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where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 6)

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sincitylover · 21/03/2009 12:20

thrilled to be kicking off part 6 on a sinful note lol

Blaming the vino for texting samename1 and asking him out - he text right back suggesting early this afternoon but don't think I can make it as am waiting for my brother who is coming down to help me swap washing machines and is always late bless him!

Then had a rather raunchy chat with young guy who have been in touch with for ages - trying to think of a nickname for him - very good looking - lives in your neck of the woods Lou. Think we might meet up soon.

At least resisted the urge to text exbf.

OP posts:
aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/04/2009 18:55

kdk
who knows?
but hey he's obv.not having much joy himself as is forever sitting on that page oflosers hopefuls for hours on end
you know the one with fellas on from all other the country who nobody wants to chat to
so do as inthemist suggests and block then delete
have a nice glass of vino and get back out there tonight!
we've all had setbacks with this
i was chatting to a really hot fella a few weeks ago who gave up on me when he discovered that i couldnt just drop everything and get out and about like him the single 30something dude
i was pissed off for sure but hey it happens i guess

aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/04/2009 18:58

and he was a dude too
he spends all his time actually doing the kinds of things that i want to be out doing
i think he saw two bands i like in one week the lucky git
the most i get to see now are the dc xmas plays

kdk · 09/04/2009 19:01

think I'm going to give it a rest - just logged into smooch - which I do rarely - to find a message from a 24-year-old saying I'm hot (my profile makes it clear I don't do toyboys), got an IM on okcupid from some 34-year-old tosser who I"ve chatted to a couple of times basically asking if I want to f*ck (told him no, at least definitely not with him anyway) ... I just think there's either something wrong with men on the internet or something wrong with my profile ...

vino a good idea though!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/04/2009 19:07

aww.kdk
give it a rest if you feel pissed off with the whole thing i go thru phases myself tbh
i never get younger guys aft.me
its either my own age group
or alot older
the worst was an e-card from a 62yr old married man

kdk · 09/04/2009 19:13

oh I've had one of them, and a couple from some trannies with the most awful dress sense ... oh, and a woman looking for 'new experiences' - not sure why she picked on me though .... could almost wish I was, most of the women posting on this thread seem attractive, intelligent and interesting!

Remotew · 09/04/2009 19:27

kdk, I have the same thing on POF. Most of the men that message me are no hopers. The occasional one whom I reply to are either too far away or worse they tell me they have met someone whilst I've been dithering.

I think its common and not because we are setting our sights too high. At least I hope not or I would prefer to remain single for the rest of my life.

inthemistsoftime · 09/04/2009 19:29

kdk, we have all been there!

asbm was giving me the same chat about having a break a few weeks ago, so I took a couple of days away from the sites and hey presto, things got good.

I think FRD is very hit and miss, I have been stood up by one from there, am often ignored by others, the only one I have got from there thats been any good is marathon man. H e messaged me yesterday to let him know when I was running the next 10k, as he is looking to get back into running, hes currently only riding bikes at the moment, so no pressure then! If I ever did find a race for both of us (lol) I shall definitely have to meet him before hand, I dont look my best after a 10k run!

POF is full of people who wont pay any money and are looking for an easy option, it takes some time to sort through and decide what is rubbish and what is worth persuing. On pof, I tend not to contact anyone but wait for them to contact me, I dont know if it is right but it works for me. But right now my profile is hidden.

I found that once I relaxed and didn't get stessed out about being ignored that it got a lot better, skippy is off pof, hes a really nice guy, likes to chat without any smutty insinuations, he is currently in hamburg seeing his dcs so am only communicating intermittently with him, but it is still working, I am hoping to meet him some time in the near future.

Go open that bottle of wine.

Tortoise · 09/04/2009 19:31

I have just tried to get on Match but i can't. Is it just me?
I deleted my photos off there last night to change them but i forgot pics are on PC not laptop! I find it really hard to find/take a good photo of myself.

