Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part ELEVEN

[lou33]

dollparts he messaged me through a dating site i forgot i was on

RJ I've been chatting to my friend and yours on MSN. He's not into the webcam naughty stuff, thank god. He is also absolutely gorg on webcam!!!

I put mine on then he disappeared. lol no, I'm joking he asked me for my postcode to put into his sat nav pronto. Didn't give it.

Don't suppose I will chat to him again but I suddenly feel like a schoolgirl. Can I not be indulged for one night.

lol at you two sharing an online friend! and at him whipping out his satnav
well to be fair rj there were a couple of texts the first morning with pictures of soggy mountains etc and I am the rude one because I did not reply
I mean what can you say to a soggy mountain
we usually speak on phone tho
I'll try not to put it in a critical way eve, I can understand how they feel, and although I am hopping mad right now I will have calmed down by the time I talk to him. If ds was misbehaving I would want to know and I would listen
Is going to need some serious give and take

ninah - good luck whatever happens.

eve - i can just see him turning up now at your door step with his satnav in 1 hand, webcam in other.

well.... i'm off on a lunch date in edi girls. with beachbum. pls pls pls... let this one be normal.... and at least have the possibility of a second date.... it would be quite nice to have sex sometime in Aug

and today..... i have decided to cut off BigT, his situation is far too complicated and its just ridiculous we still haven't managed a 2nd date. feel like i'm wasting a fortune on a text relationship and there's no benefit. my phone bill for last month was over £100 because i went crazy over my limit of free texts/calls. which is very high allowance tbh.

he is deleted from my phone and msn.

mirror guy has been told no chance and is now being dutifully ignored.

copper has been blocked on msn and ignored on text.

oooh and i still hear from BigIrish... he's got swine flu and still decorating his new house.

and canadian who still lived with ex, because couldn't sell..... things went royally tits up and ex has moved in with her parents. so he's asked to keep in touch, and he's asked if i will agree to meet in august sometime. as i wouldn't meet before when his ex still living with him.

hows everyone else going? anyone got any potentials?

all those with nm? any of them bf yet?

inthemist - how goes it with marathon man.
asbm - your must be a bf by now.... and i want to see a pic of you 2 at that wedding you went to.

oooh that reminds me. i have a wedding to attend on 5th of sept. shall be taking my sidekick instead of fella.... weddings are excellent fun when single.

and one more thing.

friends dh who is an arse to her, cheated on her in past, her dh was completely pissed at a party, wasn't making moves, but was making jokes about thumb sucking, pulling faces being everyone backs kind of thing.....

well... her parents said to me "remember their bed is for 2 not 3", as they had no idea what the stupid thumb sucking faces were about.

makes me really that people think once your single you are going to go after any man... single or married.

actually makes me a bit

have been avoiding any situations where i'll see her and he might be there. they have alot of parties so dont know how much longer i can keep avoiding without her getting upset. plus her dh rock climbs too. (he rushed off and signed up for start up course few days after me)

she keeps asking me if i will go with her dh when he needs a climbing partner...... i'm running out of excuses. luckily dc been unwell and ex been away so can use childcare as excuse.

but what do i do........ should i tell her what was said?

i really dont want to be put in a position where anyone can start rumours or speculate.but i cant keep avoiding them without it seeming like i've fallen out with her.

its not her fault too. she's a lovely woman. just her dh is an arse.

RJ I would tell her the reason you don't want to go climbing with her DH. It's all perfectly innocent, tell her about the crossed wires.

I was just wondering how everyone is getting on with their nm's. ITM etc? Update?

I reckon I am going to be the last one on this thread to find a nm as it's unlikely to happen. Looks like it's going to die soon and I will be chatting to myself.

Think I will take SatNav up on his offer as I might as well have some fun in my single state.

PS. Hope you have a great date with 'Beachbum' today. Report back.

I don't know where you live but Liverpool has a LOT of fantastic looking men (and women). We live outside Liverpool in Formby but go in regularly for galleries and stuff. I'm from Lancashire and not so many lookers there. Lived in Sidmouth devon and severe shortage of men at all there. Knee deep in them round here. Is internet dating safe? Just read book about chap who met American women on web. Went to visit and she was 30 years older than she said. Had put an old picture of herself on site. Also had body of her dead flatmate in freezer. She didn't kill him but she did chop his leg off with an axe to get him in there. Yikes!

I am quite a way from Liverpool sadly. Not many nice, available men in my area.

Hope that story was extreme. Think the trick is is to use a bit of common sense before you take the plunge and meet someone off the net. Trust your instincts, also webcams or mobile photos cannot lie about your age.

Not everyone who has contributed to this thread is doing internet dating, it's just easier to meet people off the net when your no. 1 priority is staying in and looking after the DC's. Some are meeting people the traditional but whichever methods used I am pleased to say that, since it started quite a few of my friends on here have found fit and interesting men.

ninah sounds - so sorry for your ds1 - have you managed to speak to nm yet.

saw samename last night - generally ok but a couple of alarm bells re his attitude to women at work - he seemed to have an issue with his counterpart with young dc who wfh one day per week - I do this too and tried to give him the counter argument.

He is adamant that their type of business is not cut out for this but to me it demonstrates inflexible thinking and a total lack of understanding of working parents. He is also having other probs with someone he is managing at work.

Hmmm

Lou - have always wanted to go to Mercedes Benz world (and own Mercedes) was it worth it - will look at your piccies on fb

SCL do you detect chauvanistic tendancies, is he getting at you in a roundabout way or does the business require employees on the premises?

It like a red rag to a bull if a guy I'm seeing starts on gender issue. I've lived without a man most of my adult life, bought a house, brought a child up, always worked yet still come across men who think they are superior when they haven't done half as well as I. How dare they.

