Where have all the fit and intersting men gone part 10 (part 10...already?!)

[Janos]

Yay, I get to start this one!

Anyways hey to Dee and mousie, the more the merrier I say

itm too.

Dont know what to say but SCL might have a bit of input. Trouble is if you meet the guys through this median then chances are this is still open to them and to you also. When to cut ties is an indivdual choice, yours and theirs.

Kid, sweety shop, srings to mind, but if they feel this way then they are not worth your time. After a few dates you need to have the convo are you still looking? No, then we both delete our profiles. Kick them into touch, if they are then so are you.

ah rj, glad the night went well ?

do you think you could get over the gums issue or not? methinks not!

friends on your terms only, ie if you really have nothing else to do but call him!!!! can't see it happening myself!

(I'd have got the bar mans number myself

but thats what the online dating thing is all about, weeding out those which aren't quite right.

night night

OMG I took too long to post that. See it's moved on. Lou, keep that grin. I'm grinning for you.

RJ gums are OK if they only show when something is really funny, reckon I have a gummy laugh. lol. But see what you mean in general smiling. OMG go with the vibes.

no, they were so bad that even when he was simply talking they were waving at me,

i'm a bit of a freak about teeth. dodgy noses i can handle. satelite ears...fine, but teeth have to nice or at very least normal.

i think i'm getting picky and shallow in my young age

from what i could tell he had a nice body, (ex-rugby), and i could have wore little heels and he would have been taller.

but.... those gums...... nope, cant ever get past them.

my charming ex has just called to say ds has been puking up everywhere. he's bringing dc back ithink. oh yeee-bloody-ha

morning all, we are up making pancakes for breakfast and I am fine this morning

I have no doubts about marathon man, its just my own insecurities coming out after too much red wine!!!!

keep smiling lou

rj, hope the little one is fine

itm waves at eve

Morning ladies, just catching up! rj, will you see him again? I know gums/teeth are very important and have to be right - not perfect but just OK. Do you always get loads of attention when you go out? Great! imt, I did much the same as you last night re: ex but worse and tried phoning him! Had been out with a friend and downed a bottle of wine in record time and decided I missed him really badly. Thank the lord he didn't reply and of course I witheld my number so he wouldn't know it was me (but of course he did). Then I went to bed and listened to sad music on my ipod and the tears were trickling back into my hair and I missed his lovely body and his smell blah blah blah and this morning I've woken up and thought, what was all that about! As for checking to see if guys have been logged in, it's a minefield. My advice is, just don't do it!

Got nice messages from 2 out of the 3 guys on Encounters (the 3rd one is an arse) - one is cycling round Ireland as we speak, a classics teacher from Yorkshire so geographically impossible but lovely. The other has a 10 year old DD like me and I really like what he says and he doesn't live too far away. Not my usual type though, which is dark and rugged (the last one was an Irish carpenter) - he's fair and is wearing a suit in his photo (for which he apologizes) but perhaps that's good. I always go for slightly unconventional-looking men who end up having no money and are generally hopeless.

Anyway happy Sunday ladies, have friends to lunch so need to start the chicken.

ex decided to keep the lo. think it was perhaps just a reason to call and see where i was. i am supposed to be away this wkd to dublin remember , still he's supposed to have dc all wkd as his folks over. doubt it'll last as he now knows i'm here.

cocktail says we should meet as friends. and thinks i've been unfair as he only had 2 hrs to impress him. he's insistant his dancing will persuade me otherwise (how can dancing remove my gaze from gums?), dont think we could meet again as pretty sure he would try make a move. and i could possibly kiss those gums. the thought would give me the bowk.

sparky - dont always "get loads of attention", but i do tend to ...em... we call it "adopting people" when i go pub crawl i tend to end up adding strangers onto our crawl.

couldnt not could kiss

lol rj stoppit i am still chuckling

it reminds me of a date i had once ages and ages ago, with a guy who looked really really hot

BUT a soon as he smiled he he turned into some kind of mr bean lookalike, plus he had an annoying laugh

so that was that

when mm gets in touch i am going to tell him to come straight round to me for a bit

omg did i tell you his parents saw me dropping him there the other day , ready to go away? And when a bit later i went to pick him up, cos he wanted to spend the evening with me, he told them that i was on my way to get him, and they wanted me to stay for dinner!

we sped out of the drive, just in case his mum came dashing out asking me in for a cup of tea

ooooh lou - you love it really. lol. is he a "YOOOOUNG man" then if still living with his folks?

no he doesnt live with them, he was there that night because he was joining them on a weekend trip to devon, he lives about 15 mins in one direction from me and they live about 20 the other

he is 32 , 10 yrs younger than me

Just posting so I can see the updated posts on this thread -still having probs with mac!

sparky - are you me - listening to sad songs on ipod late at night.

ITM - had similar prob the other week re samename going on site - in the end I removed my profile - had been planning to do that anyway and didn't ask him what he was doing there (tho had called him on it once before and felt like a pratt tbh).

I decided to focus on myself (IYKWIM) for a while rather than obsessing about someone else. As you know still seeing samename and he often makes little jokey comments about me and other men which I just don't rise to. So maybe they're sometimes insecure as well.

Think it's the same feeling I had when I was snooping on exh (when he was h) - in the end I stopped doing it because I felt it was doing my head in and not actually acheiving much - the relationship was going down the toilet anyway.

achieving !!

bumping so I can see

decided to change my name back as everyone calls me that anyway

SCL, good move. Have sent friends request on FB.

scl - ahhh that does seem better. has changing your name helped you mac's problems.

so.. cocktail is aware i def wont give him a chance but he is still in regular contact trying to be "friends" wonder when he will get bored.

and i have added another to the list. we shall call him the enigma. he's quite bright. had a few bright email. great vocab. but when we went on msn he was trying to be a "cheeky chappy" type. i gave him an earful(should that be keyboard full as msn...anywho), normally i would just block. but told him to quit the cheek and be as he was on email. he apologised and said he for some reason goes into "front" mode. so he turned out to quite a nice gentleman.blamed his attitude on not dating since he was a bouncer (yes... another ex-bouncer.... if its not rugby it bouncers), and he had never tried the "nice" approach.

he was swiftly informed i wasn't after a "bad boy" type. no decent woman with half a brain keeps folowing that cycle. and that if he wanted to stand half a chance of reaching a date he would need to implement skills of respect, manners and best behaviour.

i was perhaps a bit harsh... ooops.

if anyone wants a nosey, send me an email. i have a pic of this one.

ooh thread has been busy!!
hi sparky good to see you how you doing?
well they have met him and they like him
yay!!
just have to deal with shite from exh now

sounds promising asbm

The prob with mac was that clock was showing wrong time and date which affected all other programs.

yes back to sincitylover [grin ]

ASBM, don't discuss it with him when the s--t hits the fan.

Tell him it's your new fella and you wouldn't have introduced him to the kids if you didn't have faith. It's a move in the right direction.

aww thanks ladies
if it wasn't for all of you and my rl mates i'd just crumple lol
so thanks all so much!
and won't have to see exh for another week but ds1 will prob.have filled him in
not thru nastiness but obv joy at having a nice time with a bloke who takes an interest.
he never did
but conveniently does his grand gestures now ohh scl you're nodding your head knowingly!!

am so pleased it went well asbm

they liked him, he liked them, cant get any better than that

tell the arsehole ex to get real, and that life moves on without HIM.