Tortoise · 09/04/2009 19:32

Meant to add, i always say i have kids on my profile.

lou33 · 09/04/2009 19:34

i think my profile is too blunt to attract anyone but the brave

Remotew · 09/04/2009 19:37

Lou, with all these young men in your life [confused emotion] you don't need anymore. lol

Remotew · 09/04/2009 19:42

The one I wrote off is on msn now. Think I might be brave and IM him. Wish me luck.

lou33 · 09/04/2009 19:43

they arent in my life, i keep trying to simplify!

i was just sitting on my sofa last night

Remotew · 09/04/2009 20:07

You are innocently lying on the sofa and look what happens. Hope you are better now Lou. DD has been poorly too so I do sympathise.

ridingjoker · 09/04/2009 20:12

tortoise i take a hideous photo too. so bad that friends and family have a running joke about me pulling faces when cameras appear.

so tell me all.... if your all chatting/emailing/texting to someone and they start to use a term of endearment babes/sexy or darling for example..... would you write them off just for that?

Remotew · 09/04/2009 20:48

Was that a general question to all of us RJ? lol. If so then no it wouldn't put me off if everything else was cool.

Who has dared to call you babe?

ridingjoker · 09/04/2009 21:04

it was too all.

just when i read kdk comment about being called sexy.can understand if that was on initial email. but just wondered if you all put off by it.

and actually if i told you all the sickly names i get called off superman you would throw up.

but these didn't start to a week or so into frequent contact.

and diver started calling me some nice terms too pretty early on.

not keen on sexy or anything too orientated around sex.

and i think it depends on who's saying it.alot of the terms used up here ound great with scottish accent. irish guys sound fab too with pet names.

poor you though that put up with brummie terms of "babs" i dont think i'd like.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/04/2009 21:04

RJ
i don't mind at all
tho i hate being called bab
its one of the downsides of living in the midlands
it depends on who's saying it i guess

Remotew · 09/04/2009 21:11

'Bab' hmm I remember that as I had a relationship, living together and everything, with a brummie. Actually he had a really sexy voice. He didn't call me bab but he did his DD.

Sexy, yeah far too much in the early days, don't mind in bed though .

I switched on my cam tonight for a guy I've never met. He said I was georgous. I'm not but then again he couldn't have not commented could he? lol

aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/04/2009 21:13

ooh eve!
doing the old dirty webcam stuff there you naughty minx you

ridingjoker · 09/04/2009 21:15

yeah... we know your a yummy mummy eve... but was he hot?

kdk · 09/04/2009 21:19

if I'd been chatting for a while probably wouldn't bother me - apart from 'hun' which for some reason annoys the f*ck out of me ...

If some munter calls me babe, sexy (or sexi) or anything else first off, it is extremely off-putting to me.

Remotew · 09/04/2009 21:22

lol ABSM how dare you imply such a thing. DD was in the room so no tits out or anything such. He was dazzled by my beautiful smile, apparantley.

Guess what, he is a computer engineer but somehow couldn't set his webcam up just yet. . He looked fit on his photos though but I was a bit put off with the 'Depeche Mode' t shirt. Are they having a revival? he said it was a recent photo. lol

Holly23 · 09/04/2009 21:22

Evening all,

Lou - Hope you're feeling better, I don't know whats going on in your mate's head but its crap you could do without I'm sure and he obviously feels guilty about the money thing.

Kdk - Sorry the hook guy turned out to be a nasty shit twerp, but I'm sure he likes that to everyone and is obviously one of the reasons he's still single - do you think he'll ever understand why? I have sent messages/ winks etc to guys and not had replies. I think when you start to feel down about the whole internet dating thing, its just best to give it a break.

I hate being called sexy in messages from strangers - oh how very dare they!

Remotew · 09/04/2009 21:34

Hi Holly, glad you could pop back in with your advice and experience.

Anyone else working tomorrow? It's a bank holiday but in my industry they don't acknowledge it in fact it's one of the busiest times. I only have to do half a day so not bad and if I hadn't had time off last week I could have taken it as a days leave.

Anyway I digress from the thread but hope no-one minds.

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