Where have all the men gone? thread 14

[ninah]

it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

i'm not a crier and never have been

i did more than my fair share when with exh though

i did however think i would not ever get over exbf, and couldnt stop crying for weeks

at times i would have to pull over when driving as it would take over so suddenly

i swore i wouldnt leave myself vulnerable like that again, and i havent so far

it doesnt mean i have no feelings at all if things go wrong, but i just make sure i havent formed enough of an emotional attachment to shed any tears over them

I think rj will make her choice, and it will last when she does

omg lou so sorry re exbf
do you hear from him?
would you be same for lb?

rj - you know yourself, so lots of respect here too. You've been through a lot with your ex. And it doesn't sound like you trust men much. But what do I know, I fall too hard and too fast, and what am I doing now?!?!

I was on the train but am very very glad ninah got the new thread as she deserves it very much

I have only been with my nm since August too. But I am happy. That's successful, surely. I have had depressive episodes and my ex is still a PITA and my mum is terminally ill but I have something (well, someone) that makes me happy. That's success in my book.

mammya, talk to us.

And I am really hoping that there will be more happy stories on this thread (is tempted to gush, will press post, will post what I am thinking another time.....)

i have heard from him, it helped, i loved him more than my exh, but tis done

now i wont get that involved with anyone ever again

over 2 yrs later and i havent yet

if/when lb and i come to an end it will be sad but exbf was a harsh lesson learned that i will not repeat again

all right I'll talk some more then! I'm trying with POF again, and again, I am stuck at the "description" bit. How do you go about these things? argh...

i always used to say what i didnt want rather than what i did

I keep thinking that but it still effing hurts, it's like the new one piles on top of the old wounds
when I look around though I honestly wouldn't swap my life
I'm holding out for the real thing, even if it never happens
ex is ringing, he always calls, ego massage

good tip Lou!

mammy - get your profile sorted. we can have a look over it if you want some advice. or get a look at some of girls on here if you want for tips.

keep it light hearted. and be carefully words and phrases that be be confused with brief sexual encounters if your not after it.

lou - on exbf.

confession ladies. not stopped contact with BB.

he's cycling 70 miles for charity on sat.

supposed to meet on sunday. at his arranging. not sure if he will cancel though.

how many of you guys would keep giving chances to someone who had finished the relationship twice? albiet never more than simply dating and not a bf/gf type.

belle - i know the instant i meet someone if i will be able to form a relationship. and i know within a month if i could imagine a future. never used to discuss it. but i find these days with dc to be introduced i have to discuss in under 3 months as otherwise whats the point.i'm not saying i ask them to commit.

but i want them to decide if they could even imagine me in a role whereby we get to the serious stages of living together/dc etc if things continued to go as they were at the 3 month point.

see i have always felt that ultimately i will end up single and am fine about it

i dont project forward through the years and picture myself with anyone

x post sorry

i like being single

but even when not on the sites. i always end up in a relationship without trying

and i dont project. as i usually go out and get absolutely trollied and feel better once the hangover goes. perhaps my misery is holding out for sat night out

i've always been emotionally crap. not a thing from exes. probably more a thing to do with how i was brought up.

never done me any harm though.

some people will always feel like unfinished business juice, when you meet up again the spark is always there, but you can also go your different ways inbetween and be fine

i have a friend like this, we have such a complicated relationship we dont understand it ourselves

he is never in touch if he knows i am seeing anyone though, he doesnt like it

rj - it sounds good. He is into you, that's for sure.

I kind of feel alone too
I like it that way
but somehow I can't date and stay serene
the happiest times in my life were single
rj and bb
hmmmm - you liked him lots then x

by projecting i mean that when i think ahead to my life in years to come, i never see myself with anyone

rj you are emotinally literate. Honest. Not crap

i get the spark still being there.

but doesn't mean its unfinished.

i have quite a few relationship where they are most definately finished. but if i bump into them. its obvious to everyone what we want to do even if we dont speak

irish will be another of these. hence being a friend will be hard.

beachbum wont meet me in closed quarters for fear of this.

and... to tell you the truth. even dc dad is one of these. but he's still never a thing to be repeated.

i would class that as unfinished business

haha... no with me its finished.

except perhaps BB.

but he wont let me any closer than the other side of table for a meal... oh i lie, we are allowed to sit on bench for lunch together too

can i ask... when the hell did men get morals about sleeping with women.

i remember fondly the days where they didn't give a damn. you could dump them, and still get a wee sneaky bit of sex in after, but these days they just wont have it.even if i'm dumped. i'm known to indulge in a bit of post break up sex.

or at the very least... one last time for the books.

bloody metrosexual males of the 21st century.

send them back.

i want a caveman please

goodnight ladies.

lol i am a one for the road/ no hard feelings/bon voyage kind of girl too

no harm in scratching an itch

keeps us topped up and ticking over

night juice

yay girls it continues...
just having a catch up...and without wishing to sound smug blow my own trumpet i'm a success lol
oh fuck have i given it the hello curse there?
but hey regardless of what we've been thru we all are success stories(without wishing to sound all american)as i think we've all come along way since the start of the year and despite any crap we have had lots of laughs and support off this thread{rallying the troops emoticon}
right off to catch up...

I've done my profile, phew, that was hard...

Now I'll just wait and see for a while I guess...