where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT20

[Betty79]

Has no one beat me to it with a new thread yet?

Belle, there have been good uns, but I never fall for them! I know I don't need any man in my life, this took me by surprise which is often the case.

SM01 what happened with the guy from here, Are you in touch still? I caught up a bit late but did feel like telling him this is an advice thread and not a dating thread but didn't want to spoil the fun. Be interesting if you do meet up though if you both add a post date message.

Eve all,

Lou - cheeky bloke!

Belle/Eve - have resisted any temptation to text older bloke, and have heard nothing more. Dad2 bloke left me a message on messenger, but I haven't responded.

PC - thanks, I'll keep it in mind. Messaging a couple on pof so see how that goes, but may ask you to send message to 2 on DD - one is seriously sexy!

Good evening. Hope you don't mind me joining you?
My ex moved out nearly a year ago and I'm just now thinking that I would like to meet someone new, but don't really know how to go about it!
I've been lurking here a little and have read about POF, so have signed up. But I've no idea what I'm doing!!
Any pointers for a newbie?

yep cheeky is an understatement

the exact text was " hey, thought about you a lot this week. Was a bit messed up this time last year, would love to explain. How are you?"

in other words

i fancy a rerun cos my balls are full, and want to tell you ludicrous amounts of lies as to why i was a tosser,when can i come over?

that will be the 12th of never

even if i wasnt with mechanic

mechanic said i was terrible when i mumbled how young this guy was lol

how young was he Lou?

feedmenow - welcome

iirc he was 28

feedmenow, hi, best thing with POF is to just wait for the messages to roll in, don't waste time with people you don't like the look/sound of, be picky and have a good look yourself. I would only message someone if he was local and very fit and interesting.

Ah Lou yes I remember you did attract the younger ones. As I have learnt to my cost it's exciting but not for the long haul.

Thanks Eve. Got any tips on things I should put on my profile?

I see you are talking about younger men....is there an acceptable limit on age difference???

depends on the age gap and maturity of them, i was with exbf who went to thailand for 9 months, and he was 11 yrs younger

mechanic is 5 yrs younger, and the one i am planning to be with for many many years

i had a rule that if i could have given birth to them then i would not date them, but i generally dated men in their late 20s or early/mid 30's

mechanic is upper end of the age range for me (i am 43)

i should add that even with my rule i always added a few more years on for good measure, as i did not want to be mistaken for their mother if i was walking down the road with them

I'll go with that then - if I could have given birth to them I won't date them!! Other than that, they're fair game!

I will try and avoid a 26 year age gap in future.

I've dated younger men and found a 10ish year gap not too bad.

For a profile, I wouldn't go into too much detail. If you have a good photo on your half way there. Most just look at the photo first, shallow, but let's face it we do the same.

feedme - welcome to thread agree - photo is the main thing, I think most guys never read profiles! (or not properly anyway!)

lou - cant believe that guy's nerve! after more than a year...maybe would have heard his 'explanation' if a few weeks, though even then I think I would be some most men clearly just think with one part of their anatomy!

well i have just arranged a date this week with wedding man

ooh sponge how exciting. Keep us all posted.

Thanks eve for the compliment on friday (catching up emoticon) even if you were rather pissed

I had far too much to drink last night went for a drink with some friends and then polished off nearly a bottle of wine at home.

Today have struggled through the boys sports stuff. I had not had a drink for a week before that so it hit me hard!!

I am very underwhelmed with the people who are contacting me on sites - there hasn't been anyone recently I have even wanted to chat to. can't really define what I am looking for but will know it when I seet it.

Also SOH last night even though I felt myself weakening. Bigtime. Good having a new phone because it is doesn't seem as easy to send the odd text. Fairly dullsville though.

Lou - they all pop up eventually don't they? Cheeky though.

