where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone?[part 8]

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

oh jesus lou
it's turn your phone off time
but then why the hell should you have to?

nothing asbm, i've not really been up for any bloke effort recently, have chatted on and off but thats it

llaj - i was 18/20 recently.did me no harm in the dating. never put anyone off.

but agree with the tits out approach

hi all just dropping in - work is manic and still a bit croaky.

Agree 18/20 no problem - confidence is all. Some men prefer curvy women and some prefer slim.

I am short and 16 top and 14 bottom with a tummy and old!! They don't seem to mind on the whole.

ASBM - good luck for Saturday - very exciting.

Ninah - thanks no I don't have a problem with ex having new p (far from it) and as for the his new DCs my only beef is if it impacts negatively on DS1 and DS2.

Just musing over the fact that exbf still wanting to see me even if I am seeing samename. I am a bit tempted I must admit - esp as samename and I have not had any conversation about exclusvity. But practically my free time is an issue.

I can't cut exbf out of my life completely - I feel too much for him - but also would not feel entirely comfortable about seeing two at once. I should be so lucky

scl, i think you should at least see how you and the new one get on for a trial period without exbf cluttering up the scene, despite your feelings for him.

then if you still fancy seeing them both, have a talk about whether or not he expects exclusivity right now , and take it from there

though of course feel free to totally ignore me, i am v much still single, so i may be talking bullshit

oh and as expected, exh has emailed disputing the items i have said no to, all six of them out of hundreds of bits and bobs

i am slightly baffled as to why he says he needs a lawnmower more than we do, when he is in central london in a homeless shelter(or claims to be), and i have a garden to maintain

that's my gut instinct too Lou.

TBH didn't xpect to be in this position because I thought that exbf would bow out.

Has your exh situation gone calm now?

evening all!
llaj and shop have some faith ladies please,and full details of dates expected pronto lol
lou tbh i was waiting for the lawnmower request it's a man thing i think
scl

don't be shocked asbm you almost predicted that this might happen.

no it hasnt, he is arguing some of the SIX things i said no too (out of hundreds of bits and pieces)

he also says he believes me to be lying about the fact i have the computer chair from his studio for the kids to do their homework, as mine broke.

says i have given it to a friend

i have said if one of the tables is a standalone piece and not fitted to walls then he can have it, which is me being reasonable i think

but i bet you he takes me to court for a chest of drawers, a chess set, a lawnmower and an old peeling computer chair

true lol
but think what lou said is worth thinking about maybe

scl are you on msn at any point this evening?

asbm, what will he do with a lawnmower in central london in a homeless shelter?
use it as a taxi service?

oh jesus lou the mind boggles!
but yeah i knew he'd request it

ds1 is on laptop atm but will try to get on.

lou shall I go and bash him over the head for you (don't usually advocate violence). He might be close to my workplace.

SCL, don't do two at once it will mess your head up. lol

Good luck everyone else with their potential dates.

Well so called 'hell week is just about over' one week nicotine free. It's been tough but in the main OK. I know it gets easier from now on. Trying not to put any weight on. ASBM I didn't buy the dress, desperatley looking for some accessories now.

Had an email from an ex of mine, one I used to live with, he might be staying 10 miles away this weekend. OMG not sure if I want to see him. It's been 3 1/2 yrs. Anyway I have plans to go to dinner with mates on Saturday night.

six things , thats all i asked to keep, nothing of any value either, just practical

but no, i am obviously being totally unreasonable in thinking a chess set he already told my kids they can have cos they play on it, a lawnmower that i actually have a garden for, a computer chair he believes i sold but i am using cos my one broke and the kids need to do homework at the pc, a table that afaik is fixed to the wall and made to measure, and a chest of drawers i need for storage because it was originally family stoarge, and my old cupboard is now broken, are things he may be able to fucking concede on

eve, i am sure you know this already, but i found one of the times i stopped smoking (yes i know i do now but i did stop for years), that keeping my hands occupied helped, as well as saying if i still felt like i did in five mins , then i would have a smoke, then when the five mins had passed, giving it another 5 etc, til the craving passed

i knitted lots of things too lol

(bet you didnt have me down as someone who could knit!)

i gave up once for 2 yrs, once for 12 (during having kids) and once for 6months

right now i am a take it or leave it smoker, but if i ever feel like i HAVE to smoke rather than choose to, i will stop again

lou

He is just doing it to be difficult and an arsehole. Lots of sympathy heading your way.

PS My stomach is shocking and that doesn't seem to put off. Not that I have them queuing up but YKWIM.

Thanks for advice Lou. The cravings don't last more than 5 mins so good idea to ride them out. Another reason not to meet up with ex he smokes.

well done eve i know its a tough one to crack
i gave up for years too but started again aft sep.tho not as much and obv.not round the dc
wish i hadn't but it helped lol
lou i really am not surpised,quite frankly from what you've said i was expecting him to ask for the lightbulbs

oh yes another ex
something in the water here?

what is it about ex's and possessions? I mean obv it's not what they are it's what they represent. Am grateful I did not go through this. nm's ex has offered to sell him back their dishwasher tho as his has broken (has been in her garage for a year - I mean, huh?) 'we will have to discuss terms etc' wtf
lost I would try not to go down the ex route if I were you, you start out thinking you can do these things and use the other party as an emotional brake but I have never managed it.
Still with nm tho as he has dumped on me a last minute request for childcare tomorrow night and I am at death's door with cold/manflu. Guess flowers were a soften up measure. Offered lunch on Sat but I said no.
have looked on match to cheer myself up but is like online Borstal atm. With one or two exceptions. Don't worry asbm I will calm down, as usual
Another vote for knitting when giving up cigs, babyclothes here, none wearable sadly

i am deciding to laugh at the stupidity of it all tonight rather than get bothered

i also had to go round to see v and have a serious talk to him about his behaviour and the fact he is drinking more today

i knitted a jumper for my bf who is now my exh, when i gave up lol

that was for 2 yrs

i gave up for 12 yrs when i found out i was pg with dd1(though i wasnt smoking a lot)

i should have seen the signs then

teh day i told him i was pg with her was his birthday

he told me i had ruined his birthday by upstaging him