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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (pt 17)

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Remotew · 18/01/2010 18:03

Has no-one beaten me to it yet?

Juicy sounding good.

WG old friend is worth seeing again.

Second not to arrange a meet up without me. Maybe down south in May.

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Betty79 · 04/02/2010 08:42

Well I spoke to mrjack breifly on msn last night, his explaination for ignoring my texts was he's stressed, and he's had loads of people pestering him asking him to do things and he hasnt got enought time to do the stuff he's got as it is so he pretty much ingored his phone yesterday. Not sure if he was implying me too. A few other things were said, I can tell he is really stressed, he said he hasnt got time for himself at the mo let alone anyone else and felt bad about it. So to start with i thought ok i'll leave him for a few days, but then this morning am thinking surely if he liked me enough he would make time to see me? So am thinking maybe it's best to knock it on the head, cos it's not doing my head any good and making me stressed now too

what do you think ladies, i do like him but not sure i can see things going anywhere

aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/02/2010 09:38

betty v.sorry to hear this
you'd think that if he was stressed out and having a hard time of it that he would actually want to be with those people who don't actually stress him out ie you and his closest mates
however some people do tend to just shut others off when stressed
regardless of all this it's now causing you anxiety which you can do without
imo a relationship shouldn't be hard work esp.at this stage

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Remotew · 04/02/2010 10:02

Betty, seems strange that he didn't want to answer his phone or text but had time and inclination to go on MSN. Maybe I'm biased though as I'm not a fan of MSN and wouldn't like to be communicating with someone I'm seeing this way. I know some people like it so take no notice of me.

Salesman seems to be reluctant to contact me atm, will see if he gets in touch over the weekend, guess it's dead in the water, if not.

Feel like I need a night out with mates. Soon. Haven't been out since NYE.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/02/2010 11:30

fingers crossed that he does eve
a girls night out sounds like a cunning plan tho

lou33 · 04/02/2010 13:13

hi

i still have no internet due to being cut off for not being able to pay my phone bill oops

mechanic and i are still going strong and very happy, its almost been 2 months now can you believe?

i have tried reading this but its not sinking in because i am on ultra strong painkillers atm due to a problem with the tendon on my rotator cuff, its similar to morphine in how it makes me feel (happy days)

i also went to the hospital yesterday wrt my bleeding, and am being booked in to have a day case surgery to try and fix me once and for all

the mechanic is going to take some time off work for me and do the school run as i wont be able to drive for a couple of days afterwards

not sure when i can get back online to check messages but i will asap

hope everyone is well

aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/02/2010 14:04

glad you're(mostly)good lou
and that's great that he'll be around to help out when you go into hosp
thread is rather quiet without you lol

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Remotew · 04/02/2010 14:15

I reckon when Lou get connected to cyber space again she should promote mechanic to new man.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/02/2010 14:20

here,here!!
but maybe it's the equiv of the 'hello' mag curse

piratecat · 04/02/2010 17:12

hiya,

just checking in. hi lou.

Was just wondering wether long distance realtionships can work. I have been talking on and off to a guy, for 10 months, and i didn't meet him way back becuase he has kids, and is a huge part of their weekly life. Just felt it couldn't go anywhere. yet curiosity is geting the better of both of us. I'm almost thinking I just want to meet and have a night out.

kdk · 04/02/2010 19:11

I personally wouldn't let the kids thing put me off - would rather a guy who has kids plays a part in their lives rather than just walks away and has nothing to do with them.

For me, the distance would probably be a problem but that's because I don't get to do weekends away but I know some people prefer them, at least initially as means get to know them before any chance of him meeting the family or meeting his if that makes sense?

