where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 18)

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part 18.... jeeze 17 threads have past...17 threads worth of dating excitment/disasters.

wonder what number 18 will bring

any predictions anyone?

wedding/co-habitation for someone must be due by now.

asbm - no not yet. think i might feign illness or a prior commitment next saturday & then just try and avoid any contact, hope that works!

monty - yes match seems to have picked up again after a quiet few weeks, though a lot of the recent flurry are middleaged europeans/weirdos/seeking fb etc...but it keeps me entertained if nothing else!

Monty, bless your lovely DS. That has warmed the cockles of my heart and been feeling a bit down recently.

Still box his ears when he comes home tomorrow. lol

Sponge - I had a look on smooch the other night to entertain myself. Jeez. What's happened there? I know a couple of people on here have been saying the same thing about it.

You going to elaborate on what date said that didn't impress you? Just out of nosiness interest.

I'm very picky on political views. I'm not saying they have to be the same as me, but if they hold certain political views I can't entertain them. For example. Is that what you mean?

Eve - cross post. lmao. He was quite taken I have to say, and apart from yourself, there's lookers on there!

And I will box his ears tomorrow. lol

monty just mention that eve that nice lady has dd of a similar age and what her thoughts are on his behaviour tonight..

sponge have to admit that i'm curious about his convo too
was it all me,me,me?
and exw this and exw that?
or was he just a boring fuck?!

ASBM - pmsl at boring fuck. lolol

I was thinking on the lines of telling him I was talking to Eve. It was funny though when he picked Eve out. DS is gorg, did I ever say that, no, really, he is.

Sponge - spillllll????

the conversation...quite a lot about 'issues' not just with Ex wife but family at large, some over-share stuff about previous dates, and too many mentions of sex - albeit that frankly i think on a first date any mention of sex is one too many!

ewww....this is making me all the more determined not to see him again!

Oh dear, I might have had one too many banging on about ds being gorg.

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww - Sponge, run for the hills!

ASBM DD is asleep atm but will mention it tomorrow. Funnily enough I was thinking about DD when I read Monty's worries. I haven't had to worry where she is as she mostly home. One of my favourite songs is from Mamma Mia, 'slipping through my fingers', very appropriate for a single mum/daughter relationship. DD put it on earlier tonight and I changed the words to 'sticking to my fingers'. We all ROFLed at that. Who's to bet I won't be Rolfing when in a couple of years when she goes to Uni.

She does go out now and again and I will encourage her now she is nearly 16!!!! So Monty they are damned if they do and damned if they don't.

Hatesponge don't feel bad, after all they don't worry about us when the boot is on the other foot.

Eve - DS sleepovers are rare indeed. They'll be even rarer now lol. My dd is coming up 17, she has her foibles but nothing like ds has produced. I should be on teenagers posts tonight, I've thought about posting about him there, but I can't bear the thought of the perfect parents' flack. Your dd sounds like a dream to me. (Apart from the not able to have men around lol).

well monty it had to be asked really didn't it?!
and you've made eve's day too..i had to laugh when a 16yr old referred to me as hot!!
it's obv that it's cos we're all yummy mummies lol{proud emoticon}
aww and bless ds being a looker..he's not another heartbreaker like his mum is he?!
do hope you sleep ok
let us know what happens
nn x

monty - i know!!

it wasnt like he said it in a laddish way either..it was more along the lines of 'giving pleasure' type comments

this is a bit off the point but on facebook when you get friend suggestions, will that bring up people who have searched for you?....someone I have no mutual friends with has come up as a friend suggestion - if they're who I think they are, I would expect them to have looked me up (dont worry is not todays date, just someone from my murky past!)....just curious as to whether or not it is them or just coincidence!

Yes Monty that is a major drawback.

Gosh I didn't realise you have a 17 yr old DD as well as DS. It's all coming out tonight. Respect to you with two teens.

Guess I should go to bed now. Went for a drink and a chinese earlier with family and have hit the wine hard since. Said I should go to bed not saying I'm going. Still typing straight so that means I havent had enough!

ASBM - I got called a yummymummy out of a car the other day [preen]. I looked for white labradors in the back of it . Thanks for listening. nn. xx

Sponge - he sounds yuk! As for fb man he wouldn't nec have searched, he might be a friend of a friend, its a fb thing, I always ignore them.

Eve - I know about your drawbacks, I've been listening. I've never known what to say, other than, it will pass when she falls in love maybe?

DD is a dream compared to ds. Exh away since they were 1+10m and 4 yrs . He's was a pig.lol I'll catch you on fb some time for a chat. I'm quite lairy on here at times but shy in rl at times. lol

NN, thanks for listening, I really appreciate it.

xx

Hatesponge, not sure about the suggestions for friends on fb, I've had these but expected it was from friends of friends or just a glip in the system. Not thought of it about them looking on your profile as I often don't know them.

Giving pleasure?? Yeah in your dreams.

Same with the ones who put they are tactile and like to hug in their profile. Yuck!

