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[StitchingMoss]

Getting exciting now !

marking my spot x

Good morning all, firstly gig, sorry hosp apt want more conclusive..sending live and positive vibes your way.

Well were in! Nightmare move in about a foot of snow, am absolutely shattere

d and so don't want to do this again in 6 months! Well just have to buy it ! Lovely warm house though, makes a change.limited internet so can't post often, love to all.
God luck for move lag.

Thanks for good vibes. Am up and down but really determined to beat this. Dh and my mum and the nanny (whose bf had cancer) being amazing as are you guys. My dad really struggling bless him

Snow here so think some excitement from dd today

Hi to all

If your dad is anything like mine he'll be feeling a bit helpless. Can you get him to do anything for you to make him feel useful? Even if it's just putting up a shelf?

Glad you're all moved in Deb.

I hope those of you with snow enjoy it! We don't have as much as a snowflake but I'm quite pleased about that!

at idea of putting up shelf. My dad notoriously impractical . I think being quite negative (as seen the worst) and wanting to get involved (as wanted to ring dr) his way of coping as you say. He had just left a message so may let dh call as an having good day (was very down yesterday).

I know we had a chat about this yesterday, and I do think family members who are doctors/nurses find it very hard when their loved ones are ill as they know too much . I feel so sorry for your dad, but he also has to respect you as an adult, and your relationship with your dh, and how you want to deal with all this yourself and with dh and not with him. He still thinks of you as his little girl and wants to protect you .

Glad you've had a good day, and hope you got the knitting out .

We've enjoyed the snow but still wiped out from this crappy cold and would like a long sleep!

Hope everyone else ok, of to watch Call the Madwife .

I'm glad to hear that you've had a good day. Did DD1 get out in the snow? It's incredibly weird all this bad weather everywhere and there isn't a hint of it here!

You're right not to phone your dad if you think he's likely to bring yourself. This is most def one of those times where you get to put yourself first!

Nothing exciting to report here. Exceptionally dull w/e of chores but the house is looking much better for it which means we can crack on with some of the 'get it ready to sell' jobs that desperately need doing. I'm looking forward to a nice day with DS1 tomorrow though.

Evening All.

Gig - I hope that DH talking to your Dad helps. Like others have said you need to take the route that is easiest for you at the moment, rather than worry about other people's reactions. I am glad that your DH is such a rock for you. I have never met the man but you two always sound like such a strong unit. Hope that snow today brought some fun for DD1.

We trekked the boys up the big hill behind our house today. It was cool doing a very long sledge run with DS1 for the first time. He was exhausted afterwards and was begging for bed this evening.

DH and I are both a bit shattered this weekend, hence we are both in bed now at 9.30! Yesterday we failed to get anything done at all, today was better with ovens and bathrooms cleaned, plus I waded through boxes and bags of boys clothes ranging from 3mo up to 4yrs that have somehow escaped my boxing and labelling system thus far. I am feeling slightly better prepared for moving. I realise all of this could be tackled after the move, but it is just going to be irritating to move a load of stuff that then goes straight in the bin.

Deb - congratulations on getting moved despite the snow posing some challenges. Can you have a bit of a rest now?

SP - in answer to your earlier question about whether we do lots of special stuff at the weekend. No we tend not to. I don't normally do lots of housework at the weekend though as I stay on top of that during the week (sort of) but then there has to be some benefit to being a SAHM doesn't there ?However, we are often both shattered at the weekend and need the mornings to play sleep tag. The thing we do as a family most weekends is walk up the high street for a coffee and cake/gingerbread man if you are DS1. In the last 6 months I have made a point of going to an aerobics class on a Sunday morning in order to do something "for me". In part I feel guilty about taking the time, but then I also think it is important to reserve some time on my own, take time to exercise etc. I wish I could lose the guilt though! Similarly DH will also go running every weekend. Our hope is that once we are moved DH's commute will be shorter; we will be less tired at the weekend; and we will both be able to start doing stuff "for ourselves" again in the evenings. That has been pretty much impossible for the last 6 months.

Bedtime!

Hi all, forgot to thank everyone yesterday for their good wishes about my job , but thank you .

LG, I think it's so easy for mums to feel guilty about having me-time, but why do we do it to ourselves? I don't expect many/any of our dhs have the same guilt!

Deb, hope you're all settled in.

Having a quiet afternoon at home, although expecting some of the NCT crowd over later. It's going to be quite an adjustment being back at work again, but one I'm looking forward to .

Completely agree with Stitching re me time.lag both you and your dp seem to have worked so hard and long hours that I really hope that new house and shorter commute (this in particular has got to make a difference) are new start for you. Are you still getting packers to do move?

