Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

[lou33]

dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

SCL think I need Paul Mckenna, or perhaps just a softer light on the webcam.

Just realised I've missed someone off my list earlier, 'Turkish Delight'.

Met him in the sea in my bikini, was negotiating the pebbles when he started chatting to me. It was a one night holiday cuddle 7/10 for being an opportunist! 0/10 for me for being a dirty old woman.

Oh I am def over ex husband and frankly could do with some sex But also know I want a proper relationship too.
As I met xh online and he turned out to be the biggest liar I have ever met and terrible role model for ds ~ and there is a thread from way back somewhere on here saying how I'd love ds to grow up just like his Dad ~ I have a big leap of faith to take.
But I am prepared to do that. I've wasted the last 5 years of my life already.

Eve, I am 40 next month and dd is 19 I just can't look at a 21 year old in that way.

sincitylover, I divorced him two years ago but we have gone back and forth for years (!!???!!*!?!) Even after our divorce we got back together for 14 months but I finished it for good, knowing I'd absolutely finished it for good, the week before xmas. Having said that we ended up back in bed 4 months later but... never again! There is no going back, I don't want him, I have discovered things recently that he has been doing throughout our relationship (& using the children in the process) that mean I would never forgive him. I haven't trusted him for years and I will never trust him again. Funnily enough, knowing and accepting that there is no going back has been a sort of freedom an, but for the devastation caused ds by his Dad's behaviour, I would be really very happy right now.

I feel like I've been on my own for the last five years

although I would have had a lot less grief if I actually had been

Moving on....

fwiw when i was 39 i had a few occasions with a 21 yr old

not sure if that will make you feel better or worse!

he was the son of my friend, she had told me he had a thing for me, he confirmed it in front of her, and she used to make him walk me home after a night out

it just took him a few hours

hahaha!
rj ever putting the optimistic spin on things,have seen your thread might well post,but hey lady you've given me serious talkings up in the past...so??!!
eve i do wish you'd stop that talk,if i was nearer would give you a good talking to..over a bottle or two of course lol
scl think it's been a huge voyage as such for a few of us since we split/divorced and certainly since this thread initially began,i haven't actually done it as such but i think if i or any of us were to look at past parts we'd be amazed to see how far on we are with things and certainly our viewpoint on relationships/dating now as opposed to back in jan when a few of us had an online natter one night and this thread was born!
lou-a msn-ing is long overdue,sorry i've been that busy of late and not thru man stuff either sadly!will leave you message if we miss out on natter
winnie-you met exh online?which site and are you using same site now?
without wishing to nose as such tho admittedly i am,do you think this has given you a better feel for meeting blokes?
and out of interest do you think online dating has changed alot since you last used it?

lol @ Lou
aseriouslyblondemoment, no I am not using the same site. It was a long time ago and most people didn't put photo's up which does change the dynamics from the start. Have mixed feelings about whether this is good or bad. I am not sure it has given me a better feel for meeting men. I am a lot less gullable thanks to xh! I am also a lot more honest about what I want/don't want & it shocks me that I have some blatant prejudices! I think that is about something else though (age?).

have a good day must get to work!

asbm - ah you know me. cup half full.

i really am suprised there's only 1 person from MN who has broken the cycle... surely that cant be true

but..... em..... beachbum......
couldn't care less about hair anymore after last night.
but.... i am looking for a fault tbh... seems too good to be true (other than the hair.lol)

mind you... as long as i dont catch him cucking his thumb nothing can be that bad

sucking, not cucking

cucking would be better or worse?

did i mention i got asked out by a 24 yr old battle reenactor?

bet you can guess what i said

battle reenactor of 24

yep

long hair parted in the centre as well

lol Lou, How are you today?

rj, you go girl

Can I ask everyone for every actual date you have had how many exchanges of email/chats did you have that didn't actually get to a date (for whatever reason)?

oh winnie. at least 10-20 non starters for every date.

i have plenty of randoms where i've emailed couple of times as chat was good. but no intention of meeting.

Evening all, just dropping in, selfishly, to ask people's opinions on something. Well I already have my own opinions of course but would be interested on what you all think too!

Scenario is - spent day on Saturday with exbf (not DS Dad to be very clear here). It was at his invitation and he was rather lovely to me, bought pressies for DS, luch for me, and also drinks. I didn't have to pay for anything. So all very nice, right?

Well, he has a gf and told me some rather personal stuff about her and some other things...which..well..I'd rather not know and really, really isn't appropriate.

So, WTF is he playing at really?

at beachbum rj.

And may I also say ?

ah you know what i think

janos

It's not on really is it?

If I was seeing someone and they did this I'd be LIVID and calling them all the names. It's also pretty cruel to the gf as well and at the end of the day I believe in treating someone how you would like to be treated yourself.

Karma's gonna bite me on the ass if this goes any further, I think.

karma rules. kick him in the nuts instead

Janos, exh does this to me about his current girlfriend I am absolutely convinced karma rules and he will get his...

Janos sound like he's up to no good. Not sure on the background. Who broke up with who and are you genuinely friends now or is there unfinished business. Whisper (do you want him back). All sounds a bit dodgy.

Well, I broke up with him because he was being an arse and also there are issues which I strongly suspect haven't been resolved.

And, and, and, he cheated on his current girlfriend which really is something I never would have believed of him before.

It's not adding up to good, is it?