where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone?[part 8]

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

oh jesus lou
it's turn your phone off time
but then why the hell should you have to?

Not to bad. Sent him a text last night to say thanks for nice day etc etc but nothing back. He just moved house so could be busy or maybe decided thanks but no thanks and has no balls anc wont say anything.

dont fret tis early days yet

I know I know I just have not done this dating thing n so long I feel that I shoudl hand out forms to get feedback.

hahaha!
we've mentioned this on here before
seriously don't worry he might take a couple of days to get back to you
and when he does don't be too quick to reply
he needs to know that llaj has a life and doesnt drop everything at a moment's notice
make him work for that 2nd date lol

llaj - the important things is you went out with another adult. had a good time. that was the number one aim of a date in my book. not so important where it goes after. if you get another date then thats fab. if you dont. och well... plenty of more fish in the sea.

it's all about having fun outside the home and mother role.

if you get too wrapped up in the thought of getting future dates and getting a serious boyfriend then you stop enjoying those dates along the road of a new romance that are fun, exciting, give you butterflies and are interesting.

No not looking for anything. Just trying to remember how do talk to adults. I had a good time which was all I was fter. he wasn't a wierdo, I wasnt sold to white slave traders so all in all it was a good day. Honestly, everyone on here has been soooo helpful. You cannot underestimate how nervous I have been and would not have even joined a site if it wasnt for you lot. The first step to rejoining the human race has been made

yay!
well we're all in this together aren't we?
and yes we've all had diff experiences
but try to be relaxed about it all
what's happ.with the other bloke on pof?

dont be fooled though. we dont have a clue either or we wouldn't be on here either.

asbm - i think this film would be a real winner though. it would be real twist and turn number. or perhaps it should be a mini drama. i think some of the stories need a whole episode dedicated to themselves as a bit complex.

oh hell yes!
think we'd have a few episodes dedicated to us RJ

oh and would have to be shown aft.9pm too

i think my current could make a fab book depending how the end turns out. seriously.... thinbk i should start writing it. hahah

i think so too

bloody hell what happened to my day?

i went back for a nap about 9.30 this morning because i felt so tired and woke up nearly 4 hours later!

and now i have to get a move on because one of those guys is coming over to help me move units and take me for a late lunch, and i have to shower and wash up

slight blip with samename - I logged onto website with the thought of deleting my profile (cos even if it went wrong with him I would be taking a break) and there he was online. (not the first time)

I sent him a text about it - just a couple of lines - he did call straight back to explain. We said we prob need to have a proper discussion about it. Seemed quite unfazed by it all - whilst I was a gibbering wreck.

I feel slightly unreasonable and bit foolish however even if its casual but ongoing I would not be happy about him still looking or shagging other women.

My reluctance to have that conversation has been about being scared I can't offer him what he really wants and also would not want to hurt him at any point as he has been before.

however nor would I want to be played for a fool as I wouldn't be looking for other men IYSWIM.

Great this dating lark isn't it?

Oh dear. I think you are right to want this conversation. Ask outright if he is still looking, if he is, then you need to dump decide if you want to see him again.

Well I'm in the messaging stage with someone from POF. MH, he is from your neck of the woods. It's just what do you do in your spare time stage. Boring and not sure I can be bothered. See how much effort he makes. Think I would rather skip this stage and just meet up and get it over with. lol

thanks eve - if he is still looking then I will tell him I'm not interested in carrying on - we have a mismatch of free time ie he has no parental responisbilities.

scl - i definately think its time you had this convo. you've invested a fair bit in this relationship. dont think your out of line to ask where you stand

eve - keeps you from being bored though so thats good

yes because while I don't know what the future brings I would want anything in the here and now to be exclusive.

It's well known that some men take single parents as an 'easy target'.

Still hate all this though - ie the need to have a talk etc - it just seems like so much effort.

Am hormonal with PMT atm which prob isn't the best time for any convo though LOL

evening all!
scl you have every right for that chat now,needy it isn't,think you've gone far enough now with him to know exactly where you stand and if he doesn't want exclusivity then he shouldn't expect it from you
eve i know the feeling but at least it's keeping you amused!
well nothing happ. with me tho did out of curiosity go onto pof earlier to discover indie with quite a diff.profile altogether lol
jesus i can't believe what a lucky escape i've had

no, ASBM I don't think it's needy either and he knows that I don't have the free time to see anyone else even if I wanted to IYKWIM.

I just saw red and acted on impulse.

Nor am I responsible for the eventual outcome.

I am still not sure whether I can give him what he is really looking for though.

Hope you are alright ASBM

ASBM. I didn't realise you'd joined POF.

no its not at all i think it's perfectly reasonable
tho saying that without wishing to get into the horrible mine field of mind games it might do him good to think he did have reason to believe that you're free scl time doesn't revolve around him iyswim
and god yes the horrible pmt makes this all worse
and yes thank you i'm fine,was chatting to niceguy2 on msn earlier and he thinks that i won't hear again from indie
let's hope so

hi eve no i haven't
curiosity only here to see what that twat might be up to

yes makes me wonder if ultimately worth bothering with it all given realistically my only free time is once per fortnight and the odd night if I use a babysitter.

also wonder if someonee was really right you would integrate them to avoid that.

Its a real problem if you are the resident parent isn't it?