Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

[lou33]

dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

Goodness, there has been a lot going on here this weekend.

Hope everyone is ok(?)

I was asked to go away for a dirty weekend from someone I met on line last week this weekend. I declined (although was very tempted in a could do with some no strings attached fun). Anyway,we are chatting and we will see if it goes anywhere but I do find it interesting that almost everyone has a "don't contact me if you are after an intimate encounter" type remark on their profile and yet, it comes up again and again and again (no pun intended )

winnie, I know you're not going to do it but I would be wary of going away for weekend with someone so soon.

I did meet with one guy for NSA but only after months of emailing and texting. I really tried to suss him out fully and even then was a bit worried.

Re exh new p - am debating whether to send him a lengthy email telling him that he has to STOP dumping all his frustrations about dcs and his situation on me or doing nothing.

My oldest ds said to me last night newp thinks you are a bad mummy!!That can't be right and I feel I have to take action.

they were also not allowed a 99 FFS because of the chocolate flake. That's not normal is it.

DS1 has his own money and goes out with his mates sometimes - by way of demonstrating what a ridiculous rule to impose on a 12 year old.

you need to do something scl and I like the idea of the round table with a friend for support. Didn't you also suggest a gp appt for impartial guidance? so sorry you are going through this

scl, no ... I wouldn't be so silly but it is very tempting

As for your x... you have to go with your intuition. It isn't right. Why do some people have to be so manipulating and controlling? Poor dc & you!

My xh and his girlfriend are driving me insane at the moment with their bloody games and what they fail to take on board is that ds is in the middle of it all

well it's good to be getting offers winnie!

It was a very nice offer too... but just in case he is a raving loon... I did check out one guys profile and he has a warning on it about being safe because a female friend of his met a guy via the internet and he pulled a knife on her!

yup start a bit more gradually, coffee, drinks etc!

ninah, I met xh via internet and he lived some distance away (like thepianist) and although xh and I chatted via email for a while our first meeting was him visiting my house (????!!!!?!!!) and staying the night etc., etc.,! I hope I've learned something

Can I ask how many of you make the first contact and how many of you wait until you are asked?

yes slow down! what if you agree on a weekend and, short obv of the axe murderer scenario, what if you just don't like/fancy him? that would be grim my bf made first contact but waited for me to ask to meet, which I did as I was fairly sure he was decent but needed to see if we'd get on in the flesh before wasting loads of time emailing. Was after about 6 weeks emails then texts. Nothing raunchy. I'd avoid raunchy personally as it gives them an excuse to treat you like shit

maggie may is playing on my radio

i chuckled

lol @ lou

i just watched a film with daniel craig in it

ok i am laughing for real, after hearing maggie may on the radio i went on spotify and am playing a load of tracks from an album of rod's that has maggie may on it

and the track following it is called
mandolin wind

pmsl shall i send it to mandolin man?

and i just had a brief chat with batman, he always makes me smile

lou, i actually love maggie may. my Mum used to play it again and again even though she must have been only in her twenties!

daniel craig?

I've just had chat with thepianist and he seems to be making me smile but xh and his girlfriend are driving me insane

I don't know why I mentioned my mothers age at the time! am going mad after all

i've loved it for years, even before i dated younger men

yes daniel craig!

lol @ you lou...

hi all bit off topic but have sent exh a long email pulling no punches about situation referred to earlier in the thread.

he has sent back a brief reply suggesing he and I meet next week (can't because I have dcs) and also I requested a meeting to include his new p and my friend (as support for me) - so why do I now feel so guilty.

It was quite hard hitting in a subtle way (if there can be such a thing. But he pushed me over a line and I have been more that accommodating with him and his new set up ie dropping off and picking up boys, working round their routine with their own young dcs and generally being very encouraging to mine about their new half dsiblings.

Hi ladies - can I come back again?
Something terrible happened a couple of months back but I think the best thing I can do is get back out there. Been back on POF for a bit and it's nice to flirt a bit.
Still having ex dramas of course, it was quite nice when he pushed off for his exotic foreign holiday!
Hope all are well, just catching up on the gossip - have been reading in recent weeks tho not posting.

Sorry to hear that.

Do you want to say what happened?

scl - do you do all the travelling? I am having conflict about this atm with my ex (who wants dd collected from his GFs).

I posted with a name change but basically, split with exbf of 6mths and he came to drop round my stuff and raped me while my daughter slept. I am feeling pretty terrible in some ways but I WILL NOT have it ruined for me.

Chatting to a couple of nice guys on pof and feeling ok. Mostly.

How terrible for you. I hope you reported him. Glad you are feeling more positive.

Oh mousie I've just this minute logged on and seen this.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I've had a similar experience in my past. How are you? Have some of these ((())).

That also reminds me I still have your email and haven't replied - I will do soon I promise!