Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 22

[Monty100]

Yay, did I make it to the bar first again??

Hi all,

Rubbish weekend for me, have had vertigo and fuzzy head since friday night mum has took kids for me this avo and feel a bit brighter at the mo but still not right! Did have a nice eve friday tho, bf met dc's all went well and they both really like him. Will be back properly when I can spend longer on laptop without feeling sick!

get well soon betty

do you remember a few weeks ago i got a text from a guy i was seeing last year, who disappeared without a word, and the text was asking for a second chance?

well he just messaged me again, asking if i still hated him and he was sorry for being an ass and he missed me!

he also said he had been texting and emailing me for months (not true)

i sent hima reply saying i hadnt had any emails etc , and i didnt hate him as it was all a long time ago and i was v happy with my bf of 6 months, so no hard feelings

dp asked if he could ask him wtf he wanted from his gf lol

Lol...Lou. That made me smile.www.mumsnet.com/te/1.gif

I meant the bit abt ur dp.

Yes I laughed too. He said the same last time this guy got in touch too. He was very close to calling him about it!

Hi everyone

hi clara.

lou @ DP getting all masterful again. Odd blokey texts thou - totally random.

u & me - it sounds like a very tricky situation to try & come out of. agree with lou tbh it sounds very sad that's the only way you'll be free.

ref last night's football - OMG!!! seriously WHO put that man in goal?!? we missed our first goal, but managed to get there for about 15 mins in - town was dead thou, next to no one in the restaurants - it was great!

Hi everyone - had a lovely day today.

Betty - sorry to hear that what triggered it ? I often have fuzzy head but not vertigo have no idea why it happens

U and me must confess to having a similar thought feel very guilty about it. Aso my ds1 has started cricket and we have been there today (also in London)

Anyway left houst at 8 am went to ds1s cricket at Ham (nr Richmond) - beautiful place. A RL friend who lives nearby came over for a chat and catch up while we watched cricket.

Then drove to ds2's football awards ceremony. That was really good finishing with a mums football match (not involving me I hasten to add). Exh showed no interest whatsoever in coming to this and has not asked ds2 anything about it

now scoffing Indian takeaway watching football. Still feeling happy and think it's the summer weather etc.

Supporting Australia tonight.

Hi everyone, Just checking in. Agree about the football, a dissapointment so far, hope it improves for us.

Not much to report from me. Went out for a meal on Friday night with a friend who drinks a lot. Don't remember much about the last hour. Had to go into work today to help at our Garden Party. I was indoors making refreshments which was good as it was pouring down. Recovered from Friday now as having a glass of Rose.

Bumped into Salesman yesterday in the supermarket. He was friendly enough and still promising DD a spin in his car.

Boy I am shattered after today. And thankfully now in bed. No reply from that bloke so hopefully he has finally given up.

Goodnight from me

hello all.

just wanted to say hi, dd is getting on much better with her hip problem. It was finally diagnosed as tight iliotibial band syndrome, and will prob stay with her till adulthood. yet we are doing all we can to help her now.

i had a glich, an unavailable male friend and i got a bit text happy, and i basically put a stop to it. I feel terribly sad, but he needs to sort his life out. it was totally out of the blue, and we both never would have 'gone there', The attraction is strong, and i like him, and he likes me very much.

I guess it happens, but i never thoughtit would happen to me, seeing as my dh left me, and my mum left my dad yrs aggo. I thought i'd expereinced most relationships but this was a real shock.

Hi all

Just checking in.

SCL - could I have a pint of what you're drinking?

Pirate, I hope dd is at least not experiencing the discomfort.

Lou - nn

Hi Clara, Belle, Betty, and anyone else I've missed.

Been out for a drive today in the countryside, nothing exciting to report.

Skyman is now in a FB relationship as of tonight

All off with squaddie...he possibly probably has a gf. Obviously he is denying, but the person who told me has no reason to lie. So thats been knocked on the head.

So now am chatting to a couple more on POF, thought I'd get straight back out there!

Hope everyones ok tonight? Been reading through, but not really had chance to post much. Uandme...maybe just finding some fellas online to chat to online would be a nice idea-ease you back into it?That way you dont have to worry about babysitting, and I found it really helpful to do it as it showed me what I was looking for when I was in touch with someone, helped me realise when someone was likely to be more inappropriate and I should stop contact, get used to flirting again...and its a bloody good confidence boost!

dd back to huge discomfort this morning, bloody hell.

Morning everyone...
Thanks for the replies and advice Clara, Southbelle, Sincity.

I put myself up on a website not with a pic of myself. I was basically honest abt having kids. I got quite a few friend requests from guys.

