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I hate being a single parent today

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fairyfly · 03/05/2005 16:36

in one of those moods, im sick of it, it stinks, my life stinks, my kids stink, my house stinks, i just want a normal life with a husband looking out for us

Thanks for listening, i am now going to stick my head in a bowl of self pity and gin. I will then wake up tomorrow and be thankful, gracious and optimistic.

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bundle · 03/05/2005 16:37

fairyfly, make sure there's lots of ice & tonic, it's not the same without..sending you lots of virtual support..wish ccould do more

Fio2 · 03/05/2005 16:38

FF you are wonderful. Sorry you feel like complete and utter shite. It hits us all. You can borrow my husband if you like but he farts

bundle · 03/05/2005 16:38

and mine snores

RnB · 03/05/2005 16:40

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LGJ · 03/05/2005 16:41

Fairyfly

I don't know you as well as some of the others on here, bet even I have seen how far you have come since I have been here.

You are strong

You are very funny

And both yourself and QueenEagle had my DH in stitches on Friday on the cat and the football thread.

From what I have read on here you have wonderful children who are a credit to you.

Go out and buy the largest bar of chocolate you can lay your hands on and a crappy magazine.

Tomorrow will be a better day.

Much love

LGJ

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fairyfly · 03/05/2005 16:43

Yeh im fine, im just moaning with my lot, i feel guilty as i shouldn't really. But i just hit a brickwall today of wondering what the hell i am doing and how it all went so wrong. I honestly will be fine tomorrow, i was just using this place to moan for a minute.

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FLUM · 03/05/2005 16:44

your house would stink more if there was a husband in it looking out for you becuase probalby you owuld be washing his clothes while he caught up on the snooker. you would still be doing everything but feeling more hard done by as it is shoved in your face when there is clearly another capable adult around who could do something.

having said that I take my hat off to single parents levels of capability i reallydo

LGJ · 03/05/2005 16:44

That is what we are here for.

Moan away..................................

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fairyfly · 03/05/2005 16:48

if there was a husband in my house, i would walk over to him, kiss him on the cheek, pass him a pinny and say see you in a week

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Thomcat · 03/05/2005 16:56

oh mate. Sorry you feel rubbish today. But listen what's normal aye? I know you want someone to look out for you but at least you haven't got someone scratching their arse in the kitchen, moaning about himself, leaving his socks in the hall, poo stains in the loo, whiskers round the sink, dirty plates on the worktop above the dishwasher, and snoring and farting in his sleep! . I would like to add that I am not talking about anyone in particular here! LOL!
Enjoy your evening of complete control over the remote, no-one to argue with and no-one to share the gin with, it's all yours kid, enjoy!

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fairyfly · 03/05/2005 17:02

I just need to sort myself out, my house is a tip, will be fine once i get back in control. I just started to slip last week as i was knackered and now haven't got back into it. I totally loose it in chaos and that is what i am slowly creting,. Will pull the reins back in.

Your husbands all sound like utter slobs by the way, when im in this mood and bringing up my fantasy husband, he is actually upstiars shouting, darling your bath is ready, no point in sulking otherwise.

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Libb · 03/05/2005 17:15

And he will probably massage your feet just because he feels like it too . . .

You are allowed shitty days, I allow myself at least 6.

We will take care of you toots xxx

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nightowl · 03/05/2005 17:46

isnt it wierd sometimes ff? ive been single for two years now and dont really care but i had this dream the other night and when i woke up i was soooo peed off. all i did was be friends with a guy, fancy him and spend time with him..eventually pulled him but when i woke up it just reminded me of what its like to feel like that!! i got fed up too...hmmm. maybe subconciously i want someone now!? keep wondering why i just cant get a bf! just proves i spose that we all get like that sometimes. nasty feeling to have...(yak). xx

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fairyfly · 03/05/2005 18:04

I realise relationships are never perfect. I just really miss my x today, Not because i love him or want him back. I miss his input, i just really want some help sometimes. Even if he was sat down, just a presence of someone who is responsible for my children also. I do look at married people and wonder why i have to miss out. Things are a constant struggle. Im not one to feel like this for long as i refuse to spend my life in such a negative way. I just occasionally look back at things and feel overwhelmed by the past few years, i dont particularly want to be strong anymore. I want to be looked after.
Dont get me wrong i am very aware that my life is a walk in the park compared to others. I am not for one minute saying look at my terrible life, Im just knackered with it. I want a car, a career a house and a man. It seems that is not the way it is panning out and im sick of trying to grab things and always missing.
I suppose i just have to carry on being patient. Sorry for all the people with genuine terrible problems on here, im rather embarassed at my self pity. Im glad i have it off my chest and feel better already. Nothing like a bit of perspective.

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Libb · 03/05/2005 18:12

yes, but I take long lunchbreaks. Also work on a flexitime scheme . . .

Libb · 03/05/2005 18:14

Like I said FF, you do an amazing job and you let weirdos phone you at stupid hours of the night. Nothing wrong with wanting something else every now and again.

Love you loads xxxx

ediemay · 03/05/2005 18:20

Hi FF, I just wanted to say you sound like a great person with a cracking sense of humour. I too was in tucks over the cat & football, couldn't post anything due to laughing so much. I'd go for the gin, chocs and magazine if you get chance - and a crappy film.

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fairyfly · 03/05/2005 18:27

Thankyou love ladies for your kind posts.

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sunchowder · 03/05/2005 18:35

Oh FF, thinking of you. I do understand. I also was single for a bit, but not with children. This is my second marriage. Rant away, rant away...we are here for you. You had me pissing myself the other day also.

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fairyfly · 03/05/2005 19:41

oh i think i probably may just be in a depressing mood in which i could find anything to blame it on. I need a week away from my kids and a few lie ins. I would love to go on retreat, dettox or yoga, how fabulous would that be. I will have to make my own one. Lots of cleaning tomorrow , then i am going to fill the house with flowers and candles, go to my pilates class and come home and sit in my haven watching trash.

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weesaidie · 03/05/2005 19:56

Awww, lie ins, that is what I miss!

I was supposed to get one on Saturday as dd was at her dads but I had to babysit for my twin brother and sister for the weekend. I had asked my other sister to do Friday night so I stayed up late and then gotten awoken early with phone calls saying my sister hadn't come home and there was no food in the house! Grrrrr.

Sorry you have had a bad day FF, keep your chin up, I am sure you having lovely kids and do a great job, they can be a pain in the arse at times though!

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fairyfly · 03/05/2005 20:05

my sister has just rang and said she is so tired with her kids that she had to ring her husband and get him home from work. Just what i needed to hear, i have now reached the peak of my stinking mood.

weesadie, dont babysit next time!

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Caligula · 03/05/2005 20:06

Sounds like your cheering yourself up already!

We all have days like that. And I think sometimes we're entitled to. Carrying the burden alone is immensely hard work psychologically, not just physically and sometimes it just hits you hard and sends you reeling. On those days I either abandon the house and go window shopping (if the kids are in playgroup/ school) or if they're there, I take them to the park and have a walk round in green - it's always therapeutic. If it's night-time, then it's a bottle of wine and a bath with bubbles! The important thing is that you know how to get up and carry on though - you don't sound at all self-indulgent, you sound immensely practical! In fact, you probably need to do a bit more wallowing!