Evening ladies. Just managed to skim the thread - eyes rolling in the back of my head due to sleep deprivation. Thanks so much for all the love, I'm really overwhelmed with it xxxx
Fortunately do have amazing support in rl. Dp works in psyche rehab and has lots of experience, and importantly ds respects him, although he doesn't actually know him very well, due to ds being absent from home for the last few years
He's seventeen. I had him at eighteen, and my very disfunctional narc mother has had far too much input in his life.
yes, I think I may investigate the teenage threads. I feel like his drug use will not be curtailed by this, and he's headed for more problems. If the gob rot doesn't get him first. It's an awful wound, but they managed to stitch him up whilst dp and I held him down a bit and he was abusive to the staff 
fuck I'm incoherent. He's asleep at my mothers appalling doss pit. She had moved out of the flat they shared months ago, and has now moved back.... At least he's asleep. Maybe it will mend his brain a bit.
Back tomorrow fresh as a daisy
Thanks again everyone xxx