I'm not a bitter man hater either, love the company of some of them and have never been short of male company. OK so I cannot find one that will stick around I'm compatable with and even if I never do it doesn't make me a failure.

Phew felt good to get that rant over.

SCL I'm not say samename is anything like this.

scl - perhaps samename is just doing that typically male thing of hanving a rant about work. and aiming it at this colleague . he might not really think that, but it gives him ecuse to blame her for being lazy.... as perhaps she is lazy and uses that as her excuse.

although there are many women who knock their pans out to work part time but be as efficient as full time staff.... sadly there are some who put in half effort as just see it as a wage and would rather be home with dc and family or SAHM. and they reflect badly on those who try their damndest.

as for telling my friend about her dh... cannot really do that. she's not long over a bad bout of PND, and his recent shitty behaviour is pushing her back to the edge. i think hearing this could send her over the edge.... innocent murmurs made up by others it may be.... but its best she doesn't know and i stay my distance i think... but i feel really bad as she needs her friends at time like this when she's teetering on heading back to that dark place.

my date..... with beachbum.

met in edinburgh. went for pub lunch... weather was gorgeous.

he turns up in suit as is his lunch break.and i thought phwoarr.

well dressed.
great manners
at first i thought he was shy, then just turns out he is quiet spoken... but deffo not shy, did his fair share of talking
refused to let may pay a penny during pub lunch.

then a walk through princes gardens which was gorgeous and we got ice cream like teenagers.

had a fab time.

then when he asks me if i want to go on another date once we have parted(by text)

i caught myself thinking..... should i? i'm not sure about his hair?..... promptly slapped myself round the chops for making up the daftest excuse ever...... and agreed.

Glad to hear that his hair hasn't out you off. Sounds like a very pleasant date.

put not out ooops!

eve - all that was wrong was it needed a trim. its short... but kept thinking.. needs a wee trim".lol..... i have slapped my wrists and will be thoroughly embarrassed if next time i see him he has lush short gorgeous hair.

RJ, that was funny before. DD wanted her laptop back. I handed it over with your other thread still on the screen. Usually log off for obvious reasons. She scanned it and said, hey mum that's you!!!!

More in common than we realise.

Hi guys, this is the first opportunity in what feels like days to catch up!

Work is manic, went out to dinner last night in Bath with girlfriends... had a fab evening and after work today and dropping ds off at his dad's where we had a run in (just for a change ) I went to catch up with a friend and she made me supper which was lovely

ninah, I am sorry about the situation with ds although it is better that you know what is going on with him. Good luck I don't envy you having to deal with that.

ridingjoker, you've gone for it big time cutting men out of your life! Good for you. I think it is important for all of us to remember what we are worth. at eve and yourself sharing a friend! Your date sounded nice although the hair thing is very funny I do know what you mean about some men in suits though

sincitylover, I too would have alarm bells ringing after that. How are things?

My news is that I am talking to two men at the moment. Both are a foot taller than me and years younger I have to say that my novice status of how sites work is a disadvantage. AND I've never used MSN, have no idea how too and sound like an idiot when trying to explain this

Lou, meant to say I am glad you had a good day

Hi Winnie, had a busy night and going to bed but didn't want to leave you as the thread killer tonight. (grin) Sounds like you are getting out and about and enjoying POF, btw there are no rules.

I'm out on a girlie night tommorrow, I need the space from DD.

blaardy hell
i can't keep up here!
will try and have proper catch up tomorrow just browsing now....
RJ-a msn'ing is a-calling me thinks!
eve-enjoy your girly night
scl and lou hope you're both ok tonight?
ninah-will answer your email,am hoping you're having a lovely vino'd night of it once dcs in bed?i am!
itm-hope you're enjoying your jollies?
know that janos is tho knackd!!
dp-wishing you all the best for day out with dd and nm{fingers crossed emoticon}
hello to everyone else!
summer hols and everything else keeping me quiet atm.
not nm sadly tho
ohh ok will promote him to bf status
hey check me out lol
wasn't it me who started this original thread???!!

actually ladies for a squirm giggle
think it might be time to forget reflect on our disasters dates of the past 6/7 months
any thoughts??!!

thanks winnie

sorry if i am not replying to anyone and seeming self centred but things are tough here atm so cant think of anything to add to help

lou, I am sorry that things are so tough

Will catch up with you all very soon. Have a good Saturday

asbm - what do you mean like a little rundown of who we actually met? ... not sure i actually want to remember all.lol.

though there was the odd enjoyable dirty wkd meeting.

and yes... msn lady when you get on this morning.

morning ladies.....
.... so, i was supposed to go with girls last night. but due to spending all next wkd with them at hen wkd.... i decided to go meet beachbum again .... we worked out between my schedule... and then him going on holiday in fortnight.... it would be 4 weeks before we got the chance of empty house again..... so we made the most of it

i have only 1 thing to say........ ,

today i cant stop

i can definately fix overlook the hair needing a trim. [grim]

way hey!

yep a little resume i think!
might be scary amusing
and points out of 10 too

diver (2 dates 10/10) - excellent drowt breaker
superman (wkd 9/10) - worth every penny of my luggage excess

TT policeman (1 date 2/10) - looked nothing like his photo.

copper (1 date 6/10) - no manners in late reason for 2nd date issue

tigger (1 date 6/10) - far too complicated

cocktail (1 date 7/10) - really lovely bloke. shame about gums

portobello - (1 date 6/10) - extremely handsome, very dull.

marvel (1 month bf/gf 0/10 ) - thumb sucking says it all

beachbum....... thats a secret.