Hello everybody!
This is the first time I've been able to get near t'internet for days, as I've been kind of confined to the village- I managed to strand the van 4 miles away from home, and my computer is in my studio 3 miles away...there's not even that much snow here at all, it's just that the council are late converts to gritting....Been getting total cabin fever!
I rashly went to see a friend in the snow on Thursday- getting there was fine, and we did some brilliant naked pregnant lady in the snow photos in her not-very-secluded garden- nearly had some 4x4 drivers off the road through staring!
Unfortunately, I stayed just a little bit too long, and everything had got all icy- upon trying to leave, ended up sliding sideways down the hill and having to be rescued by a tractor! Had to abandon the van, and have just managed to rescue it this morning....
Congratulations Scorps, and a million times congratulations! Have you got plenty of help on hand when you get home? Maybe meet up when I get back from my parents in February?
It was certainly......So sorry to hear about your granddad. I'm really feeling for you, you seem to be coping with so much bad news at the moment.
Ach, I really sympathise with the twunt situation, too. You so desperately want them to care- for you as well as the baby- and, especially in our fragile, hormonal states, promising something-anything- and then going back on it- is the last thing you want to have to cope with. I don't know how much I can actually advise you, 'cos I'm not dealing with it superbly myself, but practising this line helps:
"We must develop a relationship of trust in order for you to adequately support me at such an important event as the birth of our child. In the light of what you have done in the recent past, this means that I would like you to ring me x times a week/come shopping for baby stuff with me (and pay!)/attend antenatal classes (or anything else you want-delete as applicable..)."
Does saying this mean that I'm coping with my twunt particularly well myself? Ah-ha-ha-ha! Nope.
Although he has prevailed upon me to move in with him-temporarily-and I have caved in; it was all getting too cold and difficult on my own....But sometimes it's lonelier with him. He doesn't communicate much- just slumps in front of the telly. Emotionally, I would prefer to be on my own I think. But...his boat is warmer and more comfortable; he chops the wood, has hot water etc...
It'shappened...yes, feel for your pain too! I think getting him to buy the baby stuff is a good solid ask, and hopefully something he can easily comply with...
BTW, I went to NCT antenatal classes on my own, and, although everybody else was coupled up, I didn't feel the odd one out at all; the facilitator worked hard to "split couples up", as it were, for the group activities, and we had a real laugh. So don't be afraid!
SolidGold...read your contributions on other threads, and it's always a joy!
Oh dear, must go, hands and feet dropping off; I haven't turned the heater on as I'm taking it home for when the baby turns up....Sunday is the due date! (but no sign yet...) xxx