where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT20

[Betty79]

Has no one beat me to it with a new thread yet?

hi all

work been frantic and we had a conference today I was so tired and hungry on the way home started to feel really weird and jtttery - once eaten felt alot better.

Gnerally sex is a very big deal for me and having spent many years in my mainly sexless marriage like to have sex whenever possible but like juice not with random men with someone I do know and have some rapport with. But could be a casual thing.

Eve sorry to hear he has turned up again.

to everyone on dates hope you have a good time.

I have replied to one mail from one of the sites but doubt it will be more than a bit of banter. Younger than me (that's not hard tbh) but I liked the look and profile so we'll see.

Found out exh has not been entirely truthful with his new p and ticked him off for it. He told me I wasn't digging for it. I sort of hoped that he would be different with new p but it seems not.

Eve - you are a big softie!! (so am I). Apart from anything else, DD will be furious if you don't get rid.

Hi everyone else .

Morning all.

Eve - how are you today? Did Athletic stay?

Well, here we go again. Looks like date is on for tomorrow. Need advice on what to wear! Its an afternoon coffee, so reckon on jeans will be okay. But what top?! Either a tight fitting t-shirt (shows all assets! get lots of looks when wear it, but maybe doesn't look like made too much effort - can I get away with this), gypsy top (okay if its sunny) or ditsy print top (bit baggy)??

Makes a change from asking for recipe advice!

go you singlegirl!!

wear whatever you feel good in, but tbh i would go for something slightly more dressy than the t shirt!!
shop has been crossed off. can't go into dets as am aware of outing and stuff on here. lets just in mn terms this, he is a dh. so there we go.

big yawn..... morning all.

well I think marine is gay, bi sexual or v v v secure with his sexuality - he opted against combat last night to watch the whole of series one of glee! GLEE! GLEE I ask you - have you seen it!? lol. althou with hip action like his it would really not surprise me the way he wiggles his butt!
oh and soldier has asked me to meet him for a w.e (well over night) stay away when he's on shore leave for a weekend in 2 weeks assuming XH has DS. have so far agreed, so we shall see. but then again thou he's home the weekend after for a month, or a week I don't know forget now so if not will sort something out for that week.

also doing my garden/some DIY today - eek! lol.

right so lets catch up.....

eve - hope you haven't let athletic stay?

pirate - what a cheeky sod - obv only after a bit of up n down action! git. NEXT!

SM - i'd go with a smart top of some sort gypsy one sounds nice. good luck.

hi sin.

steak is nice - but I find I don't cook it right so it comes out like a slice of tough leather lol.

kdk - agree sounds complicated.

juicy/ninah/lou. big hellos.

pc - .. arse!!

sm - did you send him photo.. nothing wrong with him asking for photo.

ninah - i think you should go give thai farmer another chance.

lou - were you having a steak and bj day .... i find they go down very well in my book

belle - as i said on msn.. i know plenty of very straight men who are fanatical about glee.. i cant fathom it.. its odd. but not uncommon aparently.

and... do you think you are ready for an overnight with soldier?

eve - yup... i would have the heartlessness to turf him out on street if he'd gone as far as athletic has. you have more patience than me.

scl - i dont think peoples personalities ever change. when they say people change they mean their aims in life, goals, etc... but sadly.. their faults (and good points).. always stay with them

sm - tight well fitted t shirt(black or white preferably) and well fitting jeans are a winning combination for me. makes the best of your attributes, without flashing inapprpriate amount of flesh. oh.. and jazz it up with some wicked footwear and a statement piece of jewellery... but make sure you are comfotable is most important thing. no fussy gipsy tops if your going to be conscious of how its sitting all day or if it makes you look frumpy and mumsy.

i'm off to a kids part today at soft play ... wish it was in a back garden.. where there would have been wine supplied

and i'm not keen on the fb tweet thing.

Juice - enjoy the party! I take it its not a soft play attached to a pub like down here! Yes I would be hitching up the gypsy tops and I don't want to look mumsy!

sm - enjoy your date.

juicy - soft play - YAY! have fun lol.

well rain's cloeed play on my back garden so actually might head to tescos for some garden toy's for DS as can't cut the grass - arse. done the front thou. ref the over night with sailor - tbh if I do end up going I have a friend down that way anyways so will say to her i'm coming down shall we go out for a few drinks/meet this chappy & a few of his friends (she's also single) and crash with her - don't think it's time yet for doing the whole hotel one night etc etc.

Hi all

Can I join in ? I'm new, recently-ish separated and finding all this getting out there thing hard work.

Meeting up tonight with some of the ones I used to hang about with before I was married (ie over 20 years ago),just drinks at someone's house, what should I wear?

