where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 18)

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part 18.... jeeze 17 threads have past...17 threads worth of dating excitment/disasters.

wonder what number 18 will bring

any predictions anyone?

wedding/co-habitation for someone must be due by now.

Thank you for that updates. It is good to know that that there is hope for me yet! Plus I figure it's better to get back on the horse so am back on with match and am trying GS for something different.
What about yourself?

ninah trip sounds lovely,never been to that part of IR but can vouch for the ring of kerry which is stunning..omg it's breathtaking..think dcs will enjoy the hol as it's a v child friendly destination i spent all my summers over there as a child as i'm half irish lol..anyway must send you a long overdue email..will attempt this w/e!!
juicy i'm a huge believer in alternative medicines as i've seen/felt them work will be curious to hear what he says
also must have catch-up and debrief lol ykwim after our last convo
sm01 if he's half decent then he'll accept your situ,you're hardly going to bring any fella round at hand over time whilst your mum's babysitting
betty have i missed anything?did you go on date with trucker?
sponge????what's going on???!!

ok, am here with update now that boys are sleep/watching TV in bed so I have 5 minutes peace!

date was, well, ok. He sadly looked nothing like his photos, and didn't float my boat in any way. Plus some of his topics of conversation were a bit for a first date. He really liked me tho so now i have to try and let him down gently....had sort of said I'd meet him next Sat so need to get out of that between now and then.

meanwhile have also had a couple of dodgy msgs from guys clearly looking for a FB...I suppose at least they're being honest,I just feel a bit suburban saying that's not what I want!

lou - - but his loss. and what a twunt to do it by email

i'm fine just busy looking at new cars. mines ran out of warranty in december and they want £900 to repair its exhaust , time to trade in i think. only got a couple of payments and it's all paid up anyway. i keep looking at vw scirrocco's although they are gorgeous they are terribly impractical as only 2 seats in back and only 3 doors.and cant fit pram

monty - good round up.

for those who asked. forces is on leave from friday woo hoo.. he's going to book flights in next couple of days. has to go see the new arrival in surrey first though before he can come see me.

off to bed ladies. gotta go to my brother bodyshop first thing in AM and get him to weld a patch up job to keep my exhaust from trailing on the ground, need it to last a few more months till its paid up and a new car is on order. very as the blooming thing is only 3 yrs old!!

Sponge - that's a shame. Not a spark whatsoever?

Nothing suburban about not wanting a fb!

ASBM - I didn't know you had that heritage!

LouIsOn - Lou is mn-ing from her phone these days o isn't around as much for that reason too.

Right, hope you don't mind me sharing something on here about DS.

He had a call last night from one of his mates from school who invited him for a sleepover tonight. DS doesn't have their number, and 1471'd but it was witheld. DS left this morning under orders to ring me as soon as he got to his mate's so I could have the phone number and address. I haven't heard a word.

and

DS is 14.

ohh....dear.....!!
was it really hideous sponge?
sounds like one of my hideous experiences dates pre dp and as any of the regs on here will tell you he looked nothing like his pics either, in fact i had fellas at the bar in the place looking at me in disbelief
omfg i cringe even now....
i'd do what i did and thank him for nice eve then leave it at that and ignore any further texts etc or be upfront and tell him

Hatesponge, oh no so not a match then? Never mind at least you went along. I always found it so nerve racking, often bottled it.

Monty, great summary, you and Juice are very good at it.

Lou I do feel for you was very similar at your age. I ended up in single motherhood. Not saying I would recommend it, you have to be fairly strong to carry it off, but it is an option. Bearing in mind I got pregnant by accident with a younger man and it wasn't planned. Some of my friends didn't ever have children because Mr Right didn't come along so I think I did the right thing. I have had a few chances and have had one or two real deals but in the end preferred to be in control of my own life.

Louison - I just realised I missed one of your posts where he'd dumped you by email. What a coward. Fwiw, I met me exh when i was your age. I know we're not together now, but we were really happy for a while a long time. Just saying there's still time.

Eve - Thanks. Phew. Was a bit worried. I never knew that about dd's dad, I take my hat off to you.

Juice - woohoo! lol

monty WTF??
i know that you're a fairly easy going mum like me but even so
am and for you
do you know this boy or his parents?

eve wasn't ignoring your post btw
just noticed monty's and was concerned

ASBM - No, I don't. Am kicking myself. I trusted he would phone me. I don't know any of his school friends, I've met a couple but can't say I know any of them, it's a distance, I work, only ever go there for parent's eves and annual fete. The boy phoned last night, I answered the phone. Same name as your ds2, sounded very polite. DS was instructed to bring a sleeping bag which I did for him at 7am this morning together with overnight bag. I'm just sitting here with hope everything is ok.

Monty I missed that too. So you don't know where or who he is with. I can understand how worried you are feeling. Is there a mutual friend you can ring. I wouldn't be happy not knowing where he is but guess all will be fine when he arrives back knackered tomorrow morning.

Make sure he knows the ground rules in future.

x post. I'm sure everything will be OK, so try and sleep tonight then approach it from the worried angle when he turns up. Mobiles always charged up and switched on in future.

I know that heartsinking feeling.

Eve - no, nobody. Its really irresponsible of me. But I'm working on your premise that he's fine. And he's just a very very silly boy.

The agreement was that he could go on the understanding that he phoned me the minute he arrived at friend's house. Oh, and they were going to the cinema app, so I gave him £10.

He will be fine, don't worry. Just ground him for a few minutes weeks after this.

Abouteve - lol. He's almost permanently grounded skateboarding.

Little sod.

Anyway, lets leave it there. I don't want to bring a downer on to our lovely thread.

Thanks for your comforting words, it's appreciated.

As you were.

monty - there really could not have been less of a spark...from my side anyway! he's a nice guy but I honestly could not have fancied him less.

re your DS, I do remember tho being that age and never ringing my parents when I'd promised to, it never occurred to me to think they might be worried, because of course I knew I was fine hopefully he will be suitably sheepish when he comes home tomorrow

asbm - it wasn't totally hideous, we had a nice chat, but I just cant face seeing him again. Which makes it slightly unfortunate he lives just down the road!

lou - think its awful he dumped you by email, thats such a cowardly thing to do & no way to end serious relationship...as my mum would have said, that showed his true colours

I agree with what Eve's saying - I also got pregnant accidentally with DS1, wasnt 'with' his dad, & ended up being a single parent for 2 years til I met my Ex, and then having DS2. In some ways I actually find it easier on my own - although that may be due to the fact that Ex and I couldnt agree on anything - still cant in fact!

((big hugs))
i'd be v p'd off worried
he's not done as you asked him to,which wasn't unreasonable, so as eve says a grounding/withdrawing of things he likes is what's needed here
i don't doubt that he's fine but if he expects to be treated like an adult then he should return the courtesy to you his mum
i do hope that his dad bollocks him for this as well as it seems that us mums have to deal with all the disciplining shite whilst they have all the fun bits

Monty, it's allowed now and again and we are here for more than just delighting and angsting/boaking about men.

that's good sponge at least as my experience date was toe-curlingly awful
have you decided how to tell him?

ASBM - his dad's a complete and utter twunt! I phoned him early this evening. He took ds to school this am and didn't even notice the huge bag containing a sleeping bag and an overnight bag all in one. Thanks for your hugs tho.

Lack of respect from our little 'uns hurts us, that's the thing.

Anyways, back to Sponge - onwards and upwards then. Sounds like you're having more of a response on line.

Eve - thanks

Eve - by the way, ds was over my shoulder last week while I was on fb and my 'friends' list was open, he pointed to your pic and said 'she's nice'. lolololol