where have all the fit and interesting men gone part.....9? isit 9?

[ridingjoker]

ooooh i get to start the thread.
unless i'm being thick and cant find it.

lou - go on send me a pic of dark horse i'm so nosey.

ninah - i think thats really rude of your friend. if she didn't have anything nice to say she shouldn't have said anything at all.

ex isn't taking dc. finally got truth out of him. he has to go pick up his friend from airport at 4am. which of course takes presidence over the ONE night a week he sees his dc. bearing in mind they were on holiday last wkd so he hasn't seen them in a fortnight.

so no longer getting my overnight with marvel. DB is coming round shortly though to baby sit so i can go for the dinner marvel is making as i type. so not a complete waste of the night. but will have to be sober. bugger

eve - not a bad thing he's given you his mobile. i hate going through pof site as those damn pop up thingy's.

scl i would ignore exh, he is a grown man and hteir father he should be able to deal with them

darkhorse and i just got back from going for lunch on the south coast with the kids

i meant to add that he is building them another camp fire tonight

i am supposed to be washing up whilst posting this, and he is entertaining the boys with a water bomb fight before the fire is started

we had a lovely lunch and then wandered about the town for a bit, i got distracted in a clothes shop and came out to find he had bought them toys to entertain themselves with

i will have more time to post tomorrow as he is helping a friend do a car boot, so will have my car from about 7am and wont be back til late afternoon

evening all!
oh jesus i see the exs are at it again trying to spoil our weekends and upset our dc,i've also had an early morning one from exh and a couple of miserable texts from ds1 telling me that he hoped my weekend would be better than his
eve-its action man not indieman(he being the pervy bastard i mailed you about!)
how are you feeling about this fella off pof?is he local?
scl-not a bad idea to take a break if thats what you think is needed,and i dont blame you for getting in touch with the botanist
ninah-will go look at my emails,hope you had nice fri eve
lou-agree with the rest of the girls here that darkhorse is obv proving a big hit with your kids,and esp your boys as we all know what a poor excuse for a man their dad is.but how are you feeling about things?
rj-hope you enjoy your evening with marvel
janos-and yes a simple text would have cost him nothing,it's not as tho you're not a big girl and cant take it fgs
well yes i've had a nice time here chilling out with actionman who's not long left.cooked dinner last nite,couple of bottles of rose and a good perve at take that on jr!nice lazy morning then cooked a late brunch together.all in all a v nice relaxing and chilled time.and yes i do like him alot but not sure if i'm in this for the long haul like he says he is.
ooh nearly missed out rtp-any update from you?

asbm gets prize for remembering everyone - how do you do it?

rj sounds a nightmare - what is it with these exhs?

lou sounds cool. How do you feel about him?

Had a visit from exbf - great to see him and catch up.

ASBM - more details pls abt actionman - whats helike?

he's growing on me

lol @ scl
tbh i don't know i just do!
ooh exbf?
has this made you feel even more ambivalent about samename?
actionman is 6 ft, muscular build,brown hair tho shaved and dark brown(puppy dog)eyes his pic really didnt do him justice
out of interest what would you do if samename asked you to go to a wedding with him?
lou lol and yes you've told me to go already!!

btw thanks ninah for that!
i will see if janos can get me more info i'm so god damn nosey lol

ASBM sounds nice.

If samename asked me to go to wedding I would go.

Am seeing him tomorrow and am prob going to tell him i have deleted profile. And see what he says.

Are you on MSN?

re exbf I think I just accept now that we will always be in touch but it isn't going anywhere.

thanks lol
will email you my msn addie!
i'm really not sure as i know he considers me his gf already and like lou said prob.wants to show me off to his mates,whereas i wouldn't dream of letting him meet mine at this stage and i wouldn't even call him nm let alone bf
tbh i feel a bit uncomfortable going to the wedding of people i have never met and then on top of that have the additional thing of meeting all of actionman's inner circle who are dying to meet me
AIBU here?
making too much of a big deal about it?

it wouldn't bother me really as I wouldnt consider myself responsible for what he or his friends would make of it.

