Where have all the fit and intersting men gone part 10 (part 10...already?!)

[Janos]

Yay, I get to start this one!

Anyways hey to Dee and mousie, the more the merrier I say

I used to live in Yorkshire and some of the men could speak words with more then two syllables. Some could even tie a tie and cook something other then pot noodles. Avoid the ones in flat caps and cord trousers and wellies though

haha, no he's got a few pics on his profile where he's in suit, or smart casual, or just jeans and shirt. although. he does have wellies i presume as still does farm work

gosh, rj that crown is definitely staying with you for the immediate future

are you going to be meeting this one?

I reckon farming types are a bit of all right, they don't mind getting a bit dirty!

My bil is from Yorkshire, finds it difficult to communicate with us women, I can count the conversations we have had on one hand, and I have only known him 13 years!!

Just had a quick scan as I'm at work!! Thank god it's Friday.

Asbm, Itm and Lou appear to have cracked it recently. RJ I'm sure one of these guys will be right for you.

I'm too busy planning for my hols. Decided to wipe the slate clean of no hopers, not that there has been much going on.

Just a comment on being cautious, question was, is it us or the men we are with?

I had years of being cautious until I met someone last Nov, from pof. All caution was thrown to the wind and even though it didn't work out I was glad I could feel like that again. So IMHO it took the right man, or so I thought. Wish this thread had started at that time. I could have had a field day.

aww eve you are so lovely!!
and you will meet some extremely lovely man v.soon
i am extremely optimistic for all of us on here
have been out with 5 other blokes since this thread started so i guess it just goes to show that it's still v.much trial and error
with the emphasis firmly on the latter in my case

itm - tigger. hmm. will we meet i dont know. he's an odd fish. very hard to read. he had already asked me to meet. but got a tooth out 2 days ago. and still cant eat or speak. so date is very much on hold till he's feeling better.

there's a bit of cat and mouse going on. me saying he's not getting my time, him saying he doesn't want it. our running joke is we're both extremely busy and finding time to meet is not going to happen.

he def wont be a smitten puppy type. and i'm giving him a hard time, which he quite likes. lol.

at first getting him to talk was troublesome as you say about yoskshire men. very short answers, but witty,

today he's been better though.we talked cars , and off he went on msn quite happily yakking on.

asbm - is 5 the magic number? i'm at 2 online and one RL that have gotten further than a single date. so i need to meet 2 of my current POF selection before i meet the one i might keep.lol. thats not looking good for cocktail on sat?

eve - its not to late to be hit by the luck of the thread?

Well you can tell the state of my self esteem when a quite good looking guy winks at me and I think its a joke...

send him a message lady.

mandolin man is v enjoyable yes, in fact i only got back an hour ago and now he is asking if he can come round here , cos he is at his family home overnight not far away

just for a couple of hours not to stay i mean

also i just got an email from darkhorse apologising for hurting me

i dunno what i should say to that lol

but he is HOT! Im not. I am no longer buxom skinny and blonde (oh I wish I was 22 again) Surely he clicked on the wrong person by mistake?

does your photo look like you do now?? if so then just bloody message him.

i'm not a size blooming 8 but doesn't stop me. lol.

my brother has just said he's coming round to baby sit which i wasn't expecting as its has sat usually this week. i'm swaying between asking my friend what time she finishes work... or informing tigger i'm free, see if his sore tooth can handle some chat. and if he can get a sitter at such short notice?

should i ask??????

yeah my photo looks like me now. Just very shocked thats all.

llaj have some faith lol
i have just had a brief talk about weekend plans with the kids and mentioned meeting my friend
ohh kids are more savvy then we think
have already been grilled
omg only used the friend word here lol

morning all, i did ask tigger if he wanted to go out last minute, he's gone and got his extraction infected. doing the typical man thing of ignoring and hoping it bgets better. wonder how long he will last before he's in A&E as its agony and the wkd now. (he did admit to smoking few hrs after it was done though, not really suprised it got infected) antibiotics anyone.

i ended up just staying in and catching up with my brother. both dc are a bit under the weather as they got 2 immunisations each on thurs so up and down like yo yo's.

quite excited for my date with cocktail tonight (even though cant wear heels)

going to cancel my date on sunday with morangie man. realised yesterday his chat is pleasant and all, but not quite witty enough for my liking. think even for coffee i would be bored. and not keen on the fact he's lied about his size either tbh. there is always the option of "prefer to not say" rather than deceiving.

asbm - lol@ kids grilling you.

llaj - did you send him a message?

any other dates on this wkd?

itm - you seeing marathon man?
lou - when is mandolin man away?

morning ladies he went this morning, he is back tomorrow evening

we had another really nice time together

i would definitely not um and ah over having a relationship with him, like i did over darkhorse

rj have a nice time

Can I join in the fun please? (aseriouslyblonde, you suggested I did a few weeks back when I posted about my BF disappearing into the wild blue yonder).
Seems like you're all enjoying yourselves and that's what I've decided to do. So got myself back online a couple of days ago and have already had messages from 3 nice men.