Deb how is new house now? Are you working this week or have you got time to sort stuff?
Scottish - how was your Monday at home? Have you got list now of what you want done on house ?
Stitching- is new job start in 2 weeks?

Went to see dd1 do a "show" with her gym class this pm which was lovely. And was nice to go out and do something normal .

Dh has talked to my dad and got him to agree not to call drs (in my lighter moments I can see how that call will go" I just want to talk to you about my daughter - you know the 39 year old married mother of two" can see dr instantly waiving patient confidentially on that basis ).

Tomorrow have MRI scan in morning then oncologist appt in afternoon. I know it's good to get things moving but am also bloody terrified of more bad news. This time last week I didn't know...
I also know need to take Care of myself and get rest as that affects my mood (and am still only 2 weeks post birth). My mum happy to help and have discussed getting odd night with night nanny to help. The issue is dh who wants to do it all/keep it to us and nanny (I know I am ridiculously spoiled with help I have) but I worry for his health as much as mine as he has to work.

Gig - positive vibes for today. Your DH is probably still running on adrenalin after all that has happened in the last few weeks. Is he back at work now? Wanting to do it all himself is probably him wanting to protect you in a situation that he feels unable to control. I think you are right to get extra help in. Both you and your DH need to be as rested as possible as cancer treatment is a long haul. Don't apologise for the help you have. Anyone who has a problem with you having a nanny and your Mum being around is a lunatic and not a true friend.

More food vibes from me Gig and I'd echo everything LaG said!

I like the idea of a food vibe SP .

Gig, I think ur dh's wish to manage alone is laudable but misguided - as LG says no one will judge you for getting whatever help you need. Thinking of you today x

Thanks all for the food vibes. And agree dh is running on his nerves. Think I will raise help again when we have a plan on treatment.

Scan done - oncologist later. Have gone beyond nervous and scared and am just done in now. Not sure how will take it if more bad news or even if I know what bad news is now as am so nervous struggle to make sense of what told .

Just quick update- op Friday. No real news on rest as haven't concluded on what spots are but lump coming outa start.

Am bit shaky and scared so will try to post when I can.

Thanks for the update. I have been checking in on and off to see how you got on.

Sorry you still haven't got an answer on the spots. The waiting and wondering must be dreadful, especially after you will have psyched yourself up for this afternoon's appointment.

We are here tomorrow but the packers are arriving. So, I am not sure at what point we will lose Internet access. We have 3G here but not sure about the new place. DH is muttering about wifi hotspots None the less I will be checking in when I can in the run up to Friday.

Change of subject:

Guess what fairly significant thing we have forgotten about for the move?

Yes...we forgot to sign and return the contract for the sale of this house. I have narrowly avoided a mission to our solicitor's in Berkshire tomorrow by realising that I could drop the contract off with our buyer's solicitor here.

Just checking in on you gig, sorry to hear the results were inconclusive.I hope the OP goes ok on Friday.once that lump has gone I think out will make a difference to how you are feeling, that's the first big hurdle. get all the help you can,a nig
ht nanny would mean everyone more able to cope with the days.thinking about you, but like lag, only limited internet.

Lag, good luck with the move,c ant believe you forgot to sign the papers!

Gig, sorry there's no more news. As we say up here, that's just pish.

at food vibes from me!

Glad you remembered about the contract on time LaG.

No news from here, except last night in a completely frivolous moment I paid best part of £200 on Madonna tickets for pretty average seats. It had better be good. DH took quite a bit of persuading so I'll not be popular if we don't have a good time!

Hasn't your dh only just recovered from you finding all your take that cds Scottish? And was wine involved in this purchase

Rather than you than me SP - have to confess I've never understood the fuss about Madonna, but hear she's good in concert .

at forgetting to sign the papers for your move LG!

Gig, I agree with deb that removing the lump is going to be very significant for your physical and psychological welfare. Will be watching and waiting for news x

Not much to report here, days for work have been confirmed as mon-weds and hoping to start 0n the 20th but usual messing around with paperwork could mean a week's delay . Diet not going so well as have lost my way a bit this week, but need to refocus .

Contract is now with the solicitor. Phew.

Packers are motoring through, but have packed all the nappies when we weren't paying attention.

Done playgroup this morning soft play next (once we have bought some nappies). Anything to keep the boys occupied.

DH says he is tired and about to go on a conference call.

DH latest: "I've really enjoyed my relaxing day."

WTF?

Is he annoying you somewhat lag?

perhaps.

Actually he is being lovely and I am being G.R.U.M.P.Y. But then I feel as though I have done all of the thinking, planning, childcare whilst he has wandered around in a daze letting the packers pack all sorts that we might need tonight (pans, pasta, gin) thinking how relaxing this all is.

Never mind. All trivial really. Better get some sleep.