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Where are all the fit,interesting and available men Pt.15

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/12/2009 10:34

jesus it's still running lol...

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Betty79 · 22/12/2009 12:41

belle-i think the posts on fb make him look like he's keen on u but not the other way really.

juice-sadly dont think will squeeze in a visit with mrjack before xmas havent bought him a pressie, thought about it and did joke last night and ask him what he's bought me...his response was 'what do you want?' lol he hasnt bought anyone a pressie tho lol proper bachelor at the mo.

eve-glad u got a reply finally!

I've done sod all today so far and loving it

thesouthsbelle · 22/12/2009 12:52

about sums it up betty.

: good on ya doin bugger all betty.

I've jsut had the worst call form the world rudest & most obnoxious man, have left my boss a 2 page note of the conversation detailing EXACTLY why I won't ever deal with this company again. talk about up your own arse - since WHEN was it acceptable to talk over someone so much that they have to say 'let me finish' and THEN keep doing it getting louder & louder?!?! if the boss wasn't on his holidays i'd ring up & have a right rant, but he is so I won't.

thesouthsbelle · 22/12/2009 12:52

even.

lou33 · 22/12/2009 14:38

omg i just spent over 200 pounds on food!

it is to last way past xmas though

i think i may have been infected by the xmas spirit, reckon xmas is going to be good this year for once

thesouthsbelle · 22/12/2009 14:46

JESUS lou did u buy the shop?!?

soupmyarse · 22/12/2009 15:37

so glad things have moved on with you since Mike Lou, that must've been a horrendous 2 days time trying to get over him. He must feel special now he knows how quickly you managed to move on.

Great to see you took the time for the dc's to get to know another new man before letting him sleep at the house....jeez!

None of my business as you will expectedly respond, but you do need to think of them sometimes and not just your next shag - I once made the same mistake and it does have an impact on them.

Just maybe your exh has a point.

I know the rest of you ladies on here do consider the dc's and try to plan a good time in advance to introduce them to your bf. It is the only way to do it if you don't want them confused.

thesouthsbelle · 22/12/2009 16:02

what exactly is your prob with Lou & how she conducts herself with HER kids?

passmyglassplease · 22/12/2009 16:21

soup I suggest you move your arse of this thread asap.

your opinion is neither wanted or valid.

lou33 · 22/12/2009 16:23

oh here we go, get over yourself

my kids didnt meet lb, never saw him here, never had any involvement with him, as they rarely do with any guys i date

i havent seen lb for a month, never ever said we were anything long term

sorry you dont have a life of your own to get on with

though of course it proves you actually know fuck all about my life, cos anyone who did would know you are talking shite

you only make yourself look tragic by you know

lou33 · 22/12/2009 16:24

by your posts, i meant to say

lou33 · 22/12/2009 16:32

you know soup you could always ask him if he fancies a rerun with you if you are still so fixated on him

soupmyarse · 22/12/2009 16:33

hmmmm, I would dispute who looks tragic.

Just posting my opinion, but as usual if it doesn't fit with the majority it isn't liked.

It seems ok for you to belittle belle over her life whenever you want to, repeatedly telling her to take your advice and dump the man she likes, but not for anyone to comment on your life!

Surely MN is here for us all to have an opinion and state it? That's what internet forums are for.

I don't need to know anything about your 'life' to know you have 3 children who wake up to find another man has slept with mummy in their house, and they knew him for all of a couple of hours beforehand. Hardly an example for your daughter is it. But eh, maybe this is the one....again! Like the one who went to thai, and the rich one who you were going to move in with last year?

Lou, learn by other people's mistakes, mine included. Men don't constantly chat you up and fall all over you because they all find you irresistable, most of the time it's whatever is easy for them - any woman knows this.

IMO any man wanting to sleep in my house with my kids who he doesn't even know isn't worth his salt anyway. But each to their own.

thesouthsbelle · 22/12/2009 16:37

soup - your opnion is just as valid - but why name change to do it?

