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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (pt 17)

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Remotew · 18/01/2010 18:03

Has no-one beaten me to it yet?

Juicy sounding good.

WG old friend is worth seeing again.

Second not to arrange a meet up without me. Maybe down south in May.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/02/2010 09:46
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Remotew · 05/02/2010 10:12

Betty, welcome to the club, although I cannot say me and Salesman are over as we never really began but I am only dissapointed that he has gone quiet on me. Hope you are feeling OK soon.

You wonder if its worth it. I just think of these men who flit in and out of my life as the a mostly pleasant way to pass a bit of time.

Don't want to say too much on here as it involves a third party but I am patiently waiting for some very happy new today in the form of a little bundle of joy.

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 05/02/2010 11:22

eve - oooh a bundle of joy shame about salesman.. but as you say.. passes time nicely.

asbm - .. wkd with dp all to yourself will be nice.

betty - ... but still time for a response. i do think your doing right thing taking a step back though. and... these men that cut off communication when stressed annoy me... they are a warning sign that if you were in a serious relationship they would just shut off completely and not work through any problem you have together. so perhaps a good thing you found out now.

where is janos??

lou - glad to hear things are still going fab.

oh... and for those who get engaged... what is the acronym for fiance??? is there one? what shall we term them? as i do believe it should be used in some cases

all others contemplating a night out sounds good.

wish i wasn't so far... actually.. there's a few of us up here now isn't there on the thread? perhaps we should do a scottish one too

piratecat - when i do long distance... i do REALLY long distance ... look at my current one.. it requires a flight

and i've done it before.superman was in cairo(note to betty - that was a failure due to crap communication when he was stressed)

i dont think there is a problem with it. it is good if you need alot of space and are only really free a couple of times a month(often case with me)... as long as the contact is v v good. but there's absolutely no point unless your both a little smitten... it doesn't work when one is more interested than the other as inevitably the not-so-interested eventually cant be bothered making effort to keep up contact between visits....
but you wont know until you meet him ... give him a go.. worse case scenario you get a nice evening out with some good company ... best case scenario.. you get on like a house on fire

belle - hope your in good frame of mind and not letting gb issues get to you. dont know how you deal with it all and with ds and job. hat off to you for trying.

everything still peachy with forces guy.still waiting on their rotas being made up for the wkds i am free to see if compatible with my schedule to go over.

so... lovely ladies.... what are you doing for valentines night? this applies to this with fella to spoil.. and those carefree and single to do whatever they fancy.

looks like i will be sitting in with my coursework as snowed under with it. will probably get somechick flicks too and lots of goodies banned on this diet. absolutely skint too. so no pennies to go out with the girls

oh.. and monty... you will get the flask with baileys in.. just launch all useless stuff like make-up out the handbag... actually.. here's a question??... i never take make-up with me out other than some lip gloss?... are you ladies the type who cram bag full of stuff.. or do you get your slap on and then thats it for the night??... oh.. if wearing tights i usually take spare pair and some clear nail varnish.. being accident prone means they dont usually last the night intact.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/02/2010 12:29

ooh waiting for some nice news eve

i think it's DF for those who become engaged isn't it?
can't quite get my head around that terminology tho so dp he shall stay
have other more pressing things on my mind such as selling my sodding house and buying the one we want first
as well as getting my new business venture off the ground
weddings are def.on the back burner atm
oh and makeup,well i tend to get my slap on before i leave,but always have a couple of essentials in my bag and yes if i'm ultra spruced up i carry a spare pair of stockings
ladders aint a great look are they?!
btw.dying to know when he gets his rota sorted juice as that sounds like a lovely w/e away!!

Remotew · 05/02/2010 12:34

I take my make-up bag out with me as I have a large bag, not for hiding booze in, I should point out. Don't know why I bother as I only ever re-apply facebase, lippy and eyeliner. If the outfit calls for a tiny bag will just take those 3 essentials.

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 05/02/2010 12:59

dear me.. eve - i can barely apply my base and liner when sober. never mind half way through the night. well done you for managing that.

asbm - do you actually use your make up essentials. or general just take em and never yuse them?

aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/02/2010 13:03

have to say that i'm impressed by eve too lol
tbh i rarely do unless it's an afternoon thing which turns into an evening thing iyswim
i'm not a must go powder my nose type at all

hatesponge · 05/02/2010 13:09

lol at montys bag big enough for a bottle of baileys! re bag size, will often take a pair of flat shoes out with me (to walk home in) & will often have the full range of make up as am always late so end up having to put it on when I'm on my way out on train etc! so generally am always to be found with a bag big enough for all that

we should arrange a meet in london though - I can really only do a fri or sat, but am free pretty much to the end of feb (unless of course i should hear from last weeks date, but am very much soh in meantime now and waiting for him to contact me!)

and is it mean to be amused by this....one of the guys i met on match who then added me as a friend on FB (we chatted a few times, he was all keen,then i messaged him and asked him for a drink & he was like oh maybe sometime in feb -this was end dec/beginning jan...anyway never heard anything more & basically wrote him off) has updated his status saying his date for tonight has cancelled for no reason, how pissed off he is & how he will always be single...given that despite saying how interesting, attractive etc I was he couldnt even be bothered to go for a drink with me, kind of feel it serves him right! but maybe Im being mean

aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/02/2010 13:28

aww shame eh sponge

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 05/02/2010 17:45

asbm - you jinx me askin if i seen marvel in public.

stopped off at petrol station on way home.. and bumped into that copper i went on date with.... he was in queue waiting to pay for his fuel... i conveniently had to go up back of store for bread and milk till he had left the queue

Betty79 · 05/02/2010 18:53

Hi ladies, thanks for all your advice

juice-you are right, think that's what swung it for me really, if this is how he is every time he has a bit of stress how would he cope in a full on relationship, maybe why he's never been married you just dont know?

eve-really hope salesman pulls his finger out but if not it's his loss.

