a) PIL smells it, b) he tells MIL, c) she can be bothered to act on this information. Today a) and b) happened, but fell down on c) she was busy playing dominos with DS1 apparently. No nappy rash as result though. DS2 was terrible for constant nappy rash BTW. Constant for about 6 weeks, but is pooed like it was going out of fashion too.

DH and I went to Ikea which was good and bad and in parts. I picked up the wrong legs for a table, but this was only an initial trip so we will be back quite soon anyway to get the Ruhr ones. Afterwards DH announced that he couldn't find his work bag. We all ended up turning the house upside down for two hours, to no avail. So he has lost all his paperwork, laptop and a work supplied iPad . He is back at work tomorrow and PILs are leaving in the morning, so I have a day to myself with the boys before my parents arrive on Wednesday. So, what to do in a new place during half term.

Happy anniversary for tomorrow Dizzy.

Gah, lost a post last night! Is it just me, or does your post read as if it was written way before late last night LaG?

Did your DH's work stuff turn up?

Well spotted. I wrote it on 13th. Then the broadband disappeared and then I tried to cancel it last night but it got posted instead. I meant to come back and clarify but forgot.

Haven't really got time to update now as I have got Dizzy is coming round this morning. Hoping she and my Dad don't clash on politics

Had a lovely time at LG's, no arguments (at least amongst the adults) and a lovely lunch .

Just off to bed now but will come back tomorrow to explain how DS1 ended up telling LG's mum that his daddy has a big willy !

I do want to hear that story dizzy and glad you had nice day with lag.

Lag did work bag show up? And yes that nappy story is very much what goes on (have changed nappy cream which helps but dd2 is exactly as you say as poos all time and Therfore rash).

Taking it easy back home- had really down day yesterday where felt tired sick and tearful . think part of it may be that I abandoned the strong painkillers had been on since having dd2 as didn't feel need. Didn't realize (and did google but also asked my dad) that there can be a withdrawal jncl horrific mood swings . That and giving up bf (horrendous night sweats) made for nice day.

Dh home today which is nice.