If you like him and you can get to meet him, why don't you just give it a whirl and see what happens? You've nothing to lose and, maybe, lots to gain!

kdk · 04/02/2010 19:14

and @lou - grrr at stupid phone people - sorry to hear you've not been well, mind you the painkillers sound good! And am v jealous at mechanic .... still think you should clone him ... or at least see if he has any similar (male) relatives ...

hatesponge · 04/02/2010 19:24

pc - I'm with kdk, if meeting him is do-able,then you might as well, and see what you think. sometimes having men a way away can be a good thing (disclaimer - given my useless dating history,please do not feel obliged to take my advice! )

betty re mrjack, shutting himself off if stressed is I think a fairly normal reaction - I do this from time to time, & go a bit incommunicado, but I can see its clearly making you unhappy - so I guess you have to think is this just a blip, or more hassle than you want....

kdk · 04/02/2010 19:27

Hey sponge - how do you fancy meeting up one night - take our mind off horrible/unsuitable/unavailable - delete as applicable - men - maybe some of the other London laydees would be up for it as well! I could do with a laugh at the moment, particularly as I should be writing two assignments!

Betty79 · 04/02/2010 19:34

Hi all, thanks asbm and eve for your thoughts, have discussed it with work mates today and they said the same. Have wrote out an email but am not sending it until later because i know he will be working and may open it on his blackberry but not read it properly, and i want him to read it lol

anyway, email basically says dont think things are going anywhere, dont want to add to his stress etc etc dont expect to get a reply just feel i need to say it. havent been nasty, as he's not a bad bloke just obv not the bloke for me.

Im off out sat night with a few friends so hopefully will have a good girls night and forget about men

eve-hope you hear from salesman, and hope you get your girls night out.

asbm-things still good with you?

lou-glad to hear you are still loved up

piratecat-not sure i could do long distance again have been there lol but im sure it can work, and its good he plays a big part in his kids life.

kdk-hows things with you?

hatesponge · 04/02/2010 19:36

kdk - yes lets do it! anyone else want to join us?!

Betty79 · 04/02/2010 19:49

i would if i didnt live miles away lol i'm sure u'll have a right laugh!

ninah · 04/02/2010 19:53

at London
and girls' nights out ...
and lou's morphine substitute ... (hope you are feeling OK lou)
has been a long week, with not enough soh really
sent a random wink on match a while ago and it has come back marked uninterested
I'm thinking come the better weather I might explore the rl methods of dating as the novelty of interntet is wearing off - anyone done speed dating? my sis did but she is a lot younger, child free etc (now married to a man she met in a club)
I'm thinking it might be an experience ... there is no 'just going out' round here unless you are into farm animals or their septugenarian companions

Monty100 · 04/02/2010 21:46

Hi everybody

Betty I might be tempted to say, 'I'm going to take a step back as it seems you need space to deal with your stress, take care.'

If he protests then great, if not, then he wants space.

Is that bad?

PS
Deffo interested in a girlie night in London, as long as it doesn't cost an arm and a leg lol.

kdk · 04/02/2010 21:54

Hi Monty - nah, would have to be something fairly cheap and cheerful as I don't have any spare arms or legs at the mo .. have to be after next Thursday as I have teaching observation on Wednesday and a deadline to meet on Thursday ... thursday night could work! Else maybe half-term week depending what works for anyone else ...

Monty100 · 04/02/2010 22:15

Ooooh next Thursday not great for me (it's my bday the next day, so best I don't really).

SCL might join us? I'm sure there's others too and Lou doesn't live a million miles away!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/02/2010 22:36

evening all
pc have to admit to being wary by the whole ldr thing after my own experience, but, if you've been messaging on/off all this time then i'm imagining that he's prob ok iyswim?!
betty i'm good thanks,same old same old here,kids off to their dads for the w/e then dp over for a few days on sat
the email is a good idea as it helps you make sense of what's going on in your head when you see it all in written word form.if you decide to send it it will also help you gain a kind of closure if that's what you're seeking
girls night in London sounding good
must point out to kdk,sponge and scl that you'll spot monty a mile off as she's the lady with the v.large handbag containing a not so discreet bottle of baileys

Monty100 · 04/02/2010 22:44

ROFL - ASBM whatever do you mean???

aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/02/2010 22:53

actually monty you can always borrow my bf's,you'll be impressed to hear that she fitted not only a bottle of wine in hers but a thermos filled with baileys on ice

Monty100 · 04/02/2010 23:18

Be careful ASBM or I'll be making up a bed for you so you can join us.

Betty79 · 05/02/2010 07:31

Well I sent the email last night, didnt hear anything back so take it that's it. Am a bit upset cos did like him but he ho onwards etc

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