This has been the first time I've properly dated someone since exdh when I was 21/22 (I'm 30 now), so it's a learning curve. Got to keep telling myself i deserve better however much we clicked when we were together

juice-lol at avoiding the policeman, i take it it wasnt a good date!

sponge-aww what a shame for fb man lol

not sure who asked about makeup but i dont usually take any out to re-apply when im on night out, might take lippy and thats it. Dont really wear a lot of makeup usually but have started to more lately

have my night out planned with friend tommorow, and we have said we might take kids out for lunch/tea sunday when we feel rough lol

Remotew · 05/02/2010 19:23

Was waiting for 2 things today, Salesman and our news. Still no news but Salesman called earlier. Had a cheerful chat, he said he would phone tomorrow so will see if he actually suggests meeting up.

Chilling out tonight with a nice bottle of red. Thank god it's the weekend.

Hope you London ladies manage a meetup. If you do we want pics so someone take a camera. You don't have to post them on here but we can have a look on facebook. Saying that not sure if I have any of you on mine.

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Betty79 · 05/02/2010 19:34

eve-glad u heard from salesman. Ive got a nice bottle of white and going to order a chinese in a mo i think

Monty100 · 05/02/2010 19:52

Betty - hope you have a nice evening tomorrow. What did you say to Mr Jack in the end?

Eve - sounding positive with Salesman

Juice - lol at you bumping into exes, and yes where is Janos???

Eve - I'm with you, thank God its Friday, that was a hell of a week that was. Knackered, and throat was burning again today. Grr

Sponge - sounds good!

A friend has just phoned and asked me to go charity shopping with her tomorrow and have lunch out. Is there something really sad about that, especially that I'm looking forward to it? lol

DP should be here shortly, a few beers and Indian tonight, as per norm on a Friday.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 05/02/2010 21:38

eve - glad saleman got in contact

monty - oooh indian sounds nice

betty - did you get a reply today?

aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/02/2010 22:53

eve glad he's been in touch,bet you're enjoying your red even more now lol
betty it is a horrible learning curve at times,shame he's being so spineless.but it says alot about him doesn't it?
juicy omg not that dullard him!
do you think he saw you?
obv.all happening @ monty towers..

hatesponge · 05/02/2010 23:08

eve - glad you heard from salesman!...and yes in the event that we do get round to arranging a london meet up will definitely make sure there is photographic evidence

betty - re mrjack - am guessing there was nothing further from him? however on the plus side a night in with a chinese & bottle of wine no bad thing... DSs are having a sleepover so i have a house full of rowdy boys who appear to have no intention of sleeping anytime soon!

still amused by fb man, hes been moaning again tonight! also, went onto match & my date from sat hasnt been on at all since last wkend, which I guess does bear out him being busy as he told me.....

Monty100 · 05/02/2010 23:19

Betty - how are you doing? I hope the wine has helped.

Ashley ahem Actually I have a new handbag that my dsis gave me for my bday (early pressie as she was up last weekend) and it is indeed mahoosive. So, I won't disappoint you all.

ASBM - It was only one bottle of Baileys for the whole of the Xmas period you know.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 05/02/2010 23:32

monty just say the word and my lovely bf will give you a loan of her rucksack handbag

Monty100 · 05/02/2010 23:57

ASBM - you're a true pal!

do you think this might suffice?

aseriouslyblondemoment · 06/02/2010 00:12

pmsl
is that for drinkies or to hit passing jerks men with?
do hope that you girls will be wearing with pride our specially customised 'fed-up not hard-up' t-shirts?
i have my sequins at the ready

Monty100 · 06/02/2010 00:20

ASBM - you going to join us? You're very welcome.

I have this t-shirt which I could wear. No shit Honestly.

Betty79 · 06/02/2010 09:14

Hi thanks all for asking about me im ok, I did get an email back last night, just saying sorry for how he has been that he didnt want to hurt/upset me just that he has been under lots of pressure etc said he hoped things had been different and didnt have any regrets and hoped i didnt too was a bit longer than that but you get the gist.

In some ways i am glad i got a reply but in others not time to move on now. Gonna have a few weeks off at least from any dating tho i think. Will still check in here and see how you are all getting on tho.

Got to decide whether to keep him on msn and fb now though? wwud?

kdk · 06/02/2010 09:41

@ monty - love the t-shirt - could have done with that twenty years ago in my rugby-club baiting days!

@ betty, really sorry to hear your news but at least you know the score. I would delete him - may seem harsh but else it might just keep reminding you - I know for me it would just keep making me think of what he/I were missing. Sending you lots of support and hugs.

kdk · 06/02/2010 09:44

My news is I've just heard that a friend's dad died yesterday. He was 81 so not unexpected but feel sad all the same.

I used to be really great friends with my friend's sisters - really best friends for 30 years - but sort of all went wrong when I had kids - and I just feel very sad that our relationship now seems to consist of commiserating/sending condolences on the death of our parents .

I have many happy memories of spending time in their mum's kitchen with their dad being very dry and funny ... and it all seems so long ago and, I don't know, historical ... does that make sense? Also, should I email/write to my xbfs or just ask their brother to pass on my condolences - am writing to their mum as well ...