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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (pt 17)

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Remotew · 18/01/2010 18:03

Has no-one beaten me to it yet?

Juicy sounding good.

WG old friend is worth seeing again.

Second not to arrange a meet up without me. Maybe down south in May.

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Remotew · 03/02/2010 11:37

Oh I don't remember ASBM and Janos in a IM triangle. How funny that must have been.

SCL give gardener a go. He might have more oomph in real life.

Wasn't it the scout leaders we have to avoid?

I don't actively look for someone with shared interest. Mine consist of slobbing out in front of the TV, drinking, smoking and internet.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/02/2010 11:44

ROFL @ eve
yes we had a drunken great evening winding up chatting to this guy online
who says men can't multi task eh?!
we were both quite amused impressed by his efforts
scl another vote here for the gardener!
and juicy i really can't believe that you'd date a morris dancer esp.as you were embarrassed enough by your mates seeing marvel in his uniform!
ooh just spotted eve's line there lol.leave the scouts alone!!

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 03/02/2010 11:47

scouts are ok

scouts, with comic book collection, member of scooter club, who are into that ska scenen... should be avoided.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/02/2010 11:50

have you bumped into him again recently?

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 03/02/2010 11:53

in tescos'... when he seen me he looked liked a kicked puppy... was scared he was gonna start wailing and run off. lol.... he still sends odd text.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/02/2010 12:04

nice..lol

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 03/02/2010 12:10

stop laughing asbm - he makes me feel a real horrible shitty evil cow when i see him out and about.

ok.ok... so i may be shallow... but thumb sucking i just cant deal with

sincitylover · 03/02/2010 12:18

eve - we seem to share the same interests

Well I told him that I could see him in a couple of weeks but he didn't follow that up with anything. He is a bit disjointed in his communications but I am also being a bit lukewarm. He certainly has an interesting job.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/02/2010 12:18

behave you're far from it!
anyhow you've had a right old giggle @ some of the loons i've met
but thank god i don't have to run into them in tescos

spicemonster · 03/02/2010 14:01

I'm going on my date tomorrow ASBM. Will report back. It can't possibly be more boring than the last one

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Remotew · 03/02/2010 14:07

Spice, hope not, be interested to hear how it goes.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/02/2010 14:21

spice if he's boring and a munter not for you then there's always the emergency call option or failing that a quick escape thru window in the ladies
oh come on scl give him a whirl,if anything you'll get free tickets to his place of work,went there years ago and it is rather lovely

Betty79 · 03/02/2010 18:34

Hi ladies, think i need to join the soh club, dont feel things are going anywhere with mrjack. havent seen him for nearly 2 weeks and had little contact a few texts/spoke once on msn. Was meant to be seeing him sun but he was ill, or says he was. maybe im being too needy but have text him today and got nothing back yet and have always had a reply in past so need to keep away from the phone. tbh i dont think he makes enough effort sometimes anyway, i like him but really need to tell myself i need someone who makes the effort too. Ok so we are all busy sometimes, but doesnt take a min to text to say hi, or call at end of day. I hate it when people dont reply to texts though

I wish i cud just turn phone off and leave it but need it during day, how do i keep from wanting to ring and shout at him lol

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Remotew · 03/02/2010 19:06

Betty, I know how you feel to some extent. Don't know what you can do. Tell him off when he eventually gets in touch. See what his reaction is as to whether its worth continuing.

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Betty79 · 03/02/2010 19:10

thats if he does get in touch, have a feeling he wont

hatesponge · 03/02/2010 19:19

quick update whilst am actually meant to be working...

text he sent after date basically said hed made it home, was v cold (we both had long-ish journeys) ended xx etc - no more than I expected at 1.30am to be honest

I got a text from him this afternoon which said he cant see me this weekend cos he's going away with a mate, but maybe next weekend or the one after, ended it by saying take care, smily face and x

now in my circles that is a fob-off. So i text him back & said I hoped he has a good weekend, to let me know if/when he's free the one after, but that if he doesnt actually want to see me again, simply to say so. and a smily face and a x

and in response, dead silence. SO i think rather plainly that is my answer.

Have had all my RL friends telling me all day how lovely I am. Which is great, and I am grateful. but doesnt explain why i cant get to one date with most men, or past that with the rest!

kdk · 03/02/2010 19:39

Hi Spice

I'm on OKC too - sure we've overlapped somewhere! Mind you, I could be a bit older than you ... I'm mzdemeanour on both - we should exchange notes one day - have to say there are some real weirdoes on OKC or is that just me?

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/02/2010 19:45

ohh sponge why did you say that?!
now that does sound needy and as tho you're not sure of yourself
you're a great woman and a real catch and you must put this across(even if you don't always feel confident)
betty sorry to hear your latest

hatesponge · 03/02/2010 19:48

well, i may have been too hasty. not something I say often but...just got a text from him basically saying no, dont worry, i definitely do want to see you again, just lots going on at the moment etc

so....maybe I wont write him off just yet.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/02/2010 20:02

that's good news then so relax!

thesouthsbelle · 03/02/2010 20:14

betty - sorry to hear about mrjack - how much are you usually in contact? why do you think he won't be in touch?

hate - well see how the wind blows when he comes back etc - leave it to him now to chase you for a bit.

spice - have fun on your date.

sin - no no not in a serious relationship, but we are in a relationship where it's in the open, and people know. and will basically intergrate more into each others lives (read that as me not being so anal and keeping my 3 lives separate and him taking me to meet his mum [scared shitless emotion]) he's coming over after hockey tonight - so will no doubt be lovely n sweaty! lol.

have we done the whole sharing names thing on here yet with blokes we've met/emailed etc?

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Remotew · 03/02/2010 20:16

There you go sponge, now pick yourself up, and wait for him to be less busy.

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Betty79 · 03/02/2010 20:45

belle-to start with contact via text was minimal, used to talk on msn daily or every other day. then msn got less as we saw each other a couple times a week, and only sent the odd text. I've prob come over as needy this week tho as text him more this week due to not seeing him. maybe he's just in a mood/ill but even still if i was in a mood i would still text back. It's not unusual for him to ignore the odd text but i sent him 2 today (i know i shud have left it) and nothing? just get the feeling something has happened or he's decided im not for him.

Glad things are going well with gb, hope it stays that way

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/02/2010 20:46

lol @ eve
spoken like a true dating pro,oh juicy would be well proud of you!
have you had any more news from lou?i'm assuming that's all's well with her and the kids?
v.strange not having her here,hope she's not crawling the walls without her t'internet
hope all's good with you atm

hatesponge · 03/02/2010 21:32

I'm such a drama queen My poor RL friends deserve medals, especially the ones who are now taking me out for a girls night of tequila and dancing on Saturday

The ball is now very much in his court. Am going to wait to hear from him, and be less impatient (oh and try to remember that he does work 6/7 days a week, and hasnt had anyone in his life since his divorce 3 years ago so I probably need to give him a bit of a break)

betty - I think some men just dont think re contact etc. One of my Ex's (one of the nicer ones!) used to be a bit like that, he didnt mean anything bad by it. I think as eve said you have to let him know its upset you, and see how he reacts to that.