I think I have wised up along my dating trail and as people have said now feel like the buyer rather than the merchandise IYKWIM

Morning all, I have a day off today In the hope that I get can a few jobs finished round the house....wonder how far I'll get!

scl-well done for soh even after all that booze lol! I agree with you regards to learning to act as the buyer rather than merchandise!

feedme-hi and good luck with it all, pof is a good place to start but be prepared to get a few messages from people you take one look and go 'noooooo way' lol

sponge-good luck on your date with wedding man!

lou and eve-I have never dated anyone more than a year younger so far, maybe I should try it lol @ your rule of not dating anyone if you could have given birth to!

belle-sounds like marine is a big flirt! but does he do it to other women or do you think he homes in on you because he knows you blush! I wouldnt ask him out if you want to stay doing his class, maybe drop a few big hints and see if he asks you.

betty i havent dated anyone my age since i split with exh h

mechanic is one of the closest to my age

i didnt hear anymore from that guy so he must have realised my silence spoke volumes

hello eveyone lol it's took me half an hour of solid reading to catch up with everyone - it's murder logging back onto this thread after the weekend lol

right, sorry this will be long post and am very sorry if most of what i say is out of date

asbm - webcam wave

monty - lol at your new glasses

lou - rofl at 'jimmy jostles' never heard that before

belle - the farmer seems to be either a chancer or a liar. as for the age issue, it's more of state of mind thing, x is 12 years older than me but made me feel older than him iyswim. so it really depends on how he makes you feel

kdk - lol at being the subject of gossip - i agree that they probably jealous or wishing you the best of british kind of thing? i agree with asbm to just let 'em talk

juice - i hope you get your distinction - you deserve it. as for the text before 7??? i'd tell hi to get stuffed lol

ninah - thanks for party wishes- it went lovely, really well - no arguing tho one girl did have bit of sulk for some reason bless her. one mom said it was the most peaceful happy party she'd been to
and lol at the image of your neighbour being a curtain twitcher

sm - older man and dad2 seem to think that single moms have nothing better to do and are desperate enough to just think of them all the time - fireman - wow, cor, go for it

betty - def get that date with boilerman

sponge - x did what???????? that's pathetic taking doormat. adn as for not telling you where ds2 was playing in case you turn up that's really mean. for you sweetheart
wedding bloke coul dbeinteresting and just the thing to cheer you

one - indie lad sounds ok, good luck for date. name and sham'e a good idea

pc - that website rofl who does he think he is???
and grin at you saying hi to dad2, wondered where he'd disappeared to lol
the polish guy i am a bit dubious about, saying we live together sounds a wee bit like 'my wife doesn't understand me', i had exactly the same from welsh guy last year.

feedme - hello

scl - am very sorry i must be thick i can't remember who you are

as for me, well nothing happening much, am not really bothered tbh, a date would be nice but can't be btohered with all the crap when all they seem to want is just a shag - tho that would be nice too
neighbour seems to have a gf, after what he said about me knwoing that he doesn't bring girls back lol

am really sorry for long post i maanged to bag a notebook so i could remember everyone

lol
hi mrs m glad the party went well..hope you poured yourself a VERY large vino after they'd all gone

i tried to log onto pof but the damn library pc blocked the site!

i would've done but forgot to buy the bottle lol! and had family coming down. i was granted a royal visit from my sister, she comes when she wants not very often we kinda got on ok lol

hey all just place marking again till I get back from my ogle later on.... lol.

place marking

feed - hiya and welcome to the mad house. how are you findin POF? I personally prefer older chaps younger ones just about do my head in tbh. (but they'd be early 20's so deffo a no go for me.)

eve - any thing from athletic?

sm - good you keep SOH's!

sponge - where/when's ya date?

sin - big waves, good to hear the wine went down well. how does one do the buying not merchandising thing then?

betty - he's not really a flirt tbh, during the class he v rarely comes over now after i kept telling him to bugger off. how did you get on with your jobs after?

mrsh - think a few of us are feeling the 'meh' thing at the mo. glad you've caught up thou.

waves to lou, ninah pirate.

anyhow better run ogle I guess - althou aunt isn't coming tonight only uncle & he'll already be up there - eekk.