I have only really spoken to one just for a little while, but its true what u say Clara about finding out about whats good for u and whats not.

Mine being an arranged marriage i never really got to know what was my ideal. I have realised i am a bit of a prude..lol. Abit boring.
Kind of old school. At the moment i dont think i have the guts to meet someone in person.

But it sure felt good to think that someone was interested in me.

Pirate - Was dd able to go to school?

Clara - that's the spirit!

uandme - I didn't do online dating for long but from what I know you learn how to seperate the wheat from the chaff iyswim. It's worth it even if only to boost your ego, the others on here will fill you in, there are some idiots on there so take your time. Also, it's ok to be old school, go with what you feel comfortable with and don't let anyone put you under pressure.

Sponge - any word from that fella from the wedding?

I forgot to say on here that when I went to that wedding reception last week I was seriously chatted up by a lovely guy in his 30's, said he'd been 'eyeing' me up for years lol.(Not that he would have gotten anywhere with me, but just nice to get compliments). It was all very lovely until he tells me his partner and baby were upstairs in their hotel room. What a cad! There's some arseholes around isn't there.

How's everyone else? Hope you're all ok.

Monty...Lolll
Yes there are some a*holes around.

monty, no she's sitting downstairs, and i am just so fecked of with the whole thing tbh. x

PC - your poor DD Read your post from yesterday and thought things had improved. Is there anything more they can do in terms of physio or similar, or just a case of living with the flare ups?

uandme- given what you've said about your upbringing etc, I think online stuff would work very well for you, to give you some confidence at first, and will allow you to go at your own pace. treat it as an exercise in gentle flirting, and to work out what you do and don't want, and you wont go far wrong. Don't feel under pressure to meet up or exchange numbers, i always bin off the ones I feel are too pushy fairly quickly!

monty - man at wedding and I didnt get to the number exchanging stage, he's far too young for me anyway so I don't expect anything to come of it. However he is quite gorge so I was just flattered by the attention! I am assisting him with some stuff in my legal capacity - albeit unofficially- so our paths are likely to cross again at some point...

Pirate - is this what dd's stuck with now untils he 'grows' out of it? Is there nothing they can do?

uandme - have you started getting out of the house without your dc's?

hatesponge...thanks for the input.
Monty ...no not yet. Where do i start? I go out the shops but just on my own.
I did do some short courses in sept. Singing, sewing and Assertiveness. The sewing one only had women. The singing one had a few guys but they were much older 50+.
It could be due to them being daytime courses. I think if i could get out to something in the evening, might have a better chance of meeting people more suitable.
Which is abit difficult what with the kids. But i suppose could sort out babysitter.

hi, she's stuck with this i am afraid. I have child with an intermittent disability, and its really hit me today.

She will be having pyhsio to help, but there is no actual cure for the pain. There are cortisone injections into the hip, but i think it is too soon to think about those yet. It's day to day, learning what she can do, on 'normal'or less painful days. She had 5 good days.

Pirate...sorry to hear all this for your poor DD.Is it something shes suffered with for a long time or only flared up lately? It must be awful seeing her in pain, I really feel for you both

Uandme...do you have any friends you could go out with on an evening if you could get a babysitter? Even just to your local for a half of lager or an orange juice? It really sounds as if you need to spend some time getting back to you, with or without fellas involved. I tried to start dating before I had got my confidence back up, and I ended up taking it all so personally, it did me more damage than good. So I really would recommend spending time with old friends again, or doing something just for you, that makes you feel good. It really doe make you feel soooo much better about yourself!

Clara i think u may b right.
Just been talking to someone on msn who just seems to want to talk innappropriate stuff. Hes got a wife back home.
I couldn't carry on, felt like i was being a part of betraying her.
I don't think that he would take it well if she was chatting to guys while he was away.
Sorry maybe i'm just abit uptight. i don't feel comfortable knowing that he has someone waiting for him.
It would be different if he was divorced or separated.
Maybe doing things to get myself back is prob a better idea.
Is it me or do most men have one track minds?

u and me
it isn't uptight not to want to waste your time on married men it's normal!
welcome to the thread
hello everyone else can I just say ffffck to bt outreach, esp the blokey who mended my neighbour's phone but then had to go and have his dinner so mine was off all weekend
pmg I am sorry court has been such a waste of time so far
juicy, did you contact them about job?! ooh I can't believe it, you must be kicking yourself
pc sorry dd is no better
well my exams have finished - hurray - tho am keeping in touch with some of the group which is good
belle i am a TA at dc school
monty bbq is in a week
oh, I went to visit a friend tonight and her dp is leaving her, because he wants 'serendipity' - yeah, right - who? She has two dc with an exh and a toddler with this feckless tosser
oh it does make me cross