Where have all the fit and intersting men gone part 10 (part 10...already?!)

[Janos]

Yay, I get to start this one!

Anyways hey to Dee and mousie, the more the merrier I say

honestly dunno, confused, hoping weekend away will give me the answer
the thought of trawling through thumbsuckers, sleazies, transvestites etc is horrifying tho, I will say for you rj you are incredibly resilient! hope you find a nice farmer and most of all continue to have fun searching

ninah - i quite like perving on pof.

i've got one guy. think he's called 7inchesof_fun

whos after a sport fuck. we are chatting in one line emails. i only replied originally as his opening one liner was a cracker. and since then we're been sending one liners. nothing pervy. but he's very witty.

if i was looking for that kind of relationship i might be tempted. but i've yet to see his photo. thats part of the jokes evolve around his "mysterious" photo, and me being a "devil who's been reformed",

i'm defo not going to go there and do what he's after. but it reminds me of the good old days BC, when that was acceptable.and possible. i mean... when am i going to be able to do a 2am meet up??

but it is fun... one guy who messaged me today was 5ft 6inch. ffs... does he have a fetish for taller women? or magically believe he's gonna grow 5 inches by time we meet.

ninah - are you going away with bf?

ninah - are you going away with bf?

ah you're cheering me up now! 7 in of fun lol
never really done sports fucking but I'm sure I could do with the exercise
no, not going away with him! with a friend (mums and dc) - at least won't have to go through our expenses!
I am quite a wuss when it comes to meeting men, not socially but dating etc
there's always the Thai Farmer I suppose
you seem v confident with it all
At least short man is being honest, I'm sure most of the six footers are a bit shorter certainly was one of those, I mean he's tall enough, but no way over 6 feet

hey what do you think of this 1st contact message on pof

hi you are gorgeous, lovely smile fsbulous tits, what arevyou doing fridsy nihght?

Think he's pissed already! lol!

see?
it's all just too ... stressful
washing your hair then, Dee?

yeah, i think there may be guys who are very close to 6ft, and round it up and hope you dont notice. cheeky beggars.

i'm not so sure if its about being confident ninah. i actually enjoy dating, not really so much the sex(always a bonus), but the getting to know different people and finding out about them.

i find people in general very interesting. always weird to me hearing about other people's lives.

dee - yup, he's definately been in a beer garden today on his lunch break i think.

ninah - dc and friends holidays are good. you can relax and not worry about dc making too much noise as your friends will be equally as rambunctious(sp?)

definitely not seeing him this weekend, he is leaving at 5am for cornwall tomorrow

i went to see him today, and had a v nice time

yeah the boys will be killing each other
tell darkhorse to steer clear of the Newquay area lou!

lol if i did that he would make a beeline for it

rj I see what you mean, I like people and learning about them too but when it's on the basis that you might sleep together somehow I see them differently, not as people at all, but as 'men'
and I don't really understand men very well

ninah - but its chances are you wont sleep with the majority of them. and the ball is usually very much in the females court as to whtether that happens. think it helps me perhaps as i know i'm in control of the date, as usually its ultimately up to me whether or not it gets to the sex stage.

well if you are talking meeting people on a non sexual basis I'm sure I'd have a more interesting time with the school pta than the batch of horny dullards that are emailed in as possible 'matches'

lol ninah - but a date is not meeting someone purelp because you want to jump their bones. yeah... i have to be attracted. to me its about going out and enjoying some entertaining company. lets face it.... no mater how good on a paper a guy seems. if you cant chat to them without
a)getting bored
b)talking about sex

then no point in a date as it will enevitably be dull.

the dates i've went on have all been pretty great fun from pof.

least exciting being the policeman. who was interesting due to a very long and varied life story. but just a little quiet for my liking.

