where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone?[part 8]

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

oh jesus lou
it's turn your phone off time
but then why the hell should you have to?

this is the problem scl - if you aren't exclusive. i would say you cant combine dc with a sport fuck in my book. i would feel thats wrong.

yes it's tricky being the resident parent as it does make having a life beyond the dc difficult
are you going to wait til the b/h to have this convo with him?

god no I wasn't suggesting that. Of course would not have a casual round while while DCS are present?

But in some ways it is easier if you have a fb (is that the same as a sport fuck?) and keep everything separate.

But in this case would say he is slightly more than that but in no way ready to include him in family life.

Its quite tricky I am finding

yes your dc have to come first every time
and i just can't do the fb thing at all i find it too difficult

think I might just need to take the summer off from dating etc {wink}

Maybe I am unrealistic to think that if the right person came along these things wouldn't be issues.

Samename does not really show an interest in kids generally - he seems pretty detached and tho from big family does not have any dns or dns.

yes might wait til the bank holiday to discuss or might ring him but would rather face to face.

oh lol
what are we all like!
tbh i really don't know about the dc thing as have dated men with and without children
i can't and am not planning to have more but who knows if the right man came along?i don't know how i would feel tbh.
why aren't things straightforward?

god yes I am not having any more - am far too old.

I supposee I was trying to say that samenam just doesn't seem to register where dcs are concerned but for someone like my DB who has dated a single parent- kids gravitate towards him and him to them. hee is sort of tuned in to them IYKWIM.

Urgh, I'm pretty nervy and jittery tonight as there's yet another court hearing tomorrow and yet again it could be the one where a decision is made.

As ever I'm worried about XP pulling some nasty trick and coming out with awful stuff that will make me panic.

ASBM life just isn't straightforward is it! How are you bearing?

scl - I think too you are entitled to have that conversation. Perhaps better to wait until you are feeling less hormonal though.

Er, in English, how are you bearing up lol

in what sense does samename not show interest?i do know that you don't witter on about your dc as such here.
and oh your DB sounds ideal for us single mums my DB is very much the same tho married

Hmm scl Imy exbf sounds similar - he was very much not engaged with DS, I think he just simply didn't know how to relate to children.

Thinking about it though, until I had DS I didn't have a clue what to do with them either so I reckon it's not necessarily a bad thing, in and of itself.

well I do witter on about them in RL lol

just doesn't really engage if I do talk about them.

hes very stressed by work atm and did say that its because he doesn't have much else in his life - meaning family I suppose.

janos am rooting for you for tomorrow and am confident it will all go in your favour
and thanks again i'm ok!

if he doesn't have dc then he probably doesn't know what is acceptable to say iykwim. i was like that bc.

but some people just naturally get on with kids. but you tend to find these to be the men who have never really grown up. and not really the best partner. does that make sense.

now i've had kids though i cant seem to shake em off when i go round friends and families houses. they seem to gravitate towards me. i end up being the one on all 4's making animal impressions . ok... i might be enjoying myself a little. and its good excercise.

Thanks asbm

My mum is coming up so at least if all goes horrendously pear shaped I will have some support.

lol rj you obviously have that special something that children love

that's sad to hear,but he obv.has other interests which match yours?
do you think that your dc would like him?

good luck janos.

Thank you rj

can i just be totally selfish and tell you about my day?

this morning i thought i was just shutting down, i fell asleep until 2.30 nearly i think it was

then i found i had loads of missed calls, one of which was from the guy who wants to take me away next weekend, so i called him back and he told me he had borrowed a car to come over to help put the units inside my garage, and to take me for lunch

so i dashed about getting a shower and washing up, then i notice a card from city link saying htey had tried to deliver a parcel (not heard the door when i was sleeping)

i hadnt ordered anything , so no idea what it was

so my friend turns up, shifts the units i couldnt move in about 2 mins, then takes me for lunch

after lunch he comes with me to get some food in for dinner and go get my parcel

which was..... a bottle of champagne and 2 glasses in a case, and no senders name, just a message saying it was for me to help celebrate new positive times!

friend i was with said he didnt send it, exex says he didnt end it, i know my mate v is too tight to send it, so the mystery remains

also a change of plan about the weekends, as dd1 has told me she is out on sat night when i planned to be, so cant meet the guy i was meant to

however my friend who was just here, and wanting to take me away the following weekend, has just asked if i would like to go away this friday night instead, and catch a film

so he is sorting that tomorrow,and letting me know, i will have to sort out seeing the other guy in a few more weeks instead , tho tbh i have had a really nice day with my friend today , and am quite looking forward to friday to see what (if anything) happens

oh bugger i forgot to add that thesp started callong me this evening again, though i didnt answer

it cant be him who sent the champagne because he doesnt have my address

hi lou - must be something in the air - I felt really groggy when I woke up this mornign (after having really heavy sleep and two weird dreams) so have not gone into work as I feel so woolly headed and would be of no use to anyone.

Im sure your sleep yesterday was response to prolonged stress with you exh. Wonder who the chamapagne was from?

def.something in the air as i've woken up feeling a bit meh too
how are you feeling aft.last night's revelations scl?