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Where have all the fit and intersting men gone part 10 (part 10...already?!)

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Janos · 15/06/2009 19:08

Yay, I get to start this one!

Anyways hey to Dee and mousie, the more the merrier I say

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Remotew · 04/07/2009 21:15

lost or scl the name I know you by. That sounds like a lot of headspace, no wonder you are confused. Sounds like you and samename are working it out. It's been a while now so concentrate on it.

Remotew · 04/07/2009 21:36

I know I'm chatting to myself here, however, I've had a strange night in tonight. Apart from chatting over msn to my friend, you know who you are, I had two hour long calls catching up with mates.

Stood outside to have a cig and met an ex colleague and his gf so had a chat with them.

Then decided that I might run out of cigs so walked 2 mins to the shop. Met a guy I hadn't seen for years so had a chat with him. Walked out and met a car full of girls I knew from the hen night so had a chat with them. Turns out one is going to the same resort as me next week. Then walked a bit further and got winked at by a lovely young man on the opposite pavement. Let it go. Then walked past a garden party and I knew them too so had a chat. Phew!

Staying in is the new going out. Wonder what else will happen on my quiet night to myself.

Hope I havent bored you all. Just in a good mood and felt like sharing.

lostinthecitylover · 04/07/2009 21:40

No I'm still here eve but having probs with computer.

Those sorts of things that happen unexpectedly are really uplifting. Lucky you going on hols.

To answer your question yes it is a lot of headspace - tbh workhubby is not a problem as I am quite clear where the boundaries are and if he can't accept that then we can't continue to be friends.

exbf does take headspace but so be it.

We'll see about samename. He appears to be a very nice guy possibly a bit insecure (from what he was saying last night)

Remotew · 04/07/2009 21:47

SCL, yes feels like good energy, if there is such a thing.

Samename, sounds like its worth hanging on in there and after so long you have a right to have these deeper chats, to get to know the real person. As for the ex, it does fade in time. Hold that thought and keep the distance if he won't give you what you need.

lou33 · 04/07/2009 21:48

i think sometimes we just have to accept that certain feelings never die and ewe just have to deal with them

same with me and exbf

doesnt mean we cant feel for others though

eve your evening sounds busy !

lostinthecitylover · 04/07/2009 21:55

I'm still here e ve just having a few technical probs.

When things like that happen it's uplifting isn't it? And lucky you going on hols.

To answer your question yes it's alot of headspace but situation with workhubby is not complicated because if he won't accept just friends then we will have to not be friends unfortunately.

With exbf - yes it's been alot of headspace for the past two years but so be it. I am more in control than I was.

So Samename appears to be nice quite sweet guy but I wil still be treading carefully with him. Maybe he really is that uncomplicated LOL

lostinthecitylover · 04/07/2009 21:56

oops posted twice - told you I was having problems and just cut off DS1 from his PS3!!

Remotew · 04/07/2009 21:58

It's hard getting over a signifant ex. The hardest times I've had are being with someone when I haven't been ready to move on. Feel so bad for the guy that I just couldn't give him what he needed. However, people come into our lives for a reason. That could be the trigger for them to find happiness with the next person who is emotionally available for them. Gosh this is a bit profound for a Sat night.

Lou, yes I've had a very sociable night staying in on my own. lol, and not online but I enjoyed our chat earlier, as usual.

Doc hasn't been online.

lostinthecitylover · 04/07/2009 22:06

I think we have gremlins here tonight - the sky box went loopy, I sent a text which said it was delivered and then appeared in my outbox with a red warning sign through now the last three or four posts including my double post has disappeared from this thread.

Weird

lostinthecitylover · 04/07/2009 22:07

and now they're back - stranger and stranger

Remotew · 04/07/2009 22:09

It must be the strange energy. lol

I have that problem with my phone in my house. On orange and I have to wave it around to get a signal. So annoying when you need to communicate instantly.

lostinthecitylover · 04/07/2009 22:16

yes without wishing to repeat myself I can remember the first time I saw exbf and thought I had been struck by a thunderbolt. This was in 1990!!!