totally agree with rj about enjoying dating. It is really interesting meeting new people, and talking about different things. BUT I agree with ninah too - when you meet as a 'date' there is always some pressure? perhaps - howmany people do you meet and chat to with those undertones of 'we met on an internet dating site'. Like there is only 1 reason why you are meeting up iyswim.

maybe i'm just more thick skinned, or try and put that idea out my head.

suppose maybe it is to do with confidence then. as even though i may be aware of the underlying reason for the date. i wouldn't let it pray on my thoughts during the date.

perhaps if i did something like the cinema it would bother me.

but i tend to pick things to do where its more comfortable for myself.

if its dinner i will go tapas or chinese where you can order a few dinners and share - which is actually a good way of seing what the person is like. you can see if they consult you in choosing and willingly share their fav dish?

then there was that fun museum, where there was lots of things to do and interact with - i like someone who will happily participate in wacky things in these places.

or a coffee and wander round the shops aimlessly is quite good for chatting too.

i dont feel under nay pressure when i go on a date

i always make it very clear beforehand not to bother turning up if they think they are getting anything other than a drink and a couple of hours of my company

i am not on the menu as dessert

hmm, maybe pressure isnt the word I am looking for...
what I kind of mean is NOT pressure to get on or shag the bloke, but more like the pressure of expectation or something. I dont know. I am not putting this across very well.

I suppose you would contrast meeting someone randomly, chatting, then meeting up to go on a date. You already know you are attracted and get on a bit, so the 'date' is the next logical step.
But on the internet, you dont really KNOW you will find them attractive (or vice versa) and emails, texts etc arent the same as chatting. So it is like a more formal way of the original pre-date meeting, chatting and finding attractive. Does that make ANY sense.
So, there is some pressure, perhaps of expectation, or perhaps pressure is the wrong word. It feels ODD to have a 'date'with someone you have never met, but have some kind of presumptions about already. It always feels kind of unnatural to call it a date. More of a pre-date.

lol. no wonder I am still single!!

I will now retire back into my dark cupboard...

ragged - think your over thinking it a bit. there's no expectation. yeah, you have an idea of what the person will be like. but half the fun is the unknown to me.

but i suppose if you dont like the unknown then it may be slightly.... scary? scary not really right word either though i supose

lol rj. I always over analyse things!
I dunno, I just find internet dating a bit odd. But fun and interesting too. And I dont really have a lot of choice at the mo either. Just cant quite get my head round it.

I think the diff is if you meet someone in rl and get on the friendship evolves naturally whereas if you go online you are indicating you are looking for whatever
I don't go meeting them to jump their bones rj! but it's like the elephant in the room, will we fancy each other, or not

omfg
one of the parents of a kid I used to teach has emailed me on pof.
I havent opened it. I am ignoring it, and pretending its not there. Not even going to acknowledge its existence.
We used to call him pervy pete.
:O

Ragged, delete unread. Think 'pervy pete' will get the message by that.

Just been catching up after I tried not to come online tonight. I'm sat looking at a screen all day, then at night. Starting to get headaches.

Sorry about the downer before, me saying the kids need to flee the nest for a man to move in. I've got around 3 years and if you knew how many DD had scared off you would understand. Just our circumstances, not the same for others.

Been interesting reading RJ's attitude compared to one or two of us. I agree that the pressure of meeting up in the flesh with someone online doesn't seem worth it. I feel like this atm, so am not active.

RJ I love your attitude. You are embracing it with open arms. If I put myself back 20 odd years I would have done the same. TBH I am just so cynical and would prefer to leave it to a chance meeting.

Hope I'm still welcome in the gang though.

this is the thing though. even though i'm doing the online. when i'm out in real life. i talk to men strangers when i'm single far more than i do when with someone. feel a bit restricted by a relationship usually as to how open i can be with yakking to random unknown people.

my trouble is i just done know how to shut up. exspecially if i'm having a wine or 2.

if someone has a great t-shirt i will feel compelled to tell them so as they pass by. male or female.

or clothing with lots of zips or dangly bits i will need to play with