But if it makes you feel uncomfortable then don't do it.

only go if you feel comfortable about it tho !

you seem to have got your head around exbf situ but are you happy to leave things that way?
thanks for your thoughts about that,i guess i just feel that he's getting carried away here and i'm mindful of his feelings
tbh tho i like seeing him, the way i feel i am still v much single and v much keeping my options open
oh that doesn't read too well does it lol
if he wasn't so obviously smitten already then i would be happy to go,as it is i'm trying to think it thru

you could always go and cop off with one of his mates?

i did that once at a wedding (years ago) when bf and mates left women sitting together while they went up to the bar.

lol

seriously tho, think I have bcome too hardbitten. If you went and then it all went wrong, then so what?

hi lou
how's things going with the campfire?!
aww.bet the boys are thrilled!

ohhh lou you think of everything lol
scl i wouldn't be left sitting with the women i'd be at the bar with the men!!
and yes i need to get a grip you're right
but he's such a sweet man that i don't want to mislead him,and yes he knows the score,but he's so hoping i'll want more

the campfire is in full swing, a little den erected too as it is raining on and off

darkhorse has been taking pics with his camera, so when i get copies i will post them on my fb

lou that sounds fab!
aww bet they're having a great time!
i still haven't sorted fbyeah i know i will lol
but would love to see piccies
it is v heartwarming tho to see guys who actually enjoy having kids round them and know how to let children enjoy themselves
hmm exhs spectre again!me,you and scl!!
why were are they so crap with our dcs?
are these single childless men genuinally good with kids
or is it pure novelty factor for them?

i have emailed you some pics asbm

i think darkhorse is basically a boy scout in a mans body lol

he likes doing stuff like that

morning all, am nursing a stinking hangover, what a great start to my date!

asbm, he sounds lovely, give him a chance, not sure about the wedding thing, only go if you feel comfortable.

lou, darkhourse sounds like a good bloke, its so important that the kids like the nm as they come as part of the package!

scl, maybe its time to have this discussion with samename, it might be the kick up the bottom he needs

rj, hope you enjoyed your dinner, am jealous

hope the rest of you guys are ok, will catch up later.

itm - enjoy your date. i'm sure you will.

asbm - i think your over analysing this wedding thing. go get a lovely new frock and go for some free drink and food. best thing that happens is you have a fabulous time and really like all his friends and family. worse thing that happens is your bored. you can always make an excuse to leave early if its awful. but i doubt someone as nice as actionman will have a horror of a family.

its not a big deal if you dont go long term with him. he needs a date for a wedding. you would enjoy the evening out. go for it.

scl - i 2nd the vote for having a proper discussion with samename before you decide to bin him or not.

lou - darkhorse is shaping up well. i think he's definately good with dc. and hey... dont knock the scouts .

everyone else i caught up with last night i think.

as for me. my dinner was lovely. and he'd gone all out, went over and it was all candles,wine on ice, fire lit.

i felt really awkward about it all. i've never received the big romantic thing. so i decided to calm my nerves we should take a tour of him bedroom house. i tried to explain i've never so much as received an unexpected birthday/xmas/valentines gift from a fella (if i did even get 1 i had gone out and bought it myself), never mind received any romantic gestures.

so... he says i better get used to it. but he'll try be more low key about it so i am gently broken in to it

the kids all seem to like him, which isgood news

i guess it was easier to introduce him so soon in another capacity because we had been friends beforehand for a while

dd1 says he reminds her of my exbf , temperament wise, ds1 says he is not suspicious (he says all men are til proven otherwise to him as he regards himself as the man of the house lol), and ds 2 said "he is now in my top 10 people mum....no wait my top 5....no actually he is my favourite person now because he made camp fires and bought me a cap gun"

he has taken my car today , left here about 7 (saved me having to drive him there at silly o clock) to do this car boot with his friend, so i will have a lazy day on mn do some chores about the house before he gets back which i guess will be late afternoon (he goes home tomorrow)

oh and i just realised that today is meant to be my 14th wedding anniversary