Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 21

[Monty100]

Did anyone beat me to it??

got his thai woman preggers. moving to his home country as she has been refused re-entry to uk. moving very soon

Evening all - have been lurking but a bit down in the dumps so not posting. No particular reason....... apart from before.

OMG Juice .....

you ok monty - what's happening in your world atm?

oh juice, what are they like

Hi Belle - oh, I just need a rocket up my posterior. All ok really. Thanks

Was sorry about the football today. Grr

hi

joined up on a dating website friday after giving up on line dating last year.

Well, less that 48 hours on and i have 3 dates for next week.

Witty baker - who seems very very funny. likes the same music.food.films etc. same age. divorced. no children. Lots of texts.

broker: moved her from london. has a lotus! seems nice though queiter than me. Lots of texts.

Hippy: very good looking. same wavelenght. maybe too deep thinker and i think he might end up not turning up/cancelling.. thats just the feeling i get.

not bad though.

wish me luck girls, not dated for a while and was heartbrokend after last relationship.
could do with first date advice.

hi all.

i have just spent the best part of last week in hosp with dd.

cos of her hip

my face looks like a bit of battered cod! it's been stressful to say the least.

oh no pirate, how's DD now?

rubber - hiya, what it is you're after knowing?

monty - ah don't worry there was lots of fighting here last night thou.

how's every one today? 5 more sleeps till my dirty weekend date with soldier. YAY!

Hi Im rubber,

Have posted on your other thread.

Go and have fun!!

well. i just want to know if my thinking is right. i was a dating novice about a year ago. then got my heart broken by someone i met online.

few months down the line and i signed up again and this is what ive learnt:

• meet quickly. Talking for weeks and weeks/months and months just builds up a false relationship/exectations/situation.

• if they like you. they will contact you. They will ask you. DO NOT spend time chasing after some who is clearly not interested.

• I am fantastic! they should want to get to know me/impress me/etc... if they put me down or i feel i have to jump though hooops or name drop to be as cool as them. they are not for me.

• ignore those that speak text speak

• weed out the freaks.

so from that im meeting these guys super quick. Am hoping that that keeps it casual and low key. Am meeting one in pub on thursday. there will be drinking. what time do you think i should leave? want to be a bit ellusive.....

Unless you really hit it off dont ever get drunk, it clouds your judgement. I normally reckon 2 hours max and have a getaway plan

That said, I met one rather nice date and we talked for about 4 hours until we got chucked out of the pub and we only had one drink each and a coffee as were both driving so you never know!

rubber-think u've got most of it covered. I would just say dont go with too many expectations, and just look at the 1st date as having a night out and meeting someone new! Most people know after the 1st date if they want to see someone again or not.

juice-omg hope you are ok

pirate-sorry to hear about dd, hope she's on the mend now then

monty-chin up

belle-you sound very excited about you -dirty--weekend- date with soldier, I sense you are warming to him more now

I'm still meeting boilerman tonight, I'm thinking I will get my pressie tonight

betty - well it's been getting harder not to warm to him esp since he's in the middle of the harbour in plymouth & still managed to interflora me a fab bunch of flowers, we shall see how I feel after the weekend I think tbh. might keep him about for a bit thou.

rubber - yeah think you've about summed it up tbh. and ref leaving well it's up to you, with pub dates during the week i've always left by 11.30pm latest - ie drink up after last orders & come away. with soldier thou i'd pre warned him i'd be leaving by 10 pm latest on account of having a curfew if DS doesn't stay with mum & dad

oh and betty - you have to tell us what the pressie is!!

Afternoon all,

Betty - enjoy your date tonight

Belle - for next weekend

Juice - hope you're okay

Rubber - good luck with the dates

Pirate - hope DD is okay

Well i've had a lovely weekend with Mr Blue. Date last night was great, he really makes me laugh and so cheeky! Spent the afternoon together too today at his house . He's driving back to base now so may see him when he's back although he has his kids that weekend so it will only be a pop-in to his late Friday night if I get chance after I've been out with mates.

Forgot to say, he let it slip last night he'd emailed me twice on the site last year and I'd not replied. Oops.

go sm - so you quite like this one then? shows he must have been keen then to keep tryin with you.

sm-well you must have enjoyed yourself to see him today as well

yes he's good looking, makes me laugh. Shame he's not a tad taller - he's still taller than me but if I wear 4 inch heels we're the same height. Not enough to put me off though.

The only thing I'm a bit about is he's still on the site - now I know we've only had 3 dates so I know I'm being unreasonable, but he was on it after I left - and I know I shouldn't check 'cos it winds me up a bit! He hasn't hid that he is still on as we talked about the site Sat night and he was saying about messages he gets - he does only seem to be on for 30 mins or so so don't reckon he's having lengthy chats and he can't be seeing anyone else due to the amount of texts he sends me in an eve! I know, I know I'm being unreasonable but still ... feel like I dont want to take it too much further if you know what I mean whilst he's on the site.

have you discussed exclusivity at all? or did you make a joke of OMG you'll never guess what I was sent the other day sort of a thing.

Hi SM - glad you enjoyed yourself - maybe it's time to put your cards on the table and tell him you're not going to take him seriously unless he hides/deletes himself?

I'm not sure what my take would be - some people, me included, use the sites to chat to people you've no intention of meeting/don't fancy/just think of as cyber-friends ... but if you don't like it, think you've got the right to say.

Meanwhile, where's Sponge when you need her - and is your membership of Match/Meetic still running - got a message off a possible but not prepared to pay the sub so if you'd send a message for me I'd be ever so grateful.

And PMG, what happened? Are you okay? Did you get your bike back?

And Pirate - how's your daughter ... and you? You must be absolutely stressed to bits.

I am shitfaced on wolf blass it's half priced in asda
hellooooo!

clouds judgement oh feck
will have a coffee and a read
just take this as place marking

ninah,

hi kdk.

Belle - no not discussed exclusivity, just made a joke of messages. Want to make my point but not in a too serious way, not sure how to though.

KDK - I really don't think he's using it to arrange to meet other people as like I say he couldn't fit it in at the moment! So I think he does go on and check messages and also he's bored. Still makes me feel a bit p'd off that he's bothering to go on at all, unless he is just after one thing. And if he was just after one thing, wouldn't he have more than just me on the go?

By the way I'm still subscribed to DD if the person you like is on there I could message them for you.

Ninah - like your style!