Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part 12a

[lou33]

seeing as there has been discussion about using 13

(not that it bothers me)

i feel sorry for myself my back is still playing up, and i just tripped and made it hurt in the usual lower back place

i'm sorry to read all this ninah, i really am

spoke to lb just now on the phone, he is still at work

darkhorse came round this faternoon to see the kids and myself, he stayed for dinner and watched a dvd with us (wolverine, origins, swoon....) and left just after i got off ht eohone from lb

then i got a text from darkh saying look in my garden

i find a huge black wooden chest

inside it was cram packed with goodies for myself and the kids, including booze

what a lovely thing to do eh?

yes, still here!
is def a decent bloke which is why it's frustrating
I just can't do half hearted
and I'm more of a risk taker than he is
What would you do next? apart from wine and chocs lol
back out hunting
take a break
hope for him to sort his isshooos
dunno
my best friend has jsut emigrated, my sis is moving away and suddenly the rl friends I have are more distant ones
hope life still good w you and irish

I always liked darkhorse! wow

and thanks, lou, you know how mixed up I am about all this and have been for ages

yes i do

i still think its a good thing, at least a decision has been made , even if it isnt the happiest of endings iyswim

I know, me too
nothing worse than flogging a dead horse ...
are you seeing lb soon?

Sorry to hear all this too Ninah, I sometimes believe that I'm distined to be single forever.

Lou what a lovely thing to do, what's he after.

Well DD is coming to South Africa after all, this cheap deal has ended up costing me a small fortune. It didn't feel right going without her.

far better to be interesting, sparky and a bit hard to handle than a stepford wife LOL

some types of men do gravitate towards the latter!

I've never felt wifey enough even when I was one

Wow that was so good of dh - like a fairy godfather.

actually lou seeing as you don't want him you should spread the happiness!
thanks eve. It will be such an amazing hol

ninah - next... honestly... i tend to deal with all lives downs in same way. i get friends out. go on an almighty session, watch crappy dvds and eat shit. by time the hangover goes away i feel much better.

and usually find something new to throw myself into. be it back into something previous like gym/hobby.. or something new.

just rally yourself and get back to used to being single.

then think about getting back in the saddle and if you want do a bit of dating again.

but i think after a serious relationship like you just had.(it was serious due to length of time and fact dc were involved)... think a break from all things relationship would do you some good.
i find it impossible to keep in contact with anyone who has been a serious relationship to me. i find it much easier just to make a clean break. much less painful. you dont need months of too and froo-ing. the decision has been made so you must stick to it, for the sake of your sanity.

lou - wow @ darkhorses chest.

maybe so. But I had a major break after dc dad, and I'm thinking a bit of frivolous dating would salvage my pride
lol darkhorse's chest is gonna be a thread legend

i dont think darkh wants anything other than casual fun with anyone, i dont know why he brought the chest over, he didnt let me know about it until he had left

he did get a really nice portion of the dinner i made though

i may go see lb for lunch during half term, otherwise he is coming to stay here on the 6th for the evening

eve - SA sounds fab

scl - i'm really bad for automatically assuming the role of cooking, cleaning, etc....... i'm actually making a conscious effort not to be like that for bf. its hard.

there more i know i shouldn't... the more i want to help with dishes, etc, have to give myself a mental telling off and force my arse back on sofa with remote

shame it doesn't seem to work that way in my own home

2 bottles of red wine a can of beer and a small bottle of flavoured vodka for the grown up of the house

a remote controlled robotic dog, sunglasses, fireworks, a candle for the garden, mini speakers, sweets, all sorts of things in the chest there were

omg that's fantastic, wow

oh there was loads more than that, that is all i could remember off hand

I hope DD appreciates this holiday.

I don't find doing wifey things come easy for me either. I also find it somewhat demeaning. No wonder I'm single eh.

ha, i've been saying that too
'no wonder I'm single'
hate domesticity, and now apparently I'm also too intelligent a conversationalist
in rl obv, haha

really depends. i do the running around in my house, same as i would any other guest. he runs around in his house after me refusing to let me help or do anything that remotely resembles a chore.

not demeaning. just equality.

night girlies.
ninah, hope you have a better day tomorrow.
x

thanks rj
onwards and upwards x

ninah - I'm so sorry. FWIW I think you have done the right though undoubtedly hard and horrible feeling thing. I think when there are so many more things to fit together - children and past histories - it is so so much harder to find someone who you can share your life with. I hope the days get a bit brighter. I think you are very brave and have been honest with yourself and everyone else and that makes you pretty amazing in my book. It's a shame that he couldn't see/ wasn't ready/ wasn't brave enough. I'd have a rest from anything meaningful tbh but not rule anything/everything else out!

scl - am sorry to hear about samename and it sounds like your decision is as made as it was before you heard about the accident. How are your dc with seeing their dad now - not seen any update from you on that difficult situation either.

lou - darkhorse sounds a very appropriate name for him with such mysterious behaviour! I think I'd be a bit unnerved by that kind of generosity tbh... and be wondering what he wants. Hope you and the dc are enjoying the presents!

I am seriously fed up and exhausted with commuting to work. It takes me hours to get home most nights (is ok in the morning). I need to move and very soon.

Am still looking forward to my weekend

..... yawns.........

good morning girls. well last night... god i'm so so very weak willed. we watched, we talked we flirted we talked we kissed we flirted, we talked. he didn't stop thou - but didn't leave until 3.45 and then rang half way home to say he'd run a badger over anyhow. have pretty much both talked things out, and I now think he's made it into a big deal - talked him down off the celing - the jist of it is the whole dynamics. (knew) and he knows my stance on the whole having to learn to trust someone with DS (after all there's loads of nutter out there). He's asking what would happen if he went on holiday - I was like well you go don't you, he says yeah with you - erm yes we go! (assuming my money allows it). anyhow think we've now sorted things back out again. did say thou early into the convo, if you want to walk then go - u know where the door is , he said I know but you could just as easily walk as well - v true.

Am expecting a wobbler again today but we shall see. have made plans to see him at the w.e - at his insistence this time. not sure which day yet thou.

so go on tell me - weak willed and mad!

anyhow was just making me spot really till later on.

eve - glad you've decided to take DD.
ninah - hope you're feeling alittle brighter today
Lou - how nice of dark horse.

will read properly later in work.

oh and good thing is can both see things/put ourselves in each others shoes which is also good I think.

oh and he also admitted it's been years since he's had a proper relationship so hasn't had to think of things like this.

just be very careful, keep yourself protected, words are all very well, it's the actions that count