(Background.. the bloke I used to have a crush on aged 17 when he was 23 is going to be there now! Has changed his plans to be there and allegedly used to think i was "a babe")

Hi knockraven - welcome to the thread. You're right about it being hard work! I would go for jeans and a nice top. Have you kept in touch with them/him or will it be the first time you've seen him/them in ages?

hi raven - well since it's a sat night... and is it a party? if its a party i'd go for jeans, heels and a slightly jazzy top. something comfy that you can lounge around on a sofa and not worry about how you look sitting down (when i'm going to a night where i'm standing all night i dont mind tight jeans and tops. but can be prone to muffin top when i sit down in them to excess skin. if your a skinny minny you wont suffer this, but something to think about)... AND... make sure toes are done or socks are preistine if you may end up being asked to remove shoes!!!!

lol juice, he gets those all the time anyway!

i made this, and it was a resounding success with all of us

bf just bought me a jacket i was coveting in tk maxx, bargain of the month, there was only one there when i tried it on in the week, and luckily when we went back today it had still not been bought, so it's mine now

very faded pinstripe denim blazer style jacket by o'neill, reduced to 20 quid from 150 and this seasons stock

sounds hideous but is lovely and v me

woohoo

also he bought dd2 some new summer pumps and ds1 a big water pistol thing, the others werent with us so didnt get them anything

i think dd1 is nursing a hangover from her night out , under the pretence of having an upset stomach, she is sleeping

hi everyone I am new to these threads and hope I am allowed to just plunder on n?

I am single parent to DS age 5, just had my 'friends with benefits' arrangement changed back to friends only so have plunged into the murky waters of POF and feel a little overwhelmed. Have never been on a dating website before.

Any wise advice that may be helpful is much appreciated.

hi and welcome silver and raven

there is plenty of experience of online dating on this thread, what would you like to know?

Well Lou I'm glad you asked I have just had someone on POF in his 2nd message ask me to add him on facebook if I have it. Is this unwise??

How do most of you use the sites? Do you wait for messages to come in? Or search and message people, or both? I have not replied to people who have messaged me that I don't fancy, live other end of country, seem weird, etc - is this normal or frowned upon as bad manners?

POF seems busy I am overwhelmed already. And already have had a few weird messages.

i would tell him no to fb, i used to tell anyone i only add people when i know they arent a nut, same with my number or msn

wrt pof, when i was on there, i mostly got messages but did also send them if i wanted

i never replied to anyone i was not interested in, and i wouldnt have anyone rush me to meet, i got to know them

mostly guys were ok about it, and the ones that werent could fuck right off imo

take it at your pace, you be in charge of how fast or slow you want to take it, or what you want from anyone

any help?

i don't do facebook, so wouldn't know, but i prefer to message on the datessite for a bit then msn if i think i want some 'real time' contact!!

I message anyone i fancy, don't reply to those i don't.

simples

Welcome to Silver and Raven. Raven the party sounds exciting. Wonder if he is still fit, interesting and available.

Last night erupted in a scene. He asked to come in for an hour and just wouldn't leave, was waiting for someone to finish work. DD lost it. Got an apology today but he will never get in this house again. Any ridiculous feelings I had have all disappeared now. Examining what has happened has made me realise that I am perhaps a lot more lonely than I thought and was prepared to have the company of a very attractive younger man despite knowing it was wrong and how much of a cad he is. Gosh just call me Audrey from now on.

SM01 enjoy your date.

Pirate, what a cheek.

Belle, is the weekend planned with the one you didn't feel a spark with. Is that a good idea or were you just covering in case he didn't feel it. Sounds like he did with an invite like that.

Jacket sounds nice Lou. I bought myself a new top today. Needed to cheer myself up.

Thanks PC and lou

My usual facebook rules are I wouldn't add anyone I wouldn't comfortably invite into my home (as I figure they are seeing family albums and daily occurences, etc) so for now the guy who asked on POF will be being told no.

Glad I am not being harsh by not replying to everyone. Although the one guy I did reply to who I wasn't that fussed by the look of him now seems really keen and fairly nice but I don't really fancy him.

dont feel bad eve, just use it as a learning curve

i just put a pic of my jacket on fb too

bf has just gutted the boys room, rearranged the furniture as i wanted it, and hoovered all the mess up

looks great (him and the room)

you can restrict people on fb to limited profiles, but i still wouldnt add anyone that soon

deffo have to discriminate on wether you actually like them.

earlier we were saying that if you think you'd shag then then talk to them, no point otherwise!!!

eve. am glad you had this wakeup call, to the realty of the situation. It is very easy and natural to want the male company ans attention, I feel like that today, having has someone interested, so i think unit it's in your 'own head' that this is not a good situation, then all the advice in the world is not going to get thru!

well I'm not a happy bunny today we got an ass whooping by the navy. - soooo not impressed!

raven - hiya & good luck. agree jeans boots nice jazzy top - sorted.

lou - wow bargin form BF bless him.

am off to die into a nice lush bubble bath. been a hard day all the gardening. lol.

shining - lou speaks sense - even thou I can restrict my FB to certain mates only I don't add people for a while - tbh if a chap gets my real name he's doing well - my MSN is better then it's FB then my mobile. (only 2 or 3 have gotten to the last stage lol)

eve - that sounds awful - i'm so glad you've kicked him into touch totally now. How dare he refuse to leave your house - showing his true colours now. what do you mean ref spark? no seems ok - we talk well on the blower etc so if nout else I think he'll be a good mate.