Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

[lou33]

dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

well scl is getting tough,after txting exbf with no response (his pattern) have sent him txt saying i will take decision (as he won't) and no more txts from me. Have deleted his no. AGAIN

And have created new profile on site I met samename guess what he is still there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! with new photo

Lets see how this one plays out

Scl . Are you OK? You need to keep your options open too. Good on you for updating your profile.

Yes I'm fine. Have also left a vm message for exbf, saying I won't phone again but he owes me an explanation.

As for going back on dating site I wanted to see if samename was still there. I'm just going to see whether he makes contact or comments.

It's all bs I will never get it right with men.

That's how I feel atm. So have given up.

its really not in my nature to be like this though.

I am sooo fed up of second guessing tho

well i was in a nice mood about to consider bed and i checked dd1's phone (after past events), as she had left it behind, only to find one of the fucking chancers had messaged her , which sent me into a rage

i replied from her phone on her behalf, i am going to find this fucko and have serious words with him, i swear i will

i hope he is shitting his pants right now from my reply

lou I don't know past events but sounds horrible for dd, hope you and she are OK, you have so much on your plate atm
scl! shit! what a shock that must have been. Even tho he is a 7. You do know we should be aiming higher you and I. I had a discussion with nm while we were away ie we both have doubts, but in the end I was too upset to finish with him properly. Is limping on. I would be shocked to find him on website but god knows what they are really thinking. He has changed his pattern of seeing his dc and we'll have much less free time together. He has no intention of getting divorced or making any kind of future with me. And he's a 6 but somehow I've got used to having someone around. I have a horrible feeling the only way I'll be able to finish it is by jumping out of the frying pan into the fire so I am going to a drinks party where I think the Thai Farmer is invited too.
Winnie you're right, we're not selling are we?!

good for you with ex tho. Now delete all record of his numbers
agree with you. total bs all of it.

i'm tired

darkhorse snored so much last night i went and slept in dd's room, because i couldnt get off (plus everytime i moved he was suffocating me with hugs and i dont want hugging ffs)

dd1's bed is v comfy but the bloody hamster kept me awake

scl - delete all his numbers emails, msn, and throw out all those scraps you have with his number. seriously. do it now.

lou - hope things get better soon.

ninah - hmm...... a 6 is slightly better than average, but not enough to be serious relationship tbh.... we started this thread with aim of shooting for a cracker. not someone who's just kinda better than middle of road. a 6 out of 10 is fine for a casual.... but your not casual. your bf/gf??

scl - i'm sorry but i would be livid if i were in your position re samename. ok... maybe not livid. but thing is that you aren't seeing anyone else and he obviously is still trawling the site.... the fact he's put a new picture says it all really... its very very very disrespectful imo at length of time you have been seeing him now.... i know you say you aren't bothered, but i think you are.... your worth so much more than some fella who's having his cake and eating it... i appreciate that your filling a gap at the moment. but as long as you messing around uncommitted (you may be exclusive to him, but doesn't seem like he is to you) with samename then it is holding you back from a proper good relationship.

if you want to be with him and put up with the kick in the guts everytime you see he's still trawling the sites then by all means go for it.

but i think it's time you spelled it out to him you are dumping him as you feel like your wasting time with him, and he's holding you back from finding someone who wants a monogomous relationship.

if he's just being jack the lad and actually behaving he'll tow the line and jack in the site.

but if he's up to no good he wont, and your best to throw him back in the sea before he really hurts you, or before the kids are involved. maybe you should thank your stars you have kept them seperate.

eve - hope things went well in hosp.

asbm at you night with bf

at brains of peter andre.

everyone else hope your enjoying your perving chatting to dating potentials.

oh.. as for money question. tis odd. and rude. tell him yes. how else can you buy your jimmy choos.

as for me. haven't seen beachbum. and his contact has been shit since this thing with his neighbour. he does reply when i text. but 1 or 2 then doesn't really bother unless i specifically ask.

he says his friend is "gutted and he cant leave him".... but i have a sneaking suspicion they are having a gaming competition wkd... i did notice 3 yes 3 different gaming station in his house. i asked and he admitted he used to be really bad gamer. and i just have this niggly 6th sense they're having a lads wkd before his friend moves back to his mums area.

which isn't generally a problem with me. but he did cancel our date for sat. and i'm away to bournemouth start of next week. so be next wkd before i see him.

i'm just a bit at being canx when i suspect its for lads thing. and he's been there since thurs.... this is now sunday and he says "cant leave him on his own, really do hope you understand? will make it up to you when you get back to bournemouth"

is it or me... or is this a bit

oh... and i went to hen wkd. spent a fortune. and i'm dying of a hangover.

scl, am sad for you he is a disappointing man and I echo ninahs sentiments, you need to have this out with him once and for all!

ninah, if you are really thinking like this then i would suggest it is time to move on, find someone who is at least a 8!

fingers crossed for eve

rj, I dont think that his behavior is particularly indicative of someone who wants to spend time with you, he should be making more of an effort to see you, you are gorgeous, intelligent and funny and dont you forget it!

how ever if his friend is genuinely in need its a good thing that is is looking out for him. Its your call.