(disclaimer - I don't think lou's ever belittled anyone on the thread?!? - maybe i'm wrong n dumb but there you go! )

soupmyarse · 22/12/2009 16:37

i think you may be referring to somebody else. To have a rerun with him I would've needed to have already had a run.

lou33 · 22/12/2009 16:38

post what you like love it doesnt bother me

i ahve 4 kids btw

they asked to meet my new bf, he was ok with it too

oh god shot me now cos i had a few bfs in the last 2.5 yrs who stayed over

i think belle can speak for herself but i am pretty sure my comments to her are nothing like the type of blah you come out with

too much booze today is it?

thesouthsbelle · 22/12/2009 16:39

and tbh I really don't like the idea that someone is either a) reading all of lou's posts like that (creepy) or is from this thread origionally but has to name change to say her views (not on AT all) as we're all meant to be looking out for each other on here.

not sure which is worse - prob the latter as we're all friends here - apparently

soupmyarse · 22/12/2009 16:41

thank you belle. And I have namechanged for my own reasons, not the ones that people will automatically assume.

I am glad you haven't felt belittled by her, I have read lots of posts by her to you that are just rude. She is always telling you that you need to get a grip and get rid of your man because 'she' is suspicious of him until proved otherwise? Erm....why do you have to prove otherwise to her? It's you seeing him not her.

But these comments are fine as long as you feel ok about them but Lou needs to be able to accept comments to her as well as dish them out to others.

lou33 · 22/12/2009 16:42

if you say so soup

cant think of any other reasons why you would be particularly hung up about lb and me tho

for the record, he initiated the break, i just finalised it, am i meant to shave my head and wear black and go into mourning for a year over something we both said was never long term?

dont bother about replying i dont really care enough to know your answer

thesouthsbelle · 22/12/2009 16:44

word on a page is all i'm going to say.

it's not nice thou to think you maybe from this thread soup.

lou33 · 22/12/2009 16:45

for some reason soup likes to focus only on what i say, quite flattering really

she ignores the fact other people said similar, and the fact belle is her own person and isnt told what to do by anyone

thanks for your heart felt concern at this time of year, of course you have a valid reason to not use your own name, i believe you

have a lovely xmas

soupmyarse · 22/12/2009 16:47

People read posts on an internet forum Belle.

Well I don't think I would want my kids meeting 'a few' bf's who had slept with me over a couple of years. Just wouldnt want them to know its ok for a few bf's to come and shag me when they hardly know him. Doesn't show much stability does it. They are rejected enough with your exh you say, so meeting different men is just going to confuse them all the time.

Of course he was ok with it - like I said, speaks volumes about the man. They like ease.

I will bow out now as you obviously don't like my comments or advise. Take a minute to think about that though when dishing it out to others.

lou33 · 22/12/2009 16:48

bye

soupmyarse · 22/12/2009 16:52

of course you shouldn't shave your head and wear black, that's just silly. Bring another man over to shag instead.

Makes me laugh how its another one that you fall for so easily and you post all over here about how quick it is moving then the next day talk about him as though he has been around ages, ffs, your kids need to be gently eased into it.

How special he must've made you feel

I really will go now. Just for the record I am not fixated about you or lb. Maybe I should be then and can go get him now he is back with his wife, just as you accused someone else of doing.

It was just an opinion and advise, sorry to have voiced it as it has obviously hit a nerve.

christmaseve · 22/12/2009 16:54

Soup, with Belle the guy she likes alot had stated that he didn't want a relationship with someone who was already a mum. Which is what this thread is about, finding a guy who will accept us baggage and all and that the DC's are happy with.

I'm in a similar position to Lou with having vitually no child free time. DD doesn't go to her dads and if she had I wouldn't have let her meet many of my males friends but it has happened because it inevitably spills over especially if you want to include them say for a meal out rather than being out the house without them regularly.

That was a bit rambling but we all have to do the best given our individual circumstances.

Hopefully Belle and her guy are sorting things out.

DONTtouchMUMSfestiveJUICE · 22/12/2009 16:56

so... everyone got their xmas shopping done yet?

betty - shame you wont see mr jacl.

passglass - hows life treating you? what did you get bf for xmas? everything still peachy in your loved up exsistence?

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