where have all the fit and interesting men gone part.....9? isit 9?

[ridingjoker]

ooooh i get to start the thread.
unless i'm being thick and cant find it.

lou - go on send me a pic of dark horse i'm so nosey.

ninah - i think thats really rude of your friend. if she didn't have anything nice to say she shouldn't have said anything at all.

I am thinking of asking him out actually. Nothing ventured bothing gained. At least I would have a story to tell you.

we all double dare you to ask him out

YAY!
go llaj go llaj

scl - must be hard guessing when to introduce nm to your dc. how old are yours again? i'm useless with my memory? how long have you been seeing each other now?

ninah how long did you wait before introducing nm to yours? and how old are your?

things still going well with marvel. he was round and i made him nice lunch today as i cancelled on him last night with my hangover.

he insisted on clearing up my kitchen with me and sorting out the drinks and setting table. i just cant get my head around how different he is from every other bloke i've EVER had as bf. he doesn't want to be mothered and slob on couch as i bring food and drink . he insists he has to help as finds its wrong to sit back and watch me do all the work.

they are 12 and 7. would plan to keep it v low key tbh.

post on my thread!!

as opposed to low key

lost your ex is a twunt
but you know that already
samename sounds lovely, and I like rj's jerry hall allusion! yes, get him round to do the gardening, mind you my nm seems to specialise in half finished jobs and lots of groaning which is offputting
asbm I like action man, he is Soooo keen isn't he?! be gentle ..
as for wobbles, it's just hard to know when you're ok sometimes, better the 'dullard' in the hand than the 'twat' in the bush I suppose
rj my dc met nm quite soon really, I think it may have even been third 'date' he came out with us for picnic etc but we do mix with all types and I didn't have my tongue down his throat or anything so it was just like going out with another mate, they are too young to know a lot about such matters. I was more worried the first time he stayed overnight. My ds found it difficult at first but things are getting easier - just as I get itchy feet of course. Keep thinking don't want dc to meet string of men ...

ninah - rofl - @ twat in bush

thats fantastic.

i think when they're young enough that they simply accept " nm is friend" then it makes alot easier.

its same for me. my dc are very used to meeting male people in social situations, relatives, friends partners,etc. so they wouldn't think anything else of it either.so would easily get away with the "friend" thing for a long time before having anyone to stay over and change it ti "bf"

well I still don't say bf lol
tried it out in the hairdressers and it kind of felt funny (not funny in the pants, just funny)

how long you been seeing him now ninah, marvel has only just been upgraded from his nickname to his real name when i'm talking about him to in RL. his nickname was comic book guy

i am the same wrt the bf phrase, i dont think i actually said that about exbf until we had been together about 5months

oh and janos, construction?hmmmmm,,,,,, well there's breezy,mason,lego,Bbum(builders bum), jim (jim ill fix it), balfour (think balfour beattie),

ohohhohohhoh i have it.......... rawplug!

mchammer?

that's progress rj!
I started emailing nm last summer first met him in September. my god that's eight months prob why I'm feeling a bit uncertain, cos don't know where it's going (as if you ever do lol)
must say it has been nice to, er, date, again

have you been with him for hte whole 8m or has it been a bit on and off so to speak?

you guys are all big chickens. bf is just a word. jeeze,.... pull yourself together.

mind you up here we wont say boyfriend unless being formal.

you would call him you bloke/fella/man/etc from first shag throughout up till the marriage stage. boyfriend in my circle is rarely used unless to point towards fact your in exclusive relationship. i.e fending off ugly men " i have a boyfriend", fending off uglier drunk man " see that huge bloke over there...he's my boyfriend"

yeah the whole 8 months, bloody hell
haven't had to fend off men, ugly or otherwise. Few bullocks, or sheep.

does anyone else do the nickname thing on here? i've done it since teenager. most friends i know do this too? helps us keep track when dating? and everyone knows once they get a real name then it's a keeper. although long term FB also get names as in past it has been known to call them by nickname by accident , so they get names too now when over 1 month.

ninah, must admit after 8 months you should have a god idea what your after.... both of you. did you resolve anything from your drunken chat other night? or are you heading down different paths in terms of your wants?

I just think it's too confusing and I know if I was speaking to them I'd blurt out the nickname
mind you if I had a few possibles I might consider it, works well on here

is it not a bit worrying that after so long you dont feel right about calling him a bf?

yup
am crap at relationships

Uuurgh..is anyone else feeling seriously wiped out with this hot weather?

introduce him as your lover