Where have all the fit and intersting men gone part 10 (part 10...already?!)

[Janos]

Yay, I get to start this one!

Anyways hey to Dee and mousie, the more the merrier I say

RJ, that fact that they are supposed to be wholesome is the whole point.

I this splitting the bill with a guy much rather he paid everytime your treat this time mine next.

I hate!!

rj I had just that problem with mine? do you remember after we went on hol and he produced receipts? a while ago we were discussing it and he said that worked well didn't it ... he now knows .. and yes we take turns at lunch also
If I throw him back into cyberspace he'll be a bit more clued up at least
re dc asbm, I think yours are a bit older than mine, old enough to be aware of the bf thing? maybe sunday lunch or something, quite casual? or the gardening thing like itm did
sounds like it's going well, good for you!

not selfish at all it's normal to wonder, but there are no guarantees with any relationship as we all know, so you can't really put life on hold in case it doesn't work out
as for ex no need to discuss just yet is there? just a friend as far as he is concerned

I probably got this wrong when DD was younger. I did introduce them to her or I wouldn't have had any time with a bf. She didn't get that attached as it was just casual. She was glad to see the back of them as they took attention away from her.

When I lived with someone and we broke up, she did feel it as she liked him and could see the advantages of him being around, also the disadvantages.

asbm, dont even discuss it with him, i never have and never will

your private life is just that and you have no obligation to tell him or explain anything, however he kicks off

just pass him a box of tissues and tell him to have a good cry about it and he will feel better

I've introduced people too soon. Because dd is small, and because I never get a break apart from to go and work some crazy antisocial shifts.
But - it's easy at 2, people come and go, and we see my work friends sometimes, and then random extended family, and schoolfriends - they're all the same to her. I also, as previously mentioned, fall in love too quickly. So I thought 3 times in the last 9 months it was a 'keeper'. I was wrong. But I'll probably do it again as I think it's my personality really. I will try not to, do feel free to remind me. Sorry that's no help to those of you with older dcs.
I also know that when I was a teenager living on my own with my mum I was really desperate for her to go and find someone!!! (tho we didn't have the healthiest relationship) - so I'm remembering that too.

Have fun this weekend, think of me, the mousie, and the all mine Thorntons chocolate buttons!!!

i am the opposite wrt falling in love

darkhorse is here, he missed the train he was meant to get so was 30 mins late but we are back and food is on its way and wine is opened

hoorah!

you are ahead of me lou
was meant to go to bf with dc to stay over
asked dc to get jama'd up while I cleared kitchen
went up to chaos plus ds had cut dd's hair
with blunt scissors
fuming
bf is now coming to me

he will have to tread carefully then lol

ah you've all pssd off in search of wine and Thorntons, think I'll join you in that, have a good weekend all

ohh its quiet on here!
obv everyone otherwise shagging engaged
omg ninah is the hair a mess?i've the most awful school pic of my ds's with wonky fringes and i wouldn't have minded but they'd had their hair cut the day before
yes lou i agree about exh but i've told you about him so i am waiting for fireworks as/and when he finds out
ninah and eve you're both quite right here i shouldn't have to put my life on hold and yes we all know that relationships can go wrong
perhaps i'm just worrying for worries sake!

i discussed this with janos earlier and even she said that her ex would find fault even if she were going out with bob geldof

Hey there you lovely lot.

Christ, what a day I had yesterday. Very tearful and touchy, not like my normal cheerful self at all. Anyway after much feeling sorry for myself have started today on a more positive note and determined not to let the arsehole XP affect me.

Not much going on here man-wise (seems to be feast or famine with me). Guess who had the nerve to message me on POF. That tosser who blew me out! Deleted and ignored.

mousie - yum at thorntons chocs!

DS has met a couple of boyfriends, very briefly, and they were always treated as friends.

asbm you're getting the bf jitters! thinking of all the problems because it's getting good!
I have still not told ex about bf although he must have a fair idea
he wouldn't fly off the handle, I just can't bring myself to discuss it somehow, but there's no need
have also been easily riled recently
lol at Saint Bob janos
actually the hair looks pretty good! she now has a fringe which quite suits her - still grrrr tho! hair and toys all over the floor

morning all,

had a lovely dinner. which marvel paid for. hooorah. he insisted since there was a few drinks on their his and i was on soft drinks. he does learn quick this one.

asbm - oooh you are thinking about keeping actionman then if he's being considered in the meeting of dc.

janos - chin up. will try catch you later

ninah - glad to see you've rescued the hair dilemma.

i'm off to tidy my house . my bro was baby sitting and the place is absolutely trashed.

XP is making me feel really crap. Why do I always fall for it. I feel so crap I feel sick. I have tried to be nice and I get it all thrown back in my face. And every time it still gets me down...

rj - glad you have a good time!
Janos - sorry you've been feeling crap too.
asbm and lou - it's sounding really good. I am really glad for you guys.

Oh mousie I do sympathise.

Xp has that effect on me too and he's particularly nasty this week and it has upset me.

But, I'm finding that every time he does it it's bothering me a little less. I think that's a good sign.

I think the being nice is the problem..they see it as weakness and an opportunity to get stuck in there.

Oops just outed myself there. Never mind

We won't tell

He is expecting me to collect dd from his GFs, pack up my share of our house and move it all, with dd also there, in a little over 24 hours. And I don't have a car. And being rude about not leaving my stuff behind. Sigh.

DD has done 4 wees on the potty and wants to ring daddy, and I will have to bite the bullet and do it, because it is the right thing. It is so hard and I am cross!

And I really feel for you on your other thread.

Hang on, HE expects YOU to pick up DD from HIS girlfriends! Have I got that right?

That is very definitely out of order.

Congrats to your DD btw

Amongst other things, yes. Sometimes he is kind of helpful and a bit nice and I think, aren't I lucky that dd has a human being for a father and then it all crashes down on me and I realise he is such a and why was I ever so stupid. I am glad to see that you ladies are proving there are nice men out there

mousie
youngbag glad you're feeling brighter today
rj good stuff!he's obv.a willing pupil
ninah lol tbh i will have to spill as my dc will naturally mention my friend in the course of general convo
exh will go absolutely ballistic and i'm sure will do his best to scupper things,he will hate the fact that the dc will meet and doubtlessly like actionman,he's a v.jealous man
actionman fwiw has said that he's not afraid of exh and 'bring it on etc'...
hmm fisticuffs outside of asbm's

asbm - i think thats a requirement for most of us on this thread. our nm will have to be quite capable in dealing with arsey exp/h (not to mention the slightly fiesty amoung us )

mousie - not quite sure why you have agreed to collect your dd from his gf??? why not just say no?