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vonstingerrrr · 30/09/2009 21:14

Is this Mumsnet (a board for Mums)? If so, why do you allow men to post on here? Why can't they contribute to their own discussion boards.

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zazen · 01/10/2009 00:25

I'm out too, it's all got a little bizarre
Good luck all!
And blessings to everyone

lockets · 01/10/2009 00:27

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Snorbs · 01/10/2009 00:29

Blimey, will you look at the time! I'm for bed. vonstingerrr I hope you, your remedial reading classes and your quixotic fight against reality go well.

P.S. I'm the male lone parent I mentioned earlier. I'm sure you could tell based on how, as soon as I posted, the conversation instantly changed to one about football, cars and tits. Mwahahahaha!!!!

vonstingerrrr · 01/10/2009 00:40

welcome all men to Mumsnet, Mum's net, Mum'snet, mums'net .... bring your manbag, nappie sacks, wipes, bottles, dummies,

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differentnameforthis · 01/10/2009 01:23

"This site is full of useless lone Mum's who are here because they can't live without me"

Are YOU a man? Something you said about lone mums (see, no apostrophe) not being able to live without you...

Get over yourself. Mumsnet has been mumsnet a long time, it doesn't make an sense, on any level to change the name.

I guess you think that men should be able to buy the mumsnet books, either!

vonstingerrrr · 01/10/2009 01:26

ZAZEN - I thank you for your post.

I am not a troll. Just an ordinary woman who needs to sort out where to put her apostrophes.

I have no problem with men. I just can't understand why Mumsnet, isn't called 'parentsnet'.

regards.

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Blackduck · 01/10/2009 06:31

OMG - have just read whole thread in one go (can someone pass the asprin!)likebeing caught in some weird groundhog day as the OP KEPT REPEATING THE SAME THING despite the fact she had been given the answer a zillion times.....bit like a child 'Why, why, why'
....think I need to go back to bed...
I am

daisydora · 01/10/2009 06:53

I've been up since 4.30 with DS, was about to start weeping till I read this thread.

What a loon! Brilliant entertainment! I do hope the OP has found her meds now and wakes up knowing when and when not to use apostrophes.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 01/10/2009 08:36

I bet the OP has a bit of a headache this morning.

And I didnt know Snorbs was a man which just goes to show that either
A. Men contributing to this site and the threads doesnt change them
OR
B. Im an idiot.

Niceguy2 · 01/10/2009 11:39

Am I allowed to shop at Iceland? Apparently mums go there.

OrmIrian · 01/10/2009 11:47

Don't be so silly vonstingerrrr.

Maggie34Behave · 01/10/2009 11:59

On mumsnet having dads around seems to work, possibly because of the volume of posters.

But I just have to point out, that on another board for single parents that I used to visit on a completely different forum, the mums were on average younger mums, and the four or five Dads that were around were older, divorced, bitter, into blaming the women for everything. They 'grouped' together and backed eachotehr up all the time, no matter what the issue.

eg, "I'm scared my cocaine-taking child's father won't look after her so I want to go to court to restrict access". Cue 5 angry posts from caped crusaders to abuse her for denying her child a father figure and trumping up exaggerated claims. Some young Mum doing her best would be left even more devastated.

All of these single fathers were in their late 30s at least, all educated, intelligent and as bitter as CUFk if you'll excuse my French. They took their own baggage out on vulnerable young single mums whose situations and life stories were entirely different anyway. THeir vitriol made me gag almost. They seemed to promote the idea that the mother had the responsibility for her child's sake to bend over backwards to accommodate the father, regardless of what class of a wanker/bastard/abuser he was. ANd if she didn't then it was "child abuse!" and she should be "ashamed"!!

I know that is not Mumsnet. But I've seen what CAN happen. And people are people. If the dynamics changed slightly, this could happen again somewhere else.

Single Dads are entitled to be bitter you could argue, but they're not entitled to show up on a forum that 's supposed to be supportive and do the opposite of support. ie, attack and criticise.

I'll be lambasted for this perhaps, but I know what I saw.

scroobiuspirate · 01/10/2009 12:07

There's a dating site called plenty of fish,

but fish find it hard to log on with thier fins.

should i complain?

Niceguy2 · 01/10/2009 15:49

Maggie34, I think there are always idiots on every forum. A key component of any successful forum is careful moderation.

I think there's a few women on this site who are very bitter & twisted against men but then i've also been accused of being bitter & twisted myself on this site.

Personally i think having a male point of view around here would be useful.

Maggie34Behave · 01/10/2009 18:44

Niceguy2, there were nice guys on this other forum and they were hounded off or gave up and went away.

What you say about moderation is an important point. I get the impression that the moderators on MN have the skills to read through a thread and assess who's being confrontational, personal, whatever.

On this other forum, I think there was one moderator of about 18 years old and he was paid 4 euro an hour probably! lived at home still. Hadn't a notion how to read through a debate about abortion/divorce/custody/abuse and decide who was being harsh/bullying etc.

it was hopeless.

DailyMailNameChanger · 01/10/2009 20:12

Maggie, I suspect people behaving like that on MN would get a serious arse-kicking fro the other posters - in fact I have seen more than one person with a grudge/axe to grind put in their place when using one persons problems to vent their own frustrations.

shelleylou · 01/10/2009 21:31

"this is Mum's net. I was a mum, now a nan. not a dad. call it parent's net if it is for both parties. Don't mislead us committed mum's / grannies. Go to mothercare and find the men with their nappies in hand ready to do the 2am and 4am feeds. send them to their own site or change this one to PARENT'S NET There are thousands of lone parents who have no help from their ex. My daughter is one of them. Mum's net for MUM's......"

I am one of those lone parents you describe!! I however have no issue with men being part of the site at all its a valuable resource to every parent.

I supose i should tell my friend, who incidentally is a sahd to a 2yo 4yo, and very shortly a newborn that he should be on here?? WHy he does as much parenting as his DW

Maggie34Behave · 01/10/2009 21:38

Yes, N1 got his arse kicked alright. Can you imagine five or 6 N1s. All backing eachother up? hell on a forum.

Brad79 · 02/10/2009 09:36

I am a single father and I was referred to this forum by my family support worker.

I have posted a couple of threads on this forum asking for advice and support.

I have found people on this forum to be extremely helpful and supportive. Wither the advice has come from men or women.

This forum provides a warm and welcoming atmosphere, when it is needed most. For me it was when DCs are in bed and I'm left alone with thoughts of doubts and loneliness.

Niceguy2 · 02/10/2009 09:51

ShelleyLou. I assume then that you believe that men should be banned from Mothercare?

And I'd best shop somewhere else other than Iceland since it appears only mum's shop there too.

claudialyman · 02/10/2009 10:03

but at least you are personally invited to mamas & papas

RealityIsAnAuntie · 02/10/2009 10:25

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nickytwotimes · 02/10/2009 10:31

Can't believe idiotic opening post.
Ffs.
Nothing I can add to the discussion - thankfully no one else shares those feelings!

alwayslookingforanswers · 02/10/2009 10:38

ooooo NiceGuy - that's not what ShelleyLou thinks at all! She was quoting the OP - and I know her in RL and know that she definitel doesn't hold the same views as the OP does