where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 6)

[sincitylover]

thrilled to be kicking off part 6 on a sinful note lol

Blaming the vino for texting samename1 and asking him out - he text right back suggesting early this afternoon but don't think I can make it as am waiting for my brother who is coming down to help me swap washing machines and is always late bless him!

Then had a rather raunchy chat with young guy who have been in touch with for ages - trying to think of a nickname for him - very good looking - lives in your neck of the woods Lou. Think we might meet up soon.

At least resisted the urge to text exbf.

oh i don't know
saying that i do get a tad cheekier when i've had a glass or two
i am always mindful of the time when certain people text me tbh
are you going to knock him on the head then?

i might meet him for lunch and see how it goes, i don't know, am a bit hesitant atm

yes i can understand why
i've reached the point where any doubts i have make me run in the opp.direction regardless
aibu?

update from me

spoke to mr keen on msn last night. We agreed that we got off on wrong foot - our date was like something out of a Mr Bean movie - we might meet again on a more relaxed occasion. We do get on very well on msn.

Have suggested two possible times to meet Tigger so he will soon be bouncing around with enthusiasm about that. He is very enthusiastic - said meeting me was all he could think about

Ditto samename1 (who is so laid back he is horizonta).

Not a peep from exbf so am deciding what to do about him and whether I have the strength to tell him as and when he gets in touch that I can see him anymore.

can't see him anymore

lol at tigger
are you sure you'll be able to handle the exbf situ?

in what way? I am not really handling it now tbh - really wanted to talk to him on mothers day because he lost his own mother to cancer when he was quite young and I know all the current stuff in the news had got to him. But he's gone into one of his cold feet stages and while that's happening I will not contact him.

I am on the verge of telling him I can't handle it. I know he feels something for me (but clearly not enough) and I am convinced (since 1990) that we are right for each other.

There's only so much a girl can take!!!

oh poor man
yes all the recent news does make you think i had school friends who lost their mothers when they were still such young women.
i know just how difficult you find the exbf situ as we've discussed it on here and our other men threads
if things did work out and he wanted to make a proper go of it how would you move things forward?
would you go as far as to admit to wanting to spend the rest of your life with him?

love the idea of men threads

prob I would yes but am sure it wouldn't be easy with the dcs etc. I do feel wary about any new full on r/ship but suppose if it was to be with anyone it would be him.

scl i think you have to get to a point in your head where you just know you have to do something about it, or your head will implode

maybe you are getting there now?

hmm it's a very hard one this
there were some interesting posts on septimus'thread on relationships
it's a truly overwhelming feeling to know that there is someone who is your genuine soulmate but for whatever reason you can't just seem to get it on
and for them to keep on dipping in and out of your life as well is heartbreaking

I have told him it is heartbreaking ie the way he comes and goes (could not bring myself to say I was heartbroken)so he is well aware of my feelings.

Yes Lou I do believe I am getting to that point very slowly. Because I know I am worth alot more than what he is prepared to give me.

I did tell him at Christmas that I was not short of offers (I was rather drunk having just been out for an evening with a friend).

I was wagging my finger at him must have looked hilarious.

do you think that if you were seeing someone else albeit casually you would be sufficiently distracted to not think about him as much?

Hi everyone,
SCL - sometimes it knowing when to cut your losses, and I do hope this situation with exbf isn't holding you back from commiting to other relationships?

maybe it is worth noting that he is aware of your feelings, but is still choosing to ignore them and take what he wants when he feels like it?

painful i know but it does kind of show how he may view you?

it may help you get angry enough to p45 him

yes you're right. I know that. If I do it though I have to mean it and follow through - have had half hearted attempts before and caved in.

ikwym, but something tells me you feel a bit differently this time

yes it is different because he demonstrated the other week he can be in touch every morning and evening if he feels like it.

I am beginning to wonder if he has some sort of mania, nothing has been said and he doesn't seem to be suffering from anything but his contact is certainly that way. His need to see me the other week was as if he was possessed!

Plus situation with exH is making me less and less tolerant of any other drains on my time.

Anyway feel like I am hijacking the thread.

Perhaps Tigger will be a welcome distraction!!

maybe he has some kind of undiagnosed bipolar disorder?

regardless i do think you are getting more resolute in what to do

if you want any speeches written please just ask

thx might take you up on that.

Well need to do something cos otherwise could be sitting here in ten years time saying the same thing.

hopefully not scl - you'll find him when your not expecting.

i am good with words

wtf?! some bloke from turkey just randomly asked to be my fb friend

I have work meeting a bit later with young spanish guy!!!

Lou - male stripper asked me the same thing

clearly i ignored his request!

ooh i know a couple of lovely spaniards, one single over here and one married and expecting over there!