Monty and ASBM, repeat after me we are all yummy mummys. Last time ASBM chanted this she got coupled up.

Monty, hope to catch you on fb sometime but tbh I just go on for a nosy catch up then logg off as mine is boring. The fit men I have on their seem to opt out of chat.

You said you were shy, well I am sometimes but did have a laugh today watching 'loose women' for all my sins, (slightly less mind numbing than Jeremy Kyle) had a toil day off. Claire Sweeney was on (aka Lindsey Corkhill of Brookside) she is still single afaik but was chatting about her nights out where she leaves her friend/s and is on a 'one woman hen party'. She is having a great time and her friend is stood in the corner watching. Carole McGiffin suggested they went out together one night. Just reminded me of my nights out and wanted to share because it made me lol. But I am shy too.

Anyway this time I really should got to bed so night to anyone who is still up.

Eve - I like Claire Sweeney. at toil day.

I'll try and catch you on fb, but I'm the same as you, not a big user but I'll have a look at times to see if you're on.

It's nn from her, and it's nn from me.

Sleep well ladies, and hope a great Saturday lies ahead (esp for SM01).

NN xx

Morning

Sorry, I fell asleep so did not get back to anyone. Thanks for the sympathy. He has shown his true colours hasn't he.
I think becuase I am the only unmarried person amongst my friends it's worse insome way to be single. But at least I can bugger off to Oz for three weeks and not have to worry about someone else.

Monty - I hope your DS turned up ok and you have stapled a phone to his head

Well since I am up after the 6am rowing run I might as well have a look at what's on offer online these days

monty - heard from ds?

eve - also never knew about dd. hat off(not fascinator) to you for that with such success.

asbm - oooh i remember your munter one with misleading pic.

sponge - talking about previous dates is not too bad if its along lines of "well.. how come your still single and on site"... type of convo... i've had those. but generally becuase i've had the odd weird experience since single. i.e thumb sutting and biting .. makes for a funny tale.

but if he's fugly, there's not much you can do about.

but... as we ladies have experienced. there's nothing worse than you enjoying your date and then the date develops broken finger syndrome.

just send him a polite text. saying
"sorry, i dont think our date on sat would be a good idea. i would be misleading you into thinking i was interested in you in a romantic fashion. you are lovely, sadly i dont feel any connection"

if he replies anything or wants any further explanation. feel free to ignore him then. as he's not entitled to a dissection of it after only one date.

but.... it's wrong to leave him thinking you have a date for sat, and getting excited, when you know full well your not going to go.

karma remember.... think how horrid it feels when you have a 2nd date... only for them to cancel on you and develop BFS

just tried to catch up a little thismorning, as am quite aware i havne't been a regular poster, cos bsically i'vehad nothing to discuss for about a month.

lou33, thanks for the advice about the kids, funny, when i was wrting my post I had you in mind as being able to answer! You and i know the let downs our kids have had with the dads, so i will go with the flow.

lou, I am sorry your bloke did that to you, I remember you saying a few weeks back about it. Really sorry he was so crap, it's a really tough thing, being in a place where you want to trust someone then you do, then they confirm your fears anyway. I am 41 and have the same fears of being single forever, but nope it WILL NOT happen!!

Juice, i think it's cool you just went for it and wenton the date. Def leave that one to get in touch, then i guess you have to be honest. Do share, in what way he wasnt like his picture!!!

Monty, i hope your ds gets in touch this morning.

My 'date' is away this weekend volunteering at a camping thing for kids. Dib Dib Dib and such lol! Texts have been calmer (from my side) and i think we may be heading forwards for now. My initial panic and stuff has abated. The kisses have been pretty full on and i kinda forgot I 'do' have another role other than mummy. Which is v nice indeed !!

ooops sorry i wrote 'juice' instead of 'sponge', apologies.

juice i must read up more on you!

You lot were busy last night lol I was in bed for 10!

For those who asked about trucker, well wed i told him to suggest another date wed when we were last supposed to meet and he said he wud, but even after texts yest there was no suggestion of another date!

Got to get ready to take dd2 to another party in a bit so will come back later to see what everyone else has been up to!

juice - agreed, amusing stories re previous dates are fine, but this stuff was more than , which was why it didnt sit that well with me.

I know what you're saying re seeing him again - although I think the way it was left was that we would try and meet up if I didnt have the children. So I might just use that as an excuse. I know I should be honest and tell him theres no spark etc but I feel mean

piratecat - glad you're feeling better re your man. am sure all will be well, but I do think all the dating stuff raises a lot of issues that perhaps we're not aware of day to day.

as to the photos, I dont know, he's obviously quite photogenic so looked better in them, plus his teeth were a bit ropey (he wasnt showing them in photos)...so all in all,plus the dodgy conversation, it was a no.

however having had 3 dates (this was 4th) where they all rejected me (1st one I had no interest either, second I wasnt sure, would have seen him again to decide, third one I liked a lot) it actually feels good to know someone is actually interested in me. albeit that I have no interest in them and now have to work out how to let them down!