I'm divorced and 51 and only broke up with DP of one year(also met online) a month ago and am not desperate for a full-on thing right now, just a bit of fun (not sex straight away) and friendship. I've been a naughty girl and lied about my age (knocking off a whole 3 years) because most men seem to cut off at 50, even if they're older themselves! I reckon it's only a white lie and I won't ever have to come clean, because I'm not into anything serious at the moment.

I have a question about initiating contact with men. I used to do it in the past but now think I'd rather leave it to them. I find that if someone adds you as a favourite and then you add them, that gives them the courage to initiate contact themselves. Is it OK to add someone as a favourite first and then see if they add you? I'm not in the least bit old-fashioned but I've come to the conclusion that the men who do the running are the ones worth considering. And how many of you are just content to flirt a bit online and not be too bothered if you meet someone?

sparky - hi, i like the way you call it fun. it should be fun.

beware if you say your not looking for anything serious. this could attract those looking for "intimate encounter", and scare off those "nice" blokes who dont sleep around.

personally i hate it when someone adds me as a favourite without contact first. as its kind of stalkerish i feel . just my opinion i suppose. but creeps me out knowing they want to be able to check up when i'm online without bothering to contact me.

when someone adds me without contact i delete them straight off. i tend not to add anyone as a favourite either if i'm in contact with them as i find it tempting to go check up when they are online. tbh i dont want to know as will be off putting if they are obviously online checking out other people yet no mailing me at that point.

but i'm sure others use the favourite facility differently to me.

i have no problem with someone adding me as a favourite if i'm in contact.

so do you have nicknames for your 3 potentials?

and i often talk to someone online. then for whatever reason dont feel there's a need to meet them as i wouldn't be interested in them in that way. but can have some great convo's with people all the same along the way.

Hi RJ - so I assume you never intitiate contact either then? What I meant when I said nothing serious, is getting too involved too quickly. I'd like to form a friendship first and get to know them really well, then maybe have sex and then think about long-term. But I'm not sure if I ever want to get married/live with anyone again.

As for nicknames, we'll see!

oh hell no, its usually the ones i initiate contact with that i end up going on actual date with.

i always send a message though.dont add as favourite.

i dont state what i'm after at all really. my profile states i'm after someone part time as busy. but i make it clear i'm not on the website for sexual encounters once i get chatting to someone and feel it may get to a date. if they dont like it they can lump it and obviously not right for me.

fwiw, i have kittens at the thought of living with someone. and dont want to ever get married, and have never been married. have openly admitted this, but some men see this as a challange to change my views

i go on every date (not had that many btw), with the view to have a few hours in company of someone who i've got a fairly good idea will be enjoyable as i've enjoyed the conversations we've built up through email,text,msn and calls first.

if anything else comes of it then i just go with the flow.

rj has the same attitude as me about dating

I also like the go with the flow idea.

Met samename last night and for the first hour I had this really sinking feeling but on reflection it was just that we were both tired and stressed and hot from a busy week.

As the evening progressed it got better and it was more real than it has been before IYKWIM. We did have quite a frank if tipsy talk and basically he said is happy with the limited amount I can offer him (told him I thought he really wanted someone who can see him more regularly and give him more attention)

), he really likes me etc etc And generally he is taking the lead from me as he could sense I was holding back (emotionally).

He stayed over and today we just did a bit of shopping and pottered around. I actually really enjoyed it. Still not sure what it is or where it's going but it's fine for now.

thats good news scl

yes I think we made a small breakthrough in that we were able to talk quite honestly about our rship.

and now just have to decide what to do abt workhubby (male (attached) friend from work who I rebuffed for years, we are now friends (since about January this year) but he also appears to have amorous intent - can't deny I am slightly flattered by his attentions but do not intend to go there but want to remain friends)

and exbf is still in touch sporadically (has just been ill) and still occupies my thoughts - I will always have strong feelings for him. I do believe they will never go away.

Hmm. Life is strange