If you met him you would prob wonder why - he is fairly good looking, quite short and must appear to most to be fairly average. But I fell very hard for him then, we went out for about eight months (even talked about having dcs) then split - no major reason - in fact we can't agree what the reason was. But no major fallout.

Got back in touch in 2002 then didn't hear again till 2007. And have been in touch since then.

I like the profound stuff.

lostinthecitylover · 04/07/2009 22:21

seems I can only see updated posts if I keep posting. Hmm

lostinthecitylover · 04/07/2009 22:26

don't seem to get on msn much these days.

when are you seeing mandolin man again lou?

lostinthecitylover · 04/07/2009 22:43

now I'm chatting to myself lol

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Remotew · 04/07/2009 22:52

SCL, Ive catted you.

lostinthecitylover · 04/07/2009 23:10

It's still doing it so if I post now will see if anyone else is posted

lou33 · 04/07/2009 23:20

scl he is back tomorrow evening i think but i am not sure what time

he has no reception where he is, and has said he will get in touch if/when he has coverage to get in touch (the text i sent him this morning still hasnt been delivered)

i assume he will either see me tomorrow evening or monday after work

inthemistsoftime · 04/07/2009 23:51

hi all, i believe this thread helps me rid me of my demons, so will continue to express my emotions as they come !!!!!!

have had a lovely evening with the kids and a friend and her kids, but have made the mistake of going on exs facebook account and seeing his new partner! God she is so much younger than me!!!!!!!!!!!!

Then went on frd anonymously and marathon man has logged on in the last week, I know it is probably innocent but right now am not feeling in the mood to be magnanimous.

Anyway dont care about anyone right now they can all go to hell, night night all.

lou33 · 05/07/2009 00:06

itm

i tried saying hi on fb but you didnt reply

am off to bed now but didnt want you having no response on here

best thing is to ask him if he has been on the site at all recently and see what he says

careful tho he may ask why you were on there as well

hope you sort it out

ridingjoker · 05/07/2009 00:12

itm - perhaps he got a message and just rading it.

scl - some people you will always hold a small candle for. it's not a bad thing. but doesn't mean its right.

"better to have loved(or enjoyed) then never loved at all"

i'm back from date with cocktail. got last train home by myself. that was the plan. he's lovely. very genuine , honest and truly great guy.

but.... has too big a set of gums. gosh... think i'm getting picky. but, in his photo they weren't aparent. in RL, everytime he spoke i was staring at them.

he was a true gent, and i really enjoyed myself.

but it must have been obvious i wasn't that way interested. as i got chatted up on 3 seperate occasions when cocktail went to bar and/or toilet.

1 stag group even invited me to join them.

oh dear. my trouble is i just cant keep my mouth shut when there's loud , cheeky group beside. me.

cocktail has text to say he had a lovely night and really enjoyed my outgoing manner and had a great time as we were talking to lots of people , shame he didn't realise those groups were having a laugh and as soon as he went off someone was trying it on.

i kid you not, i even was standing at bar and the bar(we wnt to 5 bars) and 1 was talking to an old lady wanting whisky recommendation and admiring the bar staff, before i knew it the barman was telling me he used to work in glasgow same time as me, and we got yacking.cocktail came back, then when cocktail went away again he asked if he was my boyf .

does he know i'm a mother of 2!!! the brazen hussy of a barman!!

i've already told cocktail i'm not interested in a boyf/golf manner, now he wants to be friends. what can i say without hurting the feelings of a genuinely "nice" lovely bloke that wont put him off birds for life??

inthemistsoftime · 05/07/2009 00:12

bless you lou, thanks for replying, am in a boshi mood!!!!!

have turned my phone off for the moment, he does send the sweetest txts, but right now am not up for any sweet talk!!!

am sure I'll be much calmer in the morning, night night all x x

lou33 · 05/07/2009 00:13

sorry i am still rofl @ the gum comment!

lou33 · 05/07/2009 00:14

its ok itm, i am feeling in a rather good mood so will spread a bit your way

am off to sleep with a silly grin on my face lol

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