where have all the fit and interesting men gone part.....9? isit 9?

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ooooh i get to start the thread.
unless i'm being thick and cant find it.

lou - go on send me a pic of dark horse i'm so nosey.

ninah - i think thats really rude of your friend. if she didn't have anything nice to say she shouldn't have said anything at all.

he sounds great with the dcs lou.

I went over to samenames this morning and we went out to a local park for lunch. Bit rushed (as all our meetings are) cos I had to get back to collect dcs. So we didn't have that convo tho he did say that I am all he can handle lol!! But that could just be talk. It is hard to have a serious convo when things are so rushed. He might come over next weekend when dcs are around.

We both seem to be slow to define whatever it is for some reason. Its getting a bit tedious I know but I'm just going to go with the flow for now.

he is

i did tell the dcs that he had been out since 7am so may not want to start being their entertainer, but he said he was going to have a shower as a pretence to fill up water balloons

scl how important do you feel it is to say something at this stage?

i havent had any kind of conversation with darkhorse about where this is going, i am just seeing what happens for now

um actually not very as I would have said something if it was really bugging me.

I don't feel very angsty about it atm - think he might think I am using him for his body (he keeps saying that in jest). I'm not honest guv - we hit it off mentally as well - it's just alot to pack into a few hours so I would focus on what's most important.

I suppose the acid test might be when he meets the dcs - I just have no idea how he might be around them. Or how they will take to them.

Im also acutely aware that he seems to have disposable income whereas I have hardly any and plenty of free time so there's a mismatch there. Maybe I am not looking at it creatively but think will just enjoy for what it is for now.

Just took a look at facebook photos lou - they are great.

i thik you should too

the water fight was suspended for dinner but they are out there at it again, i may have to call time on it as its getting late and they have school tomorrow

all 3 of htem are drenched, i can hear ds1 squealing in delight at it all

i may take a drowned rat pic

lou - sounds like you had a great weekend!! and he does sound like a keeper - how are you feeling about all this now?
and love the idea of a 'why arent we divorced yet' card. Also thought of a 'thankyou for taking exh off my hands' card for ow....

eve - I think meeting quickly is a good idea. much better than emailing etc for ages, then meeting and realising there is no attraction at all..

asbm - I am getting muddled here - do you have 2 on the go at once?

scl - its good to take things as they come!

well I met teatotal (who, incidentally, I dont think is teatotal, just doesnt drink much). He was very nice - deep, intelligent, and we had a right laugh together. But, you know, no chemistry. hmmm. I reckon we could end up good mates though, as we are on the same wavelength. I am leaving it to him, if he wants to see me again then great, if no, then thats fine.

sometimes I wonder if I am too fussy - I have such a tick list (nothing unattainable, just active (ie has some initiative), solvent, working, similar sense of humour, into some of the same things as me) , and then I have to fancy them too. I just wonder if its actually possible lol

boatboy is emailing me, and I am ignoring. I feel so mean as he is into same stuff as me, but, erm, I saw his pictures....

Lou, forgot to say your photos were lovely, such pretty flowers and much fun going on. My garden is smallish, just enough room to sunbathe and throw a small bbq.

Not sure about this POF guy, he asked me for a picture text so I sent one and asked for one back which he sent. He looked so different to the POF picture? How does that happen. Not better or worse just different.

Also just text me to ask 'what are you up to sexy' Not sure whether this should put me off before I've even met him.

i am keeping an open mind but he has grown on me lots

i have just loaded a pic on fb of two drowned rats

i found this for exh lol

Fab card lou - succint and to the point. I like it!

eve - that would put me off. They need to earn 'permission' to talk like that, IYSWIM.

rtp - if you are too fussy then so am I. It's better than putting up with any old shite isn't it?

at the drowned rats lou

morning!
lol @ eve yes it's a bit offputting isn't it tho it depends on the man ime
lou i think that card was v polite actually
rtp no i am only seeing actionman atm tho as always i am keeping my options open
wonder how itm got on with marathonman?!

Morning asbm the rice didn't work! So now I have to wait ages for my 'new' phone.

I know it's sad but I miss my lovely Nokia!

The card is very polite but also assertive, without being rude. Perfect I think

oh bugger!
it may take a couple of days tho to be fair
don't you agree tho that it might be a whole cottage industry for lou here?
divorce anniversary card request on its'way lou!

So I would need to leave it in rice for a couple of days?

Well I'll try it but I have insurance but have a £50 excess (curses) so will give the rice a couple more days to work it's ricey-magic.

Curses to the toxic phone breaking barf!

Hi, got a day off today! Took DD for her first day of work experience then called into the supermarket, bumped into a friend and we had lattes and bacon butties so a nice start to the day.

I replied to the text matter of factly. If he makes a massive effort I might meet him. If not then I won't waste my time. It has put me off. They should have the brains to realise that you talk like that after you've actually met and only if you have something going.

To sum up it sounds like ASBM, Lou and RJ have indeed found, fit, interesting and available men. They may be Mr Right now or potential partners nice to know they do exist.

I think you are right eve. Let him convince you that he is worth your precious time!

morning eve!
that sounds like a v civilised start to the day,fancy dd going for work experience is she excited?
can imagine your response,and yes let's hope he moves mountains to meet you,anything less just isn't worth your time is it lol
hmm have i found him tho?
tbh i'm not convinced,i'm wondering if there's enough there to keep me interested

Morning one and all
SOunds like it was an action packed weekend!
Lou - He sounds fabulous. Definately a keeper from what you have said. I guess the same can be said for ASBM and RJ.
Janos - I heard that about the rice too. I hope it works.
Eve - She may even get a job out of it. I know that lots of the girls in my last job got jobs from work experience.
Everyone else - sorry about horrible exh and exp etc and hope that everything else is ok in your world.

As for me, got an apology email from BSH today. Umm thanks but no thanks. Have been emailing a couple of new ones from match and pof. One from one site has emailed me but obvioulsy can't remember that HE ignored ME on another site. Do I just ignore him or let him know

hello all

An update: I had a great day, fell off the very expensive mountain bike on a few occasions! I have scars to prove it, but I really enjoyed it, marathon man stayed with me all the way round which was nice.

We spent the rest of the day together, and I was a good girl and in my bed by 1 am.

Possible meet up next weekend, so things are on a nice even keel.

Sounds good ITM, taking things slowly may be the way forward with Marathon man.

DD was petrified going to work experience, she is with the health service. I know she will be OK after the first hour.

LLAJ you could mention it later down the line if you get that far to have a joke about it with him.

ASBM, what's the problem with 'Action man'?

yay itm
sounding good!
did you get him to kiss your scars better
llaj i'd tell him to go do one
eve there's no prob with actionman he's v lovely indeed but i don't think we have enough common ground to keep me interested iyswim
but he's mr right for now

(and also ) at you lot finding fit availble and (maybe not) interesting men!!
I am thinking of changing sites, as pof is beginning to annoy me. I know you shouldnt judge by the photos, but honestly, there isnt a lot out there...
any recommendations, but nothing too pricey? anyone tried mysinglefriend? that looked quite interesting...

ohh i'm sounding v ungrateful i know
but hey it's the whole package for me and my mind needs the stimulation!
i'm on frd and can have a nosey in your part of the world for you if you like?
my email addie is on here somewhere if you want to mail me with your spec,postcode,etc etc
always willing to perve help out a fellow mn-er

yeah, that would be cool asbm! I am very fussy though, you know!