where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone?[part 8]

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

oh jesus lou
it's turn your phone off time
but then why the hell should you have to?

lou - glad you enjoyed your evening, but I was expecting to hear you had crazy wild sex. Maybe it is just me thinking everyone expects that and I need to grow up.

janos i know exactly what you mean

itm

inthe - the funny feeling is a great sign, sounds positive.

Ok so to update you all on warden. We have been texting tonight and he seems lovely. I'm moving and he has offered to help me with mypacking, and a few days ago offered to come shopping with me as I said I was going shopping.

I have not dated anyone after having dd so am finding it all abit weird to include a man in mine and dd's life, espically as I have only met him afew times.

But maybe I am thinking about things too much and we would just be meeting up as friends and to get to know each other?

But I feel streange to to meet up with a guy with my dd. What are your thoughts on this? Does it seem like a normal thing to do?

Also not sure if I really want him to help with my packing but am trying to think of other things to suggest that we could do together with dd?

lo notoverit, last night wasnt about that, we did that hte other week

yea i thought i remembered you saying something like that so thats why i was expecting more of the same... lol

how old is dd?

nearly 2

holly I think you're right
janos congrats what a relief!
itm funny in your tummy sounds like a bug, glad to hear about your funniness tho!
night all

i think it depends on how you feel wrt him meeting her tbh

2 is young enough that she wont be questioning you about it, as far as she is concerned its just someone mummy knows

but do you feel comfortable enough with him to be around her yet?

night ninah

No I dont think I do really it all seems weird, but he is a lovely guy, we have been chatting on the phone tonight for about an hour and a half and I like chatting to him, were gonna meet up next week.

He said he really likes me and thought I was really beautiful when he first met me but he knew I was with someone so didnt pursue anything.

And he feels abit funny that we slept together as well as it was strange how it happen but he hopes we can make it right....

So yea I feel positive about it now and am looking forward to meeting up with him as do not feel like he will be expecting anything from me...

i wouldnt introduce them just yet then

meet him on your own until you feel ok about it

Yes I think that would be best. Its just when I was speaking to my friend she was saying well maybe warden just thinks you might not have much time to yourself so he is happy to come and see you if dd is there.

But I think I will leave it for now as I dont really like the idea of introducing him to dd.

So at what stage do you all think it is ok to introduce your new man to dc's? I'm not sure if I'm making too big a deal of it all because I wouldn't have any problem introducing a friend to dd, so why should it be a big deal introducing a new man to her?

Good morning everyone,
Hope RJ's having a great time - lucky girl.
Janos - Really pleased for you and at least you are prepared to expect the worst from your ex, just remember even if he starts to act all "reasonable" never let your guard down.

morning everyone!
lou that sounds nice glad you're chilled and yes that phrase is def.yours
ninah what can i say really you can only do what you are doing
janos am relieved to hear
notoverit go with your gut here,but at least he hasn't cut and run aft.sleeping with you
itm
and yes our lovely rj will be there now as she landed around midnight

Hello all - sorry haven't been around but have been going to bed early most nights and am behind and under pressure at work all due to virus. It does seem to be geting slightly better no razor blade throat today and voice slightly better.

Hope RJ is having fun.

notoverit was wondering the same about introducing new P to kids. I agree with Lou go with gut instinct. I always thought I would wait ages but actually rethinking ie they meet other male friends so why shold it be that different.

I did go over to see Samename2 last night (I had actually missed him)and we hope to meet over this weekend. Are also planning a weekend away.

He does still seem very keen.

I have hinted that he is all I can handle atm but we haven't had that chat yet. I need to do it soon. I hope he is not still looking!!!

glad to hear all going well with samename2 from what you say i wouldn't think you need the talk tbh
the virus sounds awful do hope you're being kind to yourself despite the dc and their needs

as much as i care about exex, we arent going to be together , and life has to go on eh?

so i have arranged (kind of, without setting a date) to see the young man who walked through guildford holding my hand, the one i kept getting interrupted with by my drunken nobby best mate

i was talking to him v briefly last night, he is off to madrid today for the long weekend, but was delighted that we would meet up again

still he is a bit young for me really, but nly just, i doubt it will be anything serious ever

ooh a long weekend in madrid that sounds nice
are you putting a brave face on there lou or just taking the view that it's some nice time out?

both probably

but if i am going to get out and meet up with someone else, he is a good choice, because he is not loud, is well mannered, not expecting anything and a bit shy, but also smart and quite funny

plus he laughs at my jokes

well he sounds ideal then
and i guess you're just taking things as you feel is right for you at the time
best way to be imo
and if he doesn't expect too much all the better

yes he is a nice guy who wont be demanding or high maintenance

definitely not a cocky bastard

he sounds just the ticket to take your mind off things with exex, very pleasant
bit young for you where did you find him? betting wasn't online

hes 28 so its the lower age limit i set myself, yes i met him online ages and ages and ages ago, only met up for the first time the week before exex came back though

will broaden my searches if I go back on! had missed this, the thread gets so eventful
I think that would be about my lower limit too, have generally been out with older blokes with exception of a Brazilian who cheered up my 30s
I suppose the drawback of someone a lot younger is that were you to become serious about them the 'exex' dilemma would come into play again
do you ultimately want a long-term committment? it's a question I keep asking myself, sometimes I think I do if only in the interests of clarity. Sometimes I think I'd rather just be on my own or have a series of meaningful friendships