where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 18)

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part 18.... jeeze 17 threads have past...17 threads worth of dating excitment/disasters.

wonder what number 18 will bring

any predictions anyone?

wedding/co-habitation for someone must be due by now.

sorry posted before sending..how's tricks?

ASBM - I messaged him! Well I had to. He was a very pitiful creature indeed.

Will try and think of other names. lololol

Oh now I am depressed. I just looked at GS and not a sinlge person has viewed me in 4 days. I think I will just go to bed now.

I think there was a 'Wholovesyababy' or similar. Might go on and remind myself for the craic.

Lou - I think you have to be online to get viewed. You sound really fed up.

WTF?!
{shakes head in disbelief}
bet he was hot NOT
god it's been ages since i was online but the one who stands out is yourwishismycommand
no pic,never knew if he was online..but his profile was hilarious..omg...he listed his fav sport as 'mummies and daddies' and his fav read as 'mr men and little miss'
for some reason he'd always send me random xxxxxxxxxx messages or waffle about the xfactor

hi all!

That thing about intuition, i always go by mine, but now i find myself befuddled by myself. becuase, intuition can be scrambled by being over anxious, excited and worried. the comes the glee and the fun bit when yu feel ok, and calm.

I was just about to writeonhere last might that i couldn't be arsed aymore with mine. Then, just as i was about to write my phone rang, and it was him.

First time we have properly spoke, in days. Oh yes we have been texting tons, but the phone thing was a bit offlimits, due to his working and me not wanting to talk inthe evenings cos i had family staying, and we'd only just met for our first date.

So last night we spoke, as i'd texted and said all this texting is doing my head in!! I was impressed that he rang immediately, which sounds sooooooooooo ridiculous, seeing as we are grown ups, but it seems we are both scared/anxious of doingthe right thing by each other.

So he text me tis morning, my wake up text (does this every day) and i asked him about meeting tomorrow evening. He replied 'oh my god' i thought that was off ebcuase of your dd being home, and that i havent met her yet' ?? To which i replied, yes but we decided we'd meet out of the home. !!!! So he was very sorry and said ok, i'll rearrange tomorrow, sorry i misunderstood you.

this was 11.00 this morning. have i heard anything since??

nope. sigh.

How can the guy be all understanding about dd, and me not wanting him here before i know if we are going anywhere, then not contact me this evening.

We have said we are both looking for the same thing, long term etc...

i am sick of looking at the fecking phone lol.

evening!

cake - sorry I share the collective view, that he doesnt sound terribly good news, certainly not if you are looking for something non-casual (is that even a word?) I also didnt like the fact he seemed to be quite arrogant about women throwing themselves at him. He should be giving you compliments and letting you know how attractive he finds you, not causing you to worry about your appearance compared to his.

Agree if you are going to see him again, do so very much 'eyes open'. Alternatively, there are more out there - well, so I've been led to believe

betty - get you, 2 dates in one week! will expect full updates in due course

monty - glad all is sort of resolved re DS...and that he's a bit sheepish now (no bad thing!) lol re your meeting - 20 men and none with a spark, sounds rather like whenever I go on a training course...theres not much less attractive than a room of middle aged male lawyers, especially the ones in 'casual' clothes (think nasty chinos and hush puppies )

not much news here, gardener has given me his email address and wants to meet me, which is suppose is something. He seems nice but cant spell. I need to be less judgmental about people's spelling/grammar but it makes me wince. Yes, I know I am a mean person

Nothing more from winking man, aside from more winks Strange, strange, man.

Oh PC I totally get where you're coming from with every word of your post. What goes on in their heads? I know that I tend to concentrate on one bloke at a time but I think that a lot of men are juggling several possibilities and this leads to dropping off of contact. I'm not saying this is what is happening to you as there could be a bona fide reason - I hope so for your sake.

It's so horrible phone-checking every 2 minutes.

I hope it works out for you and if not you will find someone else - if you can be bothered that is!

