Where have all the fit and intersting men gone part 10 (part 10...already?!)

[Janos]

Yay, I get to start this one!

Anyways hey to Dee and mousie, the more the merrier I say

Well ladies today I had an email on POF from a man asking if I am a SUB.

That's sub as in BDSM.

My feeling is....you would get to know someone first before asking that? No? Or maybe that's part of their, um, 'thing'.

RTP happy birthday!!
another gemini!

whats sub and bdsm?

rj...

It's Bondage, Domination and Sado-Masochism.

A sub is a woman who likes being ordered about..apparently.

Not for me.

haha!
am glad i'm not the only naive one here

ah.... now i'm with you. i definately dont know what any of that stuff is. i've never partaken in handcuff/blindfold/dressing up stuff....honest.

angel remember

That a walnut whip then, rj?

It's very educational on these chat threads, me thinks!

oh now dee, if i could include sex that involves chocolate and whips that would be great

Ha, ha at the tranny.

My friends ex had a fetish for wearing a corset, an old ladies type thing, being tied up and whipped with a bob shoved where the sun doesn't shine.

Even though they were divorced she obliged now and again in exchange for gifts. It's a funny old world.

Llaj I would personally run a mile. Have you decided what you are going to do?

Each to their own, I guess - I am sure there are "specialist" sites for this bloke out there!
I might start writing a profile again - be therapeutic rather than being sad about things. I have put some weight on lately and it makes me feel all down on myself. Never been this heavy - or heavy at all really. It is my antidepressant, but knowing that it is "worth" it doesn't help any.

morning all!
eve the mind boggles eh?!
mousie have you been to your doc to ask for a change of ads?tho if they're doing the trick for you i imagine that they'll be loathe to switch

Well after much consideration last night (read hysterical giggling over the phone to friends) I have come to the conclusion that I would have been much happier not knowing and definately could have done with not seeing the photo. There is no way that I can now imagine any form of eroticism with him. I like my men to be men.......

i think you've had a lucky escape tbh
imagine if you had actually started seeing him and this came out
so,anymore possibles on the horizon?

Ohh possibly. There is the PE teacher who while very good looking and into similiar things as me, the emailing is not going to well. Very hard to talk to him actually. He is not a big one for writing I think.

Then there is the ex army guy who seems to be able to hold a written conversation well.

Then there is the pilot, who is a tad dorky but we are getting along like a house on fire.

At least it makes for entertaining reading.

thanks for the birthday wishes. I am a bit perkier now a few more friends are able to make the night out...

asbm - I seem to know loads of geminis! I really dont believe in that horoscope stuff, but they could have been writing about me when they describe a gemini. not sure if that is good or bad...

llaj - not surprised you came to that decision. was rofl tho! would it be cruel to post the picture so we can have alook?

eve - 'she obliged now and then in exchange for gifts' made me laugh!

So, out of interest, on your dating sites, how much do you judge by the photo? I am wondering if I am being put off too easily. I have a couple of, seemingly interesting, men online emailing me now. not sure tho, as they arent traditionally 'my type'. dunno if I can be bothered to spend the energy emailing them if I dont fancy them judging by their photo, but then am I just being too hasty?

ohhh options eh?
good stuff lol
and we're back onto the military connection again too!
must be something in the water

I would love to show you all the photos but one of the kids walked into the office while I was looking and accidently closed it so cant look again if I wanted to

erm..
well...
i have tried,ohh i've tried to go against type but have always failed miserably
tho i guess you can try and if you meet up then view it as i did, as a night out!
but yes,we're always hearing these tales of 'i thought he wasn't my type blah blah.'.and then it miraculously happens doesn't it?
tbh i reckon that as divorced women we just know what we do and don't want anymore don't we?
and blond hair and shorties just don't do it for me end of

i decided to put and end to thesp and his on off contact once and for all last night

told him i accepted his apology but we cant be friends cos i dont trust him and his drink problem makes me nervous

i said i didnt allow people like that in my life, said i was fine the kids were fine i was seeing someone v nice, and he should leave me alone with a clear conscience and i wished him luck

i think it worked

i bloody hope it did

Hi all

I am still on POF and have been messaged by a 22 yr old eygptian guy!! Eeek

Am quite attracted to the sub stuff btw - prob because I have too much responsibilty elsewhere!!!

when you say against type? do you mean looks or personality?

lou - i do hope so with thesp. but doubt it.

llaj - i still cant stop laughing about tranny .

rtp - happy birthday.

everyone else. - hi

scl - hey, back away from the egyption. i talked to some of the locals when i was out there visiting superman. and it's expected(never mind whether or not allowed) for the men to knock their women about if they do something they dont agree or approve of.

i think no matter how much they tell you they wouldn't..... i think anyone raised where this is acceptable will also deep down feel thats what happens in relationships.

don't worry I won't be going there. He's far too young for me. Just keeping POF as a source of amusement - don't get many emails on there.

Am still deleted from the original site I was on which for me seemed to generate more traffic than POF.

Hi all

lou - I remember your trials with thesp and I hope that's it. Honestly I think you are right to cut out anyone with a drinking problem. As you know my exbf was like that and by the end he was displaying some really awful behaviour.

scl - what rj says. I don't have the experience she does but I'd be very wary of anyone raised in that kind of culture no matter how nice they seemed.

Oh, in other news XP is kicking off like a good'un over the fact I have decided to defer DS going to school for a year. Had the usual thinly veiled threats and toys out the pram style ranting (he is going to take this to the highest authorities. Ho Hum).

janos, after all those years with my exh and his drinking, i just cant tolerate it anymore

i have and will continue to keep people like that out of my life

they are destructive draining drama queens