Hi lou, sorry things aren't going well at the moment, tea, sympathy and wine at the ready for you.

morning all what a strange night. exbf got in touch and came round to see me, he must have sixth sense when I delete his no.
Called him a cheeky c**t (and I hate using that word). he said he prob deserved it. Blah blah. Sorry all but am so weak where he is concerned.

Re samename think the chat would be less of an accusatory nature (I have hardly been a paragon of virtue myself tho did take myself off the site) but more along the lines of think you are really looking for someone who can give you more than I can.

FWIW I don't think Im ready to take him (or maybe any relationship)to the next level (and he wants a serious relationship.But it's true to say we have skirted round these issues in typical British manner. LOL

Am feeling a bit more chipper this morning tho.

blimey scl your head must feel like imploding

Oh SCL now exbf is back in the mix just to complicate things more.

I'm back from this hospital. Feeling a bit groggy after affects of the sedation. The very nice young doc said everything looks fine, need to make an appointment with GP to try some medication. They took a biopsy to test as there was some inflamation. Phew it's a relief to know that it's nothing serious.

scl - bloody noorah ditto lou comment of imploding head

itm - i kinda feel that way too. but have to bear in mind i only met him last friday.his friend away and now he's suddenly back all attentive again..... hmm....need to keep an eye on this.

glad it was ok eve

rj, i agree it seems a bit suspicious doesnt it?

no, not suspicious at all.

was definately his friend. that thought never even occured. he had offered i pop in on my way back from dundee as passing his town on way, but had to trial a horse and was in jodphurs.

think he thought this was even more of a reason for me to come round .. but i'm not meeting his friend for first time in joddies ... well the jodphurs weren't so bad. but hungover with bright pink armpits and stinking horse shitty boots is not attractive.

oh... the bright pink arm pits. had a feather boa tied round my back via oakster iykwim. unforunately.. as we all discovered this morning was that the colour ran out of the cheap boas. thankfully i never had it on my neck so dont have pink neck. but the dye wont come off . some of others girls look like they have been strangled.

i mean suspicious as in he is in touch when he seems at a loose end, or have i misread it? you dont want to be a back up plan

i reckon it would have been quite amusing if you had turned up like that

will watch that space rj lol at pink boas!
oh no scl not the ex ...
eve I'm glad all is looking good, what a relief
Just picked up dc and ex told me he will be cutting their maintenance as I will be working more hours soon, gutted as I was hoping for once to be able to start living a bit above subsistence
nm is spending time with his ds
my dc have come back tired and emotional
feeling the heavy load of lone parenthood descend again

he was still in touch . when i text he replied straight back. but when he's at loose end he does tend to initiate a text session couple of times a day.

i'm just being petty and spoilt tbh. put out that he canx on me on sat and i fancied some action

can't understand why someone is in your house thur-sunday and you cant sneak off for couple of hours.... well actually i can... if you have friends visiting (slightly different i know)... you dont bugger off and leave them to entertain themselves for couple of hours while you go on a date would you???

he has said he will make it up to me. so we will see what that involves. personally it better be blooming good or i'm going to go off the boil on this one.

and to my shame BigT has been texting enthusiastically and i have been responding. i still delete everyday so i dont initiate the contact....friday was 35 messages

and lou - if it had been just him on his own i would have deffo turned up like that. got some extra riding in for that day

Actually wasn't feeling too bad generally. However receiving a call from exh just before I picked dcs up did make head implode.

I told him to call parentline or a support group for step families and stop dumping all hhis crap on me. He thinks we need to solve wwhy dcs play up when they are with him.

From talking to dcs it seems that exh newp has a myriad of rules and regulations such aas no drinks anywhere other than kitchen, vetoing of some pg films for ds2 (8), water or organic juice only(ds1 is nearly 13 ffs), 30 mins of exercise every day etc

Mine actually go on trampoline every day tho I don't need to justify it to her.

ExH goes along with this when he is with her and when alone with dcs allows them chocolate and fizzy drinks. This is the person who showed them a gory 15 film when they were quite young dismissing it as comic book gore!!!

EXp also quizzed ds2 on what he'd had for breakfast that day (coco pops) and said it was 'shocking'.
They don't get this to eat all the time btw.

I am made out to be Waynetta Slob which I'm not.

Sorry for rant

nothing wrong with coco pops. could be worse. could be giving them mcmuffin rofl.

mines eat a huge variety of cereal. from healthy weetabix to sugar puffs. we have to change everytime so they dont get bored. current favourite thy have is honey nut shredded wheat.

and I'm a firm believer in not demonising food. Methinks she has ishoos.

If you are denied then chances are you will go mad when you go to friends houses etc./get to uni/have own money to spend

Think they might not be going again for a bit.

Wish he would grow some balls but he is dependent upon her for accommodation.

I've also offered exh a round the table discussion (a la wife swap) and would take along my mate for support

Hey all just popping in to say hello.

SCL your XH's new partner sounds like a real oddball with all sorts of dreadful food and cleanliness issues.

I'd say it's pretty obv why your DC play up with him. Might it be cos he's a an arse and his new partner is a freaky control freak?

Fancy being shocked about Cocopops. Get a grip!

rj - you are obviously THE WOMAN! Anyway bet you look fab even with pink pits, lol