Cake-I have always tended to concentrate on getting to know one person at a time, but as u say a lot of mean arent and i'm changing tact and just having fun.

pirate-I dont think you have to worry yet, he contacted you, maybe he's been busy since. If he doesnt contact you tommorow thats when i wud start to get a bit peed off.

monty-well I have had another offer of a date from someone else but have put him off a bit saying am busy till next week lol!

sponge-I find men who cant spell funny! but know what u mean after a while you think so are u gonna meet the gardener?

cake, hi!!
I swear i am not going to text mine again. The washing machiney tummy has been causing lovely feelings, and has made me drop 5 lbs in 2 weeks (hooray), but I am kind of levelling out now.

it's hard when the situation is that you live quite far apart too, not too far but far enough for it to be easy to get together.

my text this morning was great, and he said he'd so enjoyed talking to me. He has never said anyhting but nice tings about my appearence, and doesn't love himself at all. Is underconfident if anything. Was saying how he will be having more free time soon, how he wants to make time for me, and you know all those things you love to hear.

sorry, far enought for it NOT to be easy to get together.

Pirate still no word? Hopefully he will be in touch in the morning. He sounds very nice though from what you've said, and quite genuine. Hang on in there.

Betty - sorry I didn't mean to say that going out on multiple dates is wrong. I think it's a good idea and as long as you are sensitive and let someone know that you are not interested then that's fine

lots of new people here. I'm still lurking but got other things going on atm. x

hiya, got a text this morning, saying he 'hoped i had slept well sorry he hadn't text last night as he got in late, and realsied that he wrote me a text and hadn't pressed 'send', good luck with my car today x.

I have,overnight, had various dreams, rows with him, etc... and went to bed thinking, I really canot be bothered with this (repeat self worth mantra)! It makes me feel vulnerable, and a bit daft tbh.

No word over wether he's coming over this evening.

I replied (carefully )!! 'I didn't known what to think really as hadn't heard from you since afternoon yesterday, about our arrangements, which is not like you'

and left it at that. I swear there seems to be little fun in any of this anymore.!!

Morning

I have to admit. There is something to be said for arranged marriages

pc - dare i say... you were being a little precious sending him the text his silence.

he had explained he thought he had sent but hadn't (we've all done this before. it's particularly easy with my phone, in recipient you type in the first letters of name, 9 out of 10 times there is only one entry with same first 3 letters, so i hit send and expect it to get sent off. but occasionally there is 2 entries with same first 3 letters and it asks me to confirm before sending. but i dont wait to see it through... i type text, hit send, then throw in bag/pocket again. it doesn't beep or give any sort of warning that it hasn't sent. its not till i get my phone out again do i realise it never sent and it's still sitting there awaiting confirmation of which entry to send to.

if this is case for me... and even after explaining someone was getting a bit squiffy with me. i'd be a bit annoyed tbh.

it's not as though he disappeared for long. you heard from him in afternoon. then not till this morning.

come on now..... dont mean to be harsh. but it has to be said.

cake - in the very early stages going on a couple of dates with different blokes is fine. but once you start having sex i find it's off limits.

lou - i also think arranged marriages are perhaps the way forward... as long as potential husbands were vetted before hand and go through rigourous testing for abusive traits/red flags

yeah, i take on what you are saying, honestly. I think it's when you have been having about 15 texts a day, thru the day that when it is out of the normal, it made me worry. I also worried something had happened to him, as it seemed out of character. he is a prolific texter!

Maybe I was a bit harsh in questioning him, after he did get in touch.

it's a fine line, and i am trying to get to grips with this 'poss beginning of something'.

i have always had my phone on silent so i never hear texts or calls, so only answer them immediately if it was actually in my view and i saw it come in

maybe you could do that?

having said that, i have now been nagged by the mechanic to take it off silent because i keep missing his calls lol, but it isnt sinking in that it is my phone going off, so i still miss him, because i am wondering whose phone is ringing, and by the time it sinks in , it's too late

pc i'm afraid that i have to agree with juicy here
you're in danger of pushing this bloke away by behaving like this
i know that it's difficult esp.when you've been out of the dating game for ages and hey all of us on here have been guilty of it at one time or another..but please try to chill..

yes, i agree, and i don't want to do that at all. We need to spend some proper time together to establish things.

he has alot on right now, and i will step back.

My text thing is always on silent, I like the surprise element!

lou!! it must be very difficult with many phones going off!

depends on the ringtones lol

my ringtone frightens the life out of me everytime, it's the kinks, 'you really got me' you'd think i'd be used to it by now! nah nah nah nah nah...

oh, just found out car has failed it's mot. shoddy work by another garage, who is a mate of my fathers. arghhhhhh...